Attack the Problem, Not Your Spouse

Emasculated Husbands vs Mothering Wives

Why do so many marriages drift into a partner vs. parent dynamic? In this episode of Becoming With The Johnsons, Slater and Shaunica tackle a conversation that is all over relationship discourse right now: mental load, emotional labor, maturity, masculinity, and why some wives feel forced into “mom mode” while some husbands feel disrespected or emasculated. That broader conversation is active across social media, with creators talking openly about invisible household labor, emotional intelligence, and imbalanced responsibilities in relationships.  This episode goes deeper than internet talking points. They break down: * the difference between nurturing and mothering * why age doesn’t automatically equal maturity * how defensiveness, avoidance, and childish habits create resentment * why household responsibility is bigger than chores—it’s about consideration, empathy, and initiative * how cultural ideas about “manhood” can work against real growth in marriage * why comfort can keep you stuck, while nurture pushes you toward maturity This is not a gender-war episode. It’s a call to honesty, ownership, and growth. If you’ve ever felt like: * “I shouldn’t have to ask” * “I feel like I’m carrying too much” * “Why does correction feel like disrespect?” * “How do we stop repeating unhealthy patterns?” …this conversation is for you. Listen in for a real, faith-centered discussion on how to move from resentment and role confusion toward partnership, empathy, and healthy marriage maturity. Connect with us: Website: slaterjoel.com Share this episode: If this episode challenged you, send it to a husband, wife, or couple who needs this conversation. Subscribe & follow: Apple • Spotify • YouTube • Google • Amazon • RSS Connect: Instagram / Facebook: @BecomingWithTheJohnsons | Email: admin@rebuildallthings.com  Support the show: Leave a rating/review and share this episode with a friend who needs courage to let go.

Under Attack: Spiritual Warfare in Our Marriage

In this episode of Becoming With The Johnsons, Slater and Shaunica share a raw, faith-centered conversation about spiritual warfare in marriage—and how it can quietly target intimacy, unity, trust, and peace inside the home. We discuss how spiritual attacks often hide behind “normal” conflict, unhealed trauma, and survival patterns that feel justified in the moment. From inner vows formed in childhood to Jezebel-like tactics such as control, manipulation, and false doctrine, we unpack how the enemy tries to divide what God joined together—and what it looks like to fight back with truth, repentance, prayer, and healing. This episode includes: * How childhood trauma and inner vows can open doors later in marriage * Recognizing controlling/manipulative cycles without shame—so healing can start * Protecting the marriage bed and restoring intimacy through unity and prayer * A candid discussion about pornography, secrecy, and choosing freedom * How spiritual strongholds can affect finances and keep couples stuck in cycles * Applying truth (not “false grace”) to God’s design for sex and covenant If you’ve felt spiritual heaviness, recurring patterns, or confusion around intimacy, this conversation will help you discern the root and take steps toward freedom—with God at the center. 🌐 Website: slaterjoel.com 📘 Shaunica’s book: How My W.E.P.T Became My W.E.E.P: From Brokenness to Divine Assignment https://a.co/d/ghnSZv4 [https://a.co/d/ghnSZv4] 🎥 Watch Episode 4 on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/n_mQgZWvdrI [https://youtu.be/n_mQgZWvdrI] Subscribe & follow: Apple • Spotify • YouTube • Google • Amazon • RSS Connect: Instagram / Facebook: @BecomingWithTheJohnsons | Email: admin@rebuildallthings.com  Support the show: Leave a rating/review and share this episode with a friend who needs courage to let go.

Attack the Problem, Not Your Spouse

In this honest and hilarious episode, Slater and Shaunica get real about one of the biggest struggles in marriage: conflict. When the tension rises, are you attacking the problem... or attacking each other? From surprise cat rescues to deep spiritual reflection, they open up about learning how to fight fair, communicate with love, and let go of the need to be right. You’ll hear:  ✅ How to shift from blame to self-reflection  ✅ Why prayer changes your perspective mid-conflict  ✅ The difference between leading vs. dominating  ✅ Why your tone matters—even when your voice is calm  ✅ How to grow through change (yes, even physical ones 😅)  ✅ And the secret sauce: fun, grace, and humility Whether you’re dating, newly married, or 20 years in, this episode delivers faith-based marriage insight with plenty of laughter and “been there” moments. 📌 Listen, share, and subscribe for more transparent, Spirit-led convos that help you grow—not just together, but closer to God. 🛠️ Resources & More: SlaterJoel.com [https://slaterjoel.com] Subscribe & follow: Apple • Spotify • YouTube • Google • Amazon • RSS Connect: Instagram / Facebook: @BecomingWithTheJohnsons | Email: admin@rebuildallthings.com  Support the show: Leave a rating/review and share this episode with a friend who needs courage to let go.

Release The Past To Walk In Your Future - From Victim To Victor

When yesterday keeps calling, how do you finally move on? In this honest, hope-filled conversation, Slater & Shaunica unpack what it really takes to release the past (church hurt, old habits, shame) and walk into a God-centered future—as individuals and as a married couple. In this episode: * Acknowledge the wound: healing starts with truth * Seek the Answerer, not just answers (spirit–soul–body alignment) * Action after prayer: disciplines that actually change you * From victim to victor: responsibility, repentance, and forgiveness * “Gifts ≠ Calling”: choosing purpose over platform * Detoxing distractions (yes, phone games) and rebuilding holy rhythms * Marriage as a picture of God’s order—leading, listening, and accountability Scriptures & themes referenced: John 4:24; Romans 12; 1 Corinthians 9:27; Matthew 7:21–23; Fruit of the Spirit; prayer & fasting; forgiveness. Subscribe & follow: Apple • Spotify • YouTube • Google • Amazon • RSS Connect: Instagram / Facebook: @BecomingWithTheJohnsons | Email: admin@rebuildallthings.com  Support the show: Leave a rating/review and share this episode with a friend who needs courage to let go.

Discovering Spiritual Gifts w/ The Gifts Institute (Prophetic Foundations & Real-Life Application)

What if spiritual gifts were taught for real-life application—not just head knowledge? In our first episode of the Becoming Podcast, Slater Joel and Shaunica Johnson unpack The Gifts Institute: a new, experiential Christian school focused on hearing God, growing in your calling, and practicing gifts with maturity. We talk: * Why experiential learning changes everything (beyond “just information”) * Prophetic Foundations vs. Prophetic Ascension * Prayers that “move the hand of God” and living by rhema (not only logos) * Humility vs. insecurity in ministry * Who this is for (new believers to seasoned leaders) * 4-week courses, one night a week, evenings in Chesapeake, VA Interested in classes? Search for “Gifts Institute Chesapeake” or "thegiftsinstitute dot com" to find details and registration. New here? Subscribe for faith, growth, and practical discipleship conversations every week. Chapters:  00:00 Intro & why this podcast  03:20 Shaunica’s journey into teaching & prophetic ministry  07:20 What is The Gifts Institute?  10:50 School vs. experiential discipleship  14:40 From knowledge → understanding → wisdom  20:00 Teaching style: loving, honest, accountable  23:20 Who should join?  35:00 Course rhythm (4 weeks, 1 night/week)  36:00 Core classes overview & next steps Subscribe & follow: Apple • Spotify • YouTube • Google • Amazon • RSS Connect: Instagram / Facebook: @BecomingWithTheJohnsons | Email: admin@rebuildallthings.com  Support the show: Leave a rating/review and share this episode with a friend who needs courage to let go.