“What Are You?” — Identity, Belonging & the Question We All Hate

How You Live Now Determines Everything

What you do today shapes how you live tomorrow. In this episode of Brit and the Chick, Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett explore what it really means to thrive as you age—physically, mentally, and emotionally. From body changes and fitness to mental health, recovery, and the power of saying no, this conversation is a reminder that longevity isn’t just about adding years to your life—it’s about adding life to your years. This isn’t about waiting until something breaks down. It’s about choosing a lifestyle—right now—that supports the life you want later. In this episode, we discuss: *  How daily habits impact long-term health and longevity  *  Why joy should be part of your routine—not something you earn later  *  The connection between boundaries, self-care, and overall well-being  *  How to think about your future self and start showing up for them today  If you’ve been feeling the pull to make a change, reset your routines, or simply live with more intention—this conversation is for you. Brit & The Chick is a weekly podcast hosted by longtime friends Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett exploring culture, identity, purpose, and the questions we’re all quietly asking. 📞 Join the conversation: 762-254-0825 New episodes every Thursday.

“What Are You?” — Identity, Belonging & the Question We All Hate

“What are you?” It’s a question many of us have been asked—but what is really being asked in that moment? In this episode of Brit & The Chick, Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett unpack identity, belonging, and the layers behind a question that can feel uncomfortable, invasive, and often defining. Through personal stories and honest conversation, they explore what it means to navigate identity in a world that often tries to simplify who we are. In this episode, we discuss: * Being “othered” and navigating mixed or complex identities * The impact of microaggressions and labeling * How ancestry and cultural heritage shape self-perception * The evolving nature of identity in a diverse world * Why we should be asking “What are you about?” instead This episode is for you if: * You’ve ever been asked “What are you?” and didn’t quite know how to answer * You’ve felt put into a box that didn’t fully reflect who you are * You’re exploring identity, heritage, and what it means to belong * You believe identity is more than labels—it’s layered 🎙️ About the Podcast Brit & The Chick is a weekly podcast hosted by Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett—two longtime friends having millennial-minded conversations about culture, identity, and the questions we’re all quietly asking. Because identity isn’t just what you are—it’s what you’re about. 💬 Join the Conversation Call or text: 762-254-0825 Don’t just listen—be part of the conversation. ⏱️ Episode Chapters 00:00 — Introduction and Identity Exploration  02:57 — The Question: What Are You?  05:59 — Personal Stories of Othering  08:56 — Navigating Identity in Different Cultures  11:50 — Belonging and Self-Definition  14:47 — The Limitations of Labels  17:49 — Redefining Identity Questions  20:49 — Embracing Blackness and Heritage  26:34 — Exploring Ancestry and Citizenship  30:32 — Cultural Identity and Personal Reflection  35:28 — The Importance of Connection  41:19 — Defining Ourselves: What Are You About? Brit & The Chick is a weekly podcast hosted by longtime friends Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett exploring culture, identity, purpose, and the questions we’re all quietly asking. 📞 Join the conversation: 762-254-0825 New episodes every Thursday.

When Did You Decide Your Health Is Your Responsibility?

When did you realize… your health is your responsibility? In this episode of The Brit and the Chick, Melissa and Errol have an honest conversation about the moment everything shifts—the moment you stop waiting and start choosing yourself. Because the truth is simple: nobody is coming to save you. This isn’t about vanity. It’s about ownership. It’s about discipline. It’s about making daily decisions that support the life you say you want. Melissa and Errol share personal stories from their own fitness journeys—the challenges, the mindset shifts, and the role community has played in helping them stay consistent. They also dive into the connection between physical health and mental well-being, the importance of recovery, and what it really means to build a lifestyle rooted in wellness. If you’ve ever struggled with consistency, motivation, or knowing where to start, this episode is for you. Wellness is your birthright—but you have to claim it. In this episode, we cover: • The moment you realize your health is your responsibility • Why community matters more than motivation • Mental health benefits of movement • Longevity and key health metrics like VO2 max • The importance of recovery and rest • How small daily choices shape your overall wellness Key Takeaways: • Fitness is not just about appearance—it’s about self-care • Health responsibility often comes with life transitions • Community support helps maintain consistency • Recovery is essential for long-term results • Your daily habits determine your long-term health • Taking control of your health is empowering Notable Quotes: “Fitness is a lifestyle choice.” “Your body will impress you.” “Wellness is your birthright.” Chapters: 00:00 The Realization of Fitness Responsibility 02:56 Personal Journeys in Fitness 06:07 The Importance of Community in Health 08:44 Understanding Longevity and Health Metrics 11:34 Mental Health and Fitness 14:34 The Role of Recovery in Fitness 17:31 Lifestyle Choices and Wellness 20:19 Taking Control of Your Health 23:06 Final Thoughts on Fitness and Longevity Brit & The Chick is a weekly podcast hosted by longtime friends Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett exploring culture, identity, purpose, and the questions we’re all quietly asking. 📞 Join the conversation: 762-254-0825 New episodes every Thursday.

Why Is Therapy Still Taboo in the Black Community?

In this episode of Brit & The Chick, Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett explore a topic many people are still hesitant to talk about openly: therapy and mental health in the Black community. Melissa and Errol share their personal therapy journeys, and together they unpack the stigma that still surrounds seeking professional mental health support. From cultural expectations to financial barriers, the conversation examines why therapy has historically been viewed with skepticism — and why that mindset is beginning to shift. They also discuss high-functioning depression, the importance of finding therapists who understand cultural context, and how faith and therapy can work together rather than in opposition. This episode is about reframing therapy as a tool for growth, healing and generational change. What We Talk About • The stigma around therapy in the Black community  • Melissa’s personal experience with therapy  • Why high-functioning depression often goes unnoticed  • The financial barriers that prevent people from seeking help  • Why culturally competent therapists matter  • Faith and therapy working together  • Why therapy should be seen as mental health maintenance Resources & Links Mentioned Mental health resources referenced in this episode: • U.S. Department of Health and Human Services – Office of Minority Health Mental & Behavioral Health in Black/African American Communities https://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/mental-and-behavioral-health-blackafrican-americans [https://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/mental-and-behavioral-health-blackafrican-americans] • Dr. Judith Joseph (Mental Health Researcher & Psychiatrist) https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjoseph/ [https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjoseph/] Follow the podcast on Instagram: • Brit & The Chick https://www.instagram.com/britandthechick/ [https://www.instagram.com/britandthechick/] Join the Conversation We want to hear from you. Don’t just listen to the conversation — be part of it. Brit & The Chick is a weekly podcast hosted by longtime friends Melissa Knowles and Errol Barnett exploring culture, identity, purpose, and the questions we’re all quietly asking. 📞 Join the conversation: 762-254-0825 New episodes every Thursday.