Ep 176: Be Your Own Ride Or Die

Ep 176: Be Your Own Ride Or Die

Marie is back from a week in the Catskills (and a stroll down the High Line) and diving into a concept that keeps showing up everywhere in her life — in her therapy, at the retreat she just led, in her coaching groups, and in the books she's been reading. When she mentioned it in both the Bloom Room and Moxie, the room lit up. So here it is. The idea is simple and radical: the person who should be your ultimate ride or die isn't out there. She’s you. We start with talking about how parents are doing in the transition between the school year and summer, how to  What you'll learn in this episode: * What it actually means to be your own ride or die — and why Marie sees it as the heart of living from your Moxie * How to protect your time and energy through regenerative design — and why access to you is something people earn, not automatically receive * Why living authentically (even when it's uncomfortable) is one of the most powerful forms of self-loyalty * What "shame slaying" is and how radical honesty robs shame of its power * How to be a cycle breaker — and why you probably won't get positive reinforcement for it (and why that's okay) * The difference between loving someone and giving them an all-access pass to your time and energy * How to be the compassionate observer of yourself when you're struggling — and what the "I got you" energy really looks like from the inside out Mentioned in this episode: * The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck * The Limit Does Not Exist by Shoshana Raven * The Time Whispering course (now available for purchase) * The Love and Moxie course (now available for purchase) * The Moxie Mastermind — and the June 25th Mixer in San Diego * Find Marie at dothebloom.com or @the.bloom.coach on Instagram How to connect with Marie: * On the Web | The Local Bloom [https://www.thelocalbloom.com/] * Instagram: @the.bloom.coach [http://www.instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] * All Things Marie on LinkTree [https://linktr.ee/thebloomcoach] JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM! We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach [https://instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Ep 175: The Triumvirate of Belief

You can have a bulletproof work plan. You can take massive action every single day. You can believe in the impact your idea will have once it's out in the world. And you can still stay completely stuck — or keep repeating the same frustrating patterns without understanding why. In this episode, Marie introduces one of her favorite client exercises, rooted in the regenerative design process: the Triumvirate of Belief. It's a framework that examines the three essential parts of bringing any idea into the world — you, your idea, and the people who will receive it — and surfaces the hidden beliefs that are quietly running the show. In This Episode Marie digs into why belief work isn't just about believing in yourself — it's about examining what you believe about all three players in the regenerative design process. When any one of those beliefs is off, sneaky, or sitting just below the surface of your awareness, it will find a way out. It will sabotage your action, stall your momentum, or keep you spinning your wheels in confusion. This isn't abstract or theoretical. Marie walks through how the Triumvirate of Belief shows up across the real areas of life where we're most often trying to make change: * Relationships — and the ideas we have about how to improve them * Business, entrepreneurship, leadership, and careers — and what we believe about the ideas we're putting into those spaces * Habit change and personal health — and what's really running the show when we can't seem to make a change stick Then she shares the exercise itself — a simple, practice you can apply anytime, to any idea, in any area of life. It's the exercise Marie's Moxie Mastermind students recently called one of their favorites, and once you try it, you'll understand why. The Three Parts of the Triumvirate 1. Beliefs About Yourself What do you actually believe about who you are, what you're capable of, and whether you deserve to put this idea into the world? These beliefs set the ceiling — or the sky. 2. Beliefs About Your Idea How do you really feel about what you're creating or pursuing? Is it good enough? Is it ready? Is it worth people's time, money, and attention? Your hidden beliefs here will show up in how — or whether — you share it. 3. Beliefs About Your Audience What do you believe about the people who will receive, use, buy, or be changed by what you're putting out? Do you trust them? Do you believe they want what you have? These beliefs shape everything about how you show up for them. The Practice A belief that lives under the surface doesn't stay there. It sneaks out and undermines everything you're building — in your relationships, your work, your health, your leadership. The only way through is to look directly at it. This episode's exercise is simple enough to do right now and powerful enough to change everything. Once you can see your beliefs clearly across all three areas, you can start replacing the ones that aren't serving you with thoughts and perspectives that actually move you forward. Mentioned in this episode * The Regenerative Design Process — Bloom Your Mind Podcast * Regenerative Thought Cycles - Bloom Your Mind Podcast  * Bridge Thinking — Bloom Your Mind Podcast How to connect with Marie: * On the Web | The Local Bloom [https://www.thelocalbloom.com/] * Instagram: @the.bloom.coach [http://www.instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] * All Things Marie on LinkTree [https://linktr.ee/thebloomcoach] JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM! We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach [https://instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Ep 174: Three Ways to Get Present, No Matter What's Happening Around You

