You're Forgiving the Wrong Person

You're Forgiving the Wrong Person

There is at least one moment in every person’s life where they say the right things out loud, but silently believe something completely different. Usually, it’s harmless—like saying you’re "fine" when you’re actually a ball of stress. But sometimes, it’s about the grudges we hold.  We all keep a list of the people who have wronged us, waiting for apologies that may never come. But in this episode of Better Beliefs, we uncover a different, older list—the one with our own name on it. It's the tally sheet of our regrets, our shame, and the times we didn't show up for ourselves.  Joining the show is author, podcast host, and spiritual coach Rachel Harrison. Rachel shares her powerful personal journey through a chaotic family dynamic, codependency, and alcoholism, detailing the exact moment she realized that healing her life didn't start with changing the people around her. It started in the mirror.  In this episode, we explore: * The Trap of Transactional Forgiveness: Why waiting for an apology keeps your peace of mind hostage.  * The Physical Toll of Resentment: Fascinating data from the Stanford Forgiveness Project on how holding grudges literally makes us sick.  * What Codependency Really Is: Understanding how "control disguised as love" drains our energy.  * Spiritual Forgiveness: How to take the judgment off your past so you can finally step into your present.  * The Power of Self-Compassion: Why beating yourself up at 2:00 AM doesn't protect you—it just keeps you stuck.  The person you are becoming can't meet you halfway until the person you used to be stops blocking the road. It’s time to put down the weight you were never supposed to carry forever.  ✨ CONNECT WITH RACHEL: * Read her book: Grab a copy of Rachel's best-selling book, Recover Your Soul, on her website: https://www.recoveryoursoul.net/ * Listen & Learn: Check out Rachel’s podcast and explore her coaching programs: https://www.recoveryoursoul.net/ 🎵 SHOW CREDITS: * Written, Edited, & Produced by: Brent Kocal * Show Ownership: Better Beliefs is owned by 6350 Ventures  * Cover Art: Jenny H Designs  * Original Opening Music: Lonely Ramblers  * Additional music credits: * "Space Time Thought" by CTRL-S * "Lu sciccareddu" by TEO * "Orange Lullaby" by Nitzan Rom * "Above the Clouds" by Theater of Delays * "This Must Be Love" by Rynn * "Oh Yeah, Life" by Just for Kicks * "Contemplative Question" by The Tennessee Pistols SUPPORT THE SHOW: If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, review, and share it with someone who needs to practice a little self-forgiveness today.  Watch the Video Version of This Episode: https://youtu.be/T_OOTCt5Bmk

When Life Destroys Your Plans (But Saves Your Life)

Have you ever fought with everything you had to prevent a disaster, only to watch it fall apart anyway?  We spend our entire lives trying to control our circumstances, engineer perfect safety nets, and avoid "bad" outcomes. But what if the very thing you are running from is the exact catalyst you need to break through to the next level?  In this episode, we unpack a powerful story about the illusion of control and the hidden gift of forced transformation. We explore why our greatest moments of growth, resilience, and clarity rarely come when things go perfectly—they come when life completely wrecks our plans.  If you are currently navigating a setback, a failed project, or an unexpected detour, this episode is a roadmap to shifting your perspective and uncovering the hidden path forward. Inside this episode, you’ll discover: • The psychological trap of trying to control the uncontrollable. • Why hitting rock bottom often provides the solid foundation you were missing. • A framework for turning unexpected detours into your greatest competitive advantage. Connect with the Community: • Subscribe to the show so you never miss an episode. • Enjoyed this story? Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it’s the single best way to help us reach more people who need to hear this message. • Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qkgnd1gAiho Connect with the guest in this episode, Angela: https://www.healingenergy.world/

Why Nothing In Your Life Is Actually Random

What if every "coincidence" you've ever had wasn't actually a coincidence? What if the chance encounter, the wrong turn that turned out to be the right one, the person you ran into three times in one week — what if all of it was part of something? Something you agreed to before you were even born? In this episode, Brent sits down with Catherine Crestani — a channeler, intuitive, and former speech pathologist who now helps people read the language of their own lives. Through her stories — including the time she broke the same toe three times in three months before she finally got the message — we explore the possibility that nothing in your life is actually random. We dig into Carl Jung's idea of synchronicity, the 2,500-year-old wisdom of the Bhagavad Gita, and the Buddhist concept of "hidden potential" — the idea that events themselves are neutral, and we're the ones who decide what they mean. The question we sit with: Can we truly direct our lives in the direction we want them to go? Or are we doing our best to navigate the inevitable flow of life on life's terms? By the end, you might start paying attention a little differently. __________________________________ Music Credits: "The Tides" by Tom Meria Armony "Teo" by Lu Sciccareddu "Parallel Dimension" by Onyx Music "Above The Clouds" by Theater of Delays "Writing On The Wall" by Rachel Gonzalez "Lift" by Starlux "Contemplative Question" by The Tennessee Pistols

What Your Gut Is Trying To Tell You — And Why You Can't Hear It

We've all felt it. That nudge. That tightness in the chest before we walk into a room. That feeling that says don't do this — right before we go ahead and do it anyway. We call it a gut feeling. Then we override it. And weeks later, when the mess shows up, we say the same thing every time: I knew it. So what is intuition, really? Where does it come from? And why is it so hard to trust? In this episode, Brent sits down with Peggy Oberthier — a medical intuitive and energy channeler from Australia — who spent five years as a teacher in a juvenile detention center before a prison riot, a dark night of the soul, and a chance session with another intuitive completely changed the direction of her life. Peggy unpacks the difference between intuition and fear, why most people block their own inner knowing without realizing it, and the one thing she says almost everyone gets wrong about hearing the signal: you can't think your way to it. You have to feel it in your body first. We get into source energy, superconsciousness, shadow work, spiritual bypass, and what it actually looks like to get out of your own way long enough to hear what's already there. If you've ever wondered whether that voice in your head is really yours — or whether something bigger is trying to reach you — this one's for you. Connect with Peggy: https://www.peggyo.com.au/ [https://www.peggyo.com.au/] -------------------------------- Music Credits "Everlasting Flower" by Dani Ha Dani "Blackbard" by Vakna Sal "Untouched Valley" by Inon Zur "Eternal Recluse" by Kyle Preston "Budham Sharanam Gaccami" by Yotam Agam "Burning Silence" by Roie Shipigler "A Journey's Epilogue" by Yahezkel Raz

The Lesson Hidden In Every Person You'll Ever Meet

What if every person you've ever met has been trying to teach you something — and the only thing standing between you and that lesson is whether you were willing to look? Romona Koehler is a yoga teacher and spiritual seeker who walked out of a strict religious upbringing at sixteen, joined the Marine Corps, and spent the next few decades slowly unlearning everything she'd been told to believe. What she found on the other side was something much simpler — and much harder — than any doctrine: get quiet, strip away the stories, and pay attention to the people in front of you. In this episode, Romona talks about what it really means to be a teacher, why the best ones never try to teach anything, and what happened when she sat alone with her dying mother and became, in her own words, someone she didn't recognize. If you've ever felt like you're searching for meaning in all the wrong places, this one's for you. __________________________________ Music Credits: Hearts Ease by Roie Shipigler Sea Level by Buddha Kid Like a Bird by Letra Floating by DaniHaDani Dream Life by DJ Taz Rashid Venus by Alton Peretz Eternal Recluse by Kyle Preston Contemplative Question by Tennessee Pistols