Spill the Strawberries: Foster's Struggle with Carrying Too Much

Do We Actually Suck at Compliments?

Do you struggle with receiving compliments? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving and receiving compliments. Why do we have such a hard time accepting praise? And what’s the difference between physical and character-based compliments? Together they unpack how authentic affirmation strengthens relationships and how rejecting a compliment is like rejecting a gift. Foster and Cesar also dive into masculine and feminine energy dynamics in how they exchange words of affirmation. They each share their favorite compliments and how to truly make someone’s day.  In this episode they explore:  * Why rejecting a compliment is the same as rejecting the person giving it * Why physical compliments are the least interesting thing to give (and why) * What happens when you compliment someone on their effort vs. their appearance * How masculine and feminine energy shows up differently in giving compliments If this episode spoke to you, you will love Stop Caring What People Think: The Art of Giving Less Fucks [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stop-caring-what-people-think-the-art-of-giving-less-f-s/id1795211471?i=1000768542940]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Question Everything You've Inherited with Brandon Kyle Goodman

Who would you be if society never got its hands on you? In this expansive conversation, writer, actor, and host of the hilarious podcast Tell Me Something Messy [https://podfollow.com/1766708240] Brandon Kyle Goodman joins Foster and Cesar to discuss ‘disruptive curiosity’, destigmatizing sex, and choosing to be child-free in a society that expects parenthood. Brandon opens up about their new journey on Lexapro, the healing power of talking openly about sex while working on Big Mouth, and the profound decision to not have children despite years of assuming they would. Brandon is both hilarious and wise, as they break down how to live authentically, build community, and break generational cycles by asking the questions no one else wants you to ask, like… aren’t all sports super gay??  In this episode they explore:  * Why Brandon tried on heels to discover what was truly theirs vs. what was inherited * The moment Brandon realized: "I don't want kids" (and how that broke a generational cycle) * The difference between wanting to have kids and wanting to be a parent * Why raising a mixed-race child as a gay couple required questions they couldn't answer Brandon Kyle Goodman [https://www.brandonkylegoodman.com/]:  * Listen to their podcast Tell Me Something Messy [https://www.youtube.com/@brandonkgood] * Subscribe to their Substack [https://substack.com/@brandonkylegoodman] * IG: @brandonkylegoodman [https://www.instagram.com/brandonkylegoodman/] Also mentioned:  * Pamela Samuelson’s Sex Ed class for tweens/teens & Take Back The Speculum: EMBODYWORK [https://embodyworkla.com/] If this episode spoke to you, you will love From Homeless to The Oscars: Dedrick Bonner on Resilience [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-homeless-to-the-oscars-dedrick-bonner-on-resilience/id1795211471?i=1000758402649]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review. It really helps! Reach out to the show! Send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] Editor: Bessie Fong [http://www.bessiefong.com]  Special Guest: Brandon Kyle Goodman [https://www.brandonkylegoodman.com/] This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates [https://www.arlenethornton.com/] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Stop Caring What People Think: The Art of Giving Less Fucks

Why do we care so much about what other people think? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving less fucks, as a source of freedom from needing to control how others perceive you. Despite a world steeped in people-pleasing, our biological fear of being ostracized by the tribe no longer serves us in the age of social media and cancel culture. They ask the question: is it possible to incrementally build the muscle of caring less? They reveal how to balance kindness and truth, why you can't control how someone receives your message, and the power of giving less fucks as a soil bed for boldness and creativity. In this episode they explore:  * The real work: not giving a fuck without anger  * Why caring what people think is a biological fear that no longer serves us * How Foster incrementally desensitized herself to being seen * Cesar's "back pocket fucklessness" and when to access it * How posting daily on TikTok made the flops stop mattering If this episode spoke to you, you will love How to Keep Creating When Your Inner Critic Says You’re Worthless [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-keep-creating-when-your-inner-critic-says-youre/id1795211471?i=1000764008916]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Inside 19 Years of Couples Therapy: What Dr. Molly Burrets Wishes Everyone Knew

Advocate for yourself! Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Molly Burrets discovered a brain tumor after years of doctors dismissing symptoms. This taught her about self-advocacy, meeting herself at rock bottom, and then asking for help. With 19 years of couples therapy experience, Dr. Molly reveals insights on resentment in relationships, the mental load women carry, dating wisdom, and why knowing your worth is the foundation for everything, from advocating in the medical system to building partnerships that actually work. In this episode they explore:  * The exact words to say that make doctors legally required to investigate your concerns * How "having it all" was really just "doing it all" with no peace or ease * The hidden truth about resentment * Why you should never marry someone you wouldn't go into business with * What Dr. Molly uses to make the invisible labor visible  * The dating advice no one talks about Dr. Molly Burrets:  * Connect with Dr. Molly [http://www.drmollyburrets.com] * Listen to her podcast Kissing Frogs [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/kissing-frogs-with-dr-molly-burrets/id1895647149] * IG: @drmollyburrets [https://www.instagram.com/drmollyburrets] Also mentioned: * Eve Rodsky’s book Fair Play [https://www.betterworldbooks.com/product/detail/fair-play-reese-s-book-club-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-9780525541943] If this episode spoke to you, you will love Curiosity Over Conflict: How to Heal Relationships with JJ Brake [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/curiosity-over-conflict-how-to-heal-relationships-with/id1795211471?i=1000730596191]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] Special Guest: Dr. Molly Burrets [http://www.drmollyburrets.com] This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates [https://www.arlenethornton.com/] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Spill the Strawberries: Foster's Struggle with Carrying Too Much

Are you feeling burned out and buried under everything you're carrying? Foster opens up about losing herself in her workload, sacrificing personal joy for potential collective success, and how that pattern affected both her relationship with Cesar and her own vibrancy. They discuss the gendered nature of caretaking and burden-carrying and how women especially take on too much. This conversation is for anyone who feels gray inside from carrying too much, has lost touch with what brings them joy, or needs permission to disappoint others for the sake of finding themselves again. In this episode they explore:  * Why Foster disappeared from the vibrancy of her own relationship * The waiter metaphor that perfectly explains burnout (and why you can't accept help) * How sacrificing current joy for potential future success steals your life * The gendered reality of who carries the burden * Why "let me know if you need anything" doesn't actually help * How to actually help someone who's carrying too much Also mentioned:  * Loonshots by Safi Bahcall [https://www.betterworldbooks.com/product/detail/loonshots-nurture-the-crazy-ideas-that-win-wars-cure-diseases-and-transform-industries-9781250623096] If this episode spoke to you, you will love Why It’s Never Equal [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/why-its-never-equal-gender-roles-and-invisible-labor/id1795211471?i=1000728028406] where we explore gender roles and invisible labor. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]