What if the secret to your best work isn't trying harder — it's allowing more? In this episode, Marie shares a personal story from a recent retreat where she made a counterintuitive choice: instead of preparing by drilling her content, she prepared by protecting her energy. The result? The best coaching of her life. And it happened because she got deeply, radically present. This episode is a practical toolkit for getting present — no matter how wild and chaotic the world around you is What you'll hear in this episode: * The retreat experience that changed how Marie thinks about preparation, performance, and presence — and why she coached better by trying less * Why presence isn't about turning off your brain or your expertise, but about partnering with the parts of yourself you can't logically name * Three tools you can use anywhere, anytime — whether you're in a hard conversation, a chaotic day, or facilitating a room full of people The three tools: 1. Grounding A quick practice (can take 2 minutes or 10 seconds) using breath and visualization to root yourself, release what you don't need, and invite in the energy you want. Great for clearing other people's noise out of your system and filling back up with your own vibe. 2. Focus Out When self-consciousness or self-doubt creeps in, the answer isn't always to go deeper inward — sometimes it's to become a field of presence looking outward. Curiosity. Observation. Loving awareness.  3. The Body Anchor Learn the physical sensation your body produces when you're truly present — that specific buzz, that particular feeling — and use it as an anchor you can return to anytime. Your body has its own language. This tool is about learning to understand it and learning to speak it. Mentioned in this episode: * Moxie Mastermind + the Moxie Morning Routine (where Marie teaches her full meditation practice) * Walden by Henry David Thoreau How to connect with Marie: * On the Web | The Local Bloom [https://www.thelocalbloom.com/] * Instagram: @the.bloom.coach [http://www.instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] * All Things Marie on LinkTree [https://linktr.ee/thebloomcoach] JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM! We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach [https://instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Ep 173: Let’s Go Bias Hunting

