Parallel Parenting: A Structured Approach When Co-Parenting Isn’t Working

Why Divorce and Family Conflict Can Worsen Screen Dependence in Children

Episode Summary: In this episode of Bridging the Gap, Law, Therapy, and Justice, host Caitlin Burgess, an attorney and licensed marriage and family therapist, is joined by Virginie Goldstein, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Tech Connect Reset. They delve into the complex relationship between divorce, family conflict, and children's screen use. Virginie discusses her work with children and families to address problematic screen use, emphasizing the importance of understanding underlying issues like anxiety, depression, and ADHD. The conversation highlights how high-conflict divorces can exacerbate screen addiction in children, as they seek control and escape through digital means. Caitlin and Virginie explore the emotional turmoil that drives excessive screen use and the critical need for consistent parenting strategies across households. This episode provides valuable insights for parents navigating the challenges of screen addiction in the context of family stress, offering practical advice for fostering healthier screen habits and emotional regulation in children. Key Timestamps: 00:01 – Introduction 00:11 – Exploring Law, Therapy, and Forensic Practice 00:59 – Impact of Divorce on Child's Screen Use 03:04 – Addressing Problematic Screen Use 04:09 – Underlying Issues Behind Screen Use 05:31 – Family Conflict and Screen Time 06:27 – Emotional Escape through Screens 08:09 – Signs of Screen Addiction 10:12 – Dopamine and Screen Use 12:04 – Consistency in Parenting Across Homes 13:20 – Lack of Structure and Screen Use 14:42 – Signs of Emotional Stress in Screen Use 16:21 – Parental Awareness and Child Connection About the Show: Bridging the Gap, Law, Therapy, and Justice is a podcast dedicated to exploring the intersection of legal practice, therapeutic approaches, and forensic work, particularly in family law. Hosted by Caitlin Burgess, an attorney and licensed marriage and family therapist, the show provides a unique perspective on how legal and therapeutic disciplines can work together to address complex family dynamics. Each episode features expert guests who share insights and strategies for navigating high-stress situations, offering listeners practical advice and a deeper understanding of the emotional and legal challenges families face.

The 4 Skills That Help Families Manage High-Conflict Divorce

Episode Summary: In this episode of Bridging the Gap: Law, Therapy and Justice, host Caitlin Burgess, a licensed marriage and family therapist and attorney, is joined by Bill Eddy, a clinical social worker, attorney, and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. They delve into practical skills for managing high conflict family law situations, focusing on reducing the impact on children. Bill introduces the New Ways for Families approach, which addresses unmanaged emotions, all-or-nothing thinking, extreme behaviors, and blame preoccupation. The discussion highlights techniques like taking breaks, using affirmations, and employing the BIF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) method for communication. The episode provides valuable insights for parents and professionals in family law and mental health, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and flexible thinking to create better outcomes for children. Key Timestamps: 00:01 – Introduction 00:29 – Guest Introduction: Bill Eddy 01:26 – Stopping the Conflict Cycle 01:55 – New Ways for Families Approach 02:38 – Managing Emotions 03:42 – Preoccupation with Blame 05:13 – Practical Skills for Parents 07:01 – Neutral Support Systems 08:00 – Flexible Thinking 10:00 – Moderate Behavior with BIF 11:39 – BIF Model in Practice 13:17 – Importance of Self-Checking 14:14 – Impact on Children 17:07 – Incorporating Skills in Professional Practice About the Show: Bridging the Gap: Law, Therapy and Justice explores the intersection of law, therapy, and forensic practice in high conflict family law cases. Hosted by Caitlin Burgess, a licensed marriage and family therapist and attorney, the podcast provides listeners with insights into managing complex family dynamics. Each episode features discussions with experts who share practical strategies and approaches to help families navigate legal and emotional challenges. The show aims to equip listeners with the knowledge to improve family interactions and outcomes, fostering a deeper understanding of the legal and therapeutic aspects of family law.

