The Lies we were sold: Life after alcohol

Life, Interrupted: Quiet after Chaos

What happens after you quit drinking—but the noise in your mind doesn’t stop? In this episode of Behind The Blonde, Kirby Myers shares a deeply personal reflection on life three and a half years into sobriety—when alcohol was no longer the problem, yet anxiety, overthinking, and nervous system overwhelm were still running the show. After removing alcohol and other unhealthy coping mechanisms, Kirby hit an unexpected breaking point. What followed was an experience that interrupted the chaos, helped quiet her mind, and reframed what healing can actually look like after sobriety. This episode is not about promoting a single healing modality. It’s about what surfaces after survival mode ends—and why true healing often begins when we finally slow down. In this episode, we explore: * Life after quitting alcohol and what no one talks about * Anxiety, overthinking, and a loud mind after sobriety * Nervous system regulation and the pressure to constantly perform * Healing without fixing yourself * Learning to slow down after years of hustle and survival mode * Finding stillness, clarity, and self-trust Kirby is joined by Jolie Wilson, who explains quantum hypnosis, breathwork, present-moment awareness, and how accessing the subconscious can help quiet the mind and release long-held patterns—without forcing belief or reliving trauma. If you’re sober, sober-curious, or questioning why you still feel overwhelmed after making “healthy” changes, this episode is for you. 👉 Like, subscribe, and share if this resonates. 🔔 Hit the bell to never miss an episode of Behind The Blonde. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace. And above all—breathe.

The Lies we were sold: Life after alcohol

What happens after you quit drinking — when the dust settles and real life begins? In this solo episode of Behind the Blonde, Kirby Myers reflects on an essay she wrote when she was one year alcohol-free, now viewed through the lens of nearly five years of sobriety. What started as a question — can life actually be fun without alcohol? — has turned into a lived truth she never imagined possible. Kirby reads her piece “Goodbye My Lover: A Year Without Booze” and opens up about: *The lie we’re sold about alcohol and fun *Why alcohol was never the fun — just the permission slip *Learning how to socialize, celebrate, and rest as an adult without drinking *Quiet joy, meaningful fun, and choosing depth over chaos *Why life doesn’t get smaller without alcohol — it gets bigger This episode is for anyone who’s sober, sober-curious, or simply questioning the role alcohol plays in their life. No labels. No pressure. Just honesty. If this resonates, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who might need to hear it. Follow along on Instagram: @behindtheblondekw

Choosing Conviction, Accepting the Consequences

Have you ever done the right thing—and paid for it socially? In this episode of Behind The Blonde, I share a moment from high school that shaped the way I move through the world: standing up for someone who couldn’t stand up for themselves, and losing an entire friend group because of it. Back then, I carried fear and insecurity. Now, I carry conviction. This episode is about the power of choosing love, the freedom that comes with age, and understanding that every choice has consequences—but we get to decide which ones we’re willing to live with. If you’ve ever felt isolated for doing what you knew was right, this one’s for you.

Staying Human in a Heavy World

The world feels heavy right now — and many of us are carrying that weight quietly while still showing up for our lives, our relationships, and the people who depend on us. In this episode of Behind The Blonde, I speak honestly about what it means to stay human in overwhelming times. About empathy, moral responsibility, emotional weight, and the quiet ways we try to move through the day when everything feels like too much. This conversation isn’t about having answers. It’s about choosing how we show up. About honoring our capacity. About kindness, compassion, and the unseen work happening behind the scenes — in our homes, our relationships, and within ourselves. I share personal reflections on motherhood, partnership, emotional overwhelm, and the importance of raising and modeling humanity without losing ourselves to fear, anger, or numbness. Some of the most meaningful work doesn’t happen loudly. It happens in small choices, quiet moments, and the way we treat others — even when it’s hard. If this episode resonates, please share it with someone who may need it. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications for new episodes. Follow along on Instagram: @behindtheblondekw Thank you for being here. Keep showing up. Keep choosing.

Friendship is the Foundation, Intimacy is the Baseline

In this episode of Behind the Blonde, Kirby is joined once again by her husband, Britt, for a raw, honest, and deeply intimate conversation about sex, connection, and what it really takes to sustain desire in a long-term relationship. Following last week’s theme of intention and information, this episode goes between the sheets — unpacking why friendship may be the foundation of a relationship, but intimacy is the baseline. Together, Kirby and Britt explore how emotional connection impacts physical intimacy, why sex becomes a barometer for relational health, and how communication (both in and out of the bedroom) is essential for growth rather than regression. From navigating insecurity, body image, and ego, to dismantling shame around sex, porn, and performance, this conversation offers both the female and male perspective on why intimacy is far more mental, emotional, and vulnerable than we’re often taught. They talk openly about frequency, spontaneity vs. scheduling, the role of sobriety, eye contact, foreplay, reassurance, and the power of simply feeling seen and desired by your partner. This episode isn’t about doing it “right.” It’s about doing it intentionally — with curiosity, honesty, and compassion. If this conversation made you feel seen, challenged, or slightly uncomfortable… good. That’s intimacy.