Your brain isn't broken — it's just running very old software on a very modern life. And honestly? For the savanna, it was excellent software. For navigating your inbox, your relationships, and the story you tell yourself about whether you're actually making progress? Less so. In this episode, we dig into five cognitive biases that quietly shape how you see yourself, make decisions, process hard things, and stay stuck. Not in a "you're fundamentally flawed" way — in a "oh wow, this explains SO much" way. Because these biases aren't signs of weakness or low intelligence. They're universal. Researchers who study them have them. Highly successful people have them. Your most clear-headed friend has them. The difference is just whether you can see them running. So let's see them. What you’ll learn on this episode:  * Expectation bias — Your brain is basically a hypothesis-confirming machine. Whatever you already believe about a situation (or yourself), it will dutifully find evidence for. This is why you can walk into the same meeting with different expectations and come out with completely different interpretations of what happened. We talk about how this shows up in self-perception specifically — and how our expectations about ourselves can become the very filters that make them feel true. * Attribution bias — This one is a whole family of related tendencies, and it explains so much conflict and self-criticism. The short version: we judge other people by their character and ourselves by our circumstances (when things go wrong) — and then flip it when things go right. There's also a sneaky cousin called hostile attribution bias, where we interpret ambiguous behavior from others as intentionally unkind. Spoiler: they probably just had a bad morning. * Negativity bias — The one that causes the most unnecessary suffering, full stop. Your brain is structurally wired to weight negative experiences roughly twice as heavily as positive ones. One critical comment, one bad day, one public stumble — and your nervous system is taking notes in permanent marker while your wins get written in pencil. This isn't a mindset problem. It's evolution. And once you understand it, you can actually do something about it (hello, proof practice). * Status quo bias — Why do we stay in situations that aren't working? Why does change feel so risky even when staying is also a risk? This bias is the culprit. Your brain frames the current state as neutral and any change as loss — which means inertia gets disguised as wisdom. We talk about the one question that cuts right through it. * The availability heuristic — You judge how likely or true something is based on how easily you can think of an example. Vivid, recent, emotionally charged things feel more real — which means your most memorable failures feel like better predictors of your future than your quieter wins. We break down why this matters for how you tell your own story. All five of these biases share a throughline: your brain is optimizing for survival and efficiency, not for accuracy, growth, or joy. The work isn't to fight it — it's to develop a real relationship with it. To learn its patterns. And to build the practices that help you work with your neurology instead of being unconsciously run by it. How to connect with Marie: * On the Web | The Local Bloom [https://www.thelocalbloom.com/] * Instagram: @the.bloom.coach [http://www.instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] * All Things Marie on LinkTree [https://linktr.ee/thebloomcoach] JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM! We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach [https://instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Ep 172: The Five-Way Mirror

What if the world around you — the people in your circle, the environments you spend time in, your subconscious mind, and the face in your bathroom mirror, - was constantly trying to show you something about yourself? In this episode, Marie explores five powerful ways that mirrors show up in our lives, and how we can use each one intentionally to elevate who we're becoming. The Five Mirrors 1. New Environments as Mirrors Stepping into an unfamiliar room, city, or community shows you things about yourself that your regular environment can't — because your usual environment has you on autopilot. While our everyday life reflects the choices, ways of being and circumstances of the past, we can choose environments that mirror back possibility for the future instead. 2.  Social Circles as a Mirror The people around you reflect back who you are — your beliefs, your habits, your ceiling. Choose to put yourself in circles that reflect back the possibility of the future you’re building, and reflect back your best qualities instead of your worst. Your circle is data. 3. Being a Mirror for Other Women There's a shadow that runs through how women relate to each other in our broader culture: comparison, competition, subtle diminishment. Marie talks about what that shadow looks like, why it persists, and how each of us can consciously become the antidote — the good medicine that calls out something better. When you show up authentically — fierce, honest and playful — you give other women permission to do the same. We have more power to reflect possibility back to each other than we often realize. 4. Your Subconscious Mind as a Mirror Your subconscious is constantly reflecting your deepest beliefs back to you through your results, your patterns, and what you keep creating in your life. Learn to prime your mind to mirror back the future, instead of the past.  5. The Literal Mirror Your actual reflection. How you relate to it, what you think when you see it, and how to use images of your younger self and the face you see when you look in the mirror to bring out the best in you.  You'll Love This Episode If... * You've been thinking about the quality of your relationships and whether they're calling you up or keeping you comfortable * You want to be a more powerful, positive presence in the lives of the women around you * You're curious about what your own patterns and results might be trying to tell you * You're ready to see yourself — all of yourself — more clearly Ready to Experience This for Yourself? The Moxie Mastermind is where women come together to do exactly what this episode is about — reflect the best in each other, tell the truth, and make their ideas real, one after another.  If you're ready to be in a room (or a retreat) with women who will mirror back your highest self and hold you to it, apply to  the Moxie Mastermind and save your spot! How to connect with Marie: * On the Web | The Local Bloom [https://www.thelocalbloom.com/] * Instagram: @the.bloom.coach [http://www.instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] * All Things Marie on LinkTree [https://linktr.ee/thebloomcoach] JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM! We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach [https://instagram.com/the.bloom.coach] to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!