How Parents’ High-Conflict Emotions Spread to Children in Divorce

Episode Summary:  In this episode of Bridging the Gap, Law, Therapy and Justice, host Caitlin Burgess, a licensed marriage and family therapist and attorney, is joined by Bill Eddy, a clinical social worker, attorney, and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. They delve into the complex dynamics of high conflict divorce, focusing on how intense emotions can permeate family systems and affect children. Bill explains the contagious nature of emotions within families and how children absorb these emotions, often leading to behavioral changes and strained relationships with parents. The discussion highlights the importance of self-management skills for parents and the role of empathy in supporting children through these challenging times. This episode provides valuable insights for parents, therapists, and legal professionals on managing emotional intensity and fostering healthier family interactions during divorce. Key Timestamps: 00:01 – Introduction 00:23 – Exploring High Conflict Divorce 00:59 – Emotional Contagion in Families 02:14 – The Role of Self-Management in Divorce 03:00 – Children's Emotional Absorption 04:06 – High Conflict Emotions and Children 05:02 – Unawareness of Parental Impact 05:47 – Emotional Dynamics Shaping Behavior 07:10 – Children's Stories and Emotional Influence 08:06 – Stress of Divorce on Children 09:02 – Signs of Emotional Weight in Children 10:23 – Empathy's Role in Support 11:01 – Repairing Emotional Damage About the Show:  Bridging the Gap, Law, Therapy and Justice is a podcast dedicated to exploring the intersection of law, therapy, and forensic practice. Hosted by Caitlin Burgess, a licensed marriage and family therapist and attorney, the show delves into complex family law cases where emotions run high and children are deeply impacted. Each episode features expert guests who provide insights into managing conflicts and fostering healthier family dynamics. With a focus on clarity and empathy, the series aims to equip listeners with practical strategies for navigating the legal and emotional challenges of family law.

Trauma-Informed Parenting Plans: Building Schedules That Help Children Feel Safe

Episode Summary: In this episode of *Bridging the Gap: Law, Therapy and Justice*, attorney and licensed marriage and family therapist, Caitlin Burgess, delves into the importance of trauma-informed parenting plans. She highlights how these plans prioritize a child's safety above all else, considering factors like transitions, developmental stages, and individual needs. Caitlin emphasizes the need for customized, phased adjustments based on evidence and research to support children's emotional well-being and stability. Key Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 01:30 – Core principles guiding trauma-informed parenting plans 03:15 – Addressing heightened sensitivities to transitions in children 05:45 – Importance of supervised transitions in cases of abuse or conflict 07:20 – Reframing customization as support, not favoritism 09:10 – Illustrative situation showcasing the benefits of trauma-informed adjustments 11:30 – Tailoring plans to children's individual developmental stages and needs 13:45 – Practical considerations like sleep routines, medical care, and school routines 16:00 – Pacing changes in the schedule based on a child's response and stability 18:30 – Signs indicating the need to reconsider the current parenting plan structure About the Show: *Bridging the Gap: Law, Therapy and Justice* explores the intersection of law, mental health, and forensic practice to support families and professionals in understanding and navigating complex issues affecting children during and after litigation. Join host Mike Leon and featured guests like Caitlin Burgess as they offer valuable insights and expertise in creating trauma-informed solutions for families.

Parallel Parenting: A Structured Approach When Co-Parenting Isn’t Working

Episode Summary: In this episode of *Bridging the Gap, Law, Therapy, and Justice* Attorney and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Caitlin Burgess, delves into the concept of parallel parenting as a structured model to support children in high-conflict situations where traditional co-parenting is not feasible. She explains the differences between parallel parenting and co-parenting, signs a family may benefit from this approach, and how reducing parental contact can enhance a child's sense of security. Key Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 01:30 – Differentiating Parallel Parenting and Co-Parenting 03:45 – Signs that Signal the Need for Parallel Parenting 06:20 – Benefits of Reduced Parental Contact for Children 08:45 – Transitioning to Parallel Parenting as a Temporary Solution 11:15 – Courts' Strategies to Reduce Conflict in Parenting 14:30 – Helping Parents Embrace Parallel Parenting Without Feeling Like Failures 17:00 – Establishing Consistent Routines for Children in Parallel Parenting 19:30 – Conditions for Transitioning Back to Co-Parenting 22:10 – Considerations for Choosing Between Parallel Parenting and Co-Parenting About the Show: *Bridging the Gap, Law, Therapy, and Justice* explores the intersection of law, psychology, and forensic practice to provide families and courts with clarity and compassion in navigating challenging situations. The show offers valuable insights and practical strategies for enhancing family dynamics and promoting justice.