Beyond Horizyns
Identity Shifts: Who Are You Becoming? Hosted by CJ Sugita-Jackson, PhD Think about who you were five years ago. Not just what you looked like or what job you had ... but what you believed, what you feared, and who you thought you were supposed to be. Now look at who you are today. Are those the same person? For most of us, the honest answer is not really. And in this episode, we go deep on why that is not only normal ... it is necessary. In one of the most personal and universally relevant conversations Beyond Horizyns has ever hosted, CJ Sugita-Jackson, PhD explores the science, the ancient wisdom, and the very real human experience of identity in motion. Because every single person listening right now is in the middle of becoming someone, whether you can feel it clearly or not. From Heraclitus and the Buddhist concept of anatta (non-self), to Ubuntu philosophy and Indigenous rite-of-passage traditions, wisdom cultures across millennia have understood something that modern Western life actively resists — the self is not a destination. It is a river you are always moving through. The science confirms it. Developmental psychologist Erik Erikson showed us that identity continues evolving across the entire human lifespan. Neuroscientist David Eagleman describes the self as a story the brain tells about itself — a narrative that can be revised. And Harvard's Susan David, whose landmark research on emotional agility has reshaped modern psychology, shows us that the ability to sit honestly with difficult emotions is not weakness. It is the most direct path to genuine growth. This episode also goes deep on something that deserves more honest conversation: toxic positivity — and the very specific way it freezes identity in place. When we use the language of spiritual wellness to avoid honest self-examination, we do not just stay emotionally stuck. We build an entire identity around the avoidance itself. CJ unpacks why protecting your peace and avoiding your growth are two very different things — and why knowing the difference may be the most important discernment work any of us can do. We explore what happens to relationships when you change — why the people closest to us sometimes resist our evolution the most, and what John Gottman's decades of relationship research tells us about conflict, repair, and the connections we may have written off too soon. Not every distance is permanent. Approaching a strained relationship with curiosity about who that person has become, rather than certainty about who they were, opens a door that judgment keeps closed. The episode closes with five research-grounded, tradition-rooted practices for navigating identity shifts with clarity and compassion — including an emotional agility framework, an identity inventory journaling practice, and a reflection on the grief that real transformation always carries with it. You are not erasing who you were. You are building on it. This episode also features a quick tip from Tea4Peace TranquiliTea Lounge on how L-theanine supports the calm, alert nervous system state most conducive to honest inner work, and a brief preview of the Horizyns platform launching in 2026. www.Tea4Peace.org Beyond Horizyns is where holistic wellness, ancient wisdom, modern science, and honest human conversation meet. New episodes weekly. Show notes, research references, and recommended reading available at www.BeyondHorizyns.com Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2602624/support]
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