11. Shifting to happiness

11. Shifting to happiness

Walking by a graveyard…. Perhaps not what one would associate with happiness, but bear with me and on this episode, I’ll tell you why it may do exactly that.  A word of warning – some of the exercises I mentioned on this episode can be triggering – so if sitting with your feelings is something that feels too hard to do at this moment in time, please skip!  Putting things in perspective can help us see different sides of a story, in this case, an overall life or job perception.  Some of the tools I mentioned: -       Writing your own eulogy: whilst no one would really like to think of this moment, when we think about what we would like to be remembered by what our legacy would be it can help us discern what matters most to us, and whether we are making it a priority in our lives. Are we walking the talk? And the book by Martha Beck I mentioned: https://amzn.eu/d/08qPhSWB [https://amzn.eu/d/08qPhSWB] -       Negative visualisation: from Dr. Laurie Santos. Imagine that thing that annoys you…now imagine it gone! How does it feel? What does it do? -       Make today your last day: by Dr. Laurie Santos too. And in a similar vein to the eulogy, if we only had 24hrs left, what would we do? What would we focus on? Spend time with?... and are we dedicating time to those now? -       Finding your why: by Simon Sinek. Purpose, and aligning your actions and decisions (in business and life) to it. Game changer.  I mentioned on the episode about a Happy Hour event I ran recently – if you want to know of any other events or workshops coming up, sign up to my newsletter! (you will also get some early bird opportunities before they go out to the public!): https://www.coachingwithlucia.com/newsletter [https://www.coachingwithlucia.com/newsletter] With love, and happiness Lucia x Connect with me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/] https://www.coachingwithlucia.com [https://www.coachingwithlucia.com/] https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/ [https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/] lucia@coachingwithlucia.com [lucia@coachingwithlucia.com] Music from Soundstripe: Our Way, by Luke Bergs and Markvards.

10. Imposter Syndrome

We are bombarded with information. Self-proclaimed experts and actual experts that share their knowledge on different topics.  On the one hand, it can be hard to distinguish who to trust, on the other, even when they are trusted individuals, the amount of information / advise and guidance they offer can be overwhelming.  I felt myself experiencing this recently, which triggered this week’s podcast, and a reflection on appearances, imposter syndrome and finding our true self.  In this episode I talk about: -       Experts, information and guidance. Maybe less is more and enough is enough… -       Curating our information streams and resources. As an avid self-improvement learner, I seek out information in many different shapes and forms, and I discovered that I also needed to give it a break.  -       Trust. Built on reputation and expertise, not followers… If you want to listen to the magnificent podcast I talk about you can find it here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0C4NGR78gbSSB2JrgkhwFD?si=cilmsHPPRZSbnVFTwQIGTw [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0C4NGR78gbSSB2JrgkhwFD?si=cilmsHPPRZSbnVFTwQIGTw] -       Imposter Syndrome: there is way more about it than what I shared here, and is one of my favourite topics to cover – if you want to know more about it drop me a line, I will be putting a workshop about it! If you want to read the Forbes article I mention, you can do so here: https://www.forbes.com/councils/forbescoachescouncil/2025/03/18/the-silent-epidemic-why-imposter-syndrome-is-holding-back-even-the-most-successful-leaders/ [https://www.forbes.com/councils/forbescoachescouncil/2025/03/18/the-silent-epidemic-why-imposter-syndrome-is-holding-back-even-the-most-successful-leaders/] -       Essential self: absolutely love this from Martha Beck. Our inner compass and wisdom, the true self that knows what works and doesn’t – getting to hear its voice is harder than we think. She talks about it in her book Finding your North Star.  Hugging curveballs with kindness and purpose,  Lucia x Connect with me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/] https://www.coachingwithlucia.com [https://www.coachingwithlucia.com/] https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/ [https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/] lucia@coachingwithlucia.com [lucia@coachingwithlucia.com] Music from Soundstripe: Our Way, by Luke Bergs and Markvards.

09. The messy bits

Our attention span has shortened, we are used to get things with one click, almost immediate delivery… There are of course pros and cons to this, some changes came to make our lives better, but a recent family moment changed my perspective and thought on why a slower pace and not having access to everything at once was perhaps the key to happier living.  In this episode I talk about: -       Dopamine hit and social media addiction. -       Slow pace vs fast pace. -       The concepts of time, waiting and effort and what they do to our reward system. -       The messy bits: seeing happiness as a finishing line while happiness happens in the right now. -       Hedonistic adaptation: a concept I learnt from Dr. Laurie Santos, that impacts the way we experience things / moments and their lasting impact. If you want to learn more about Dr. Laurie Santos work, head over to her website: https://www.drlauriesantos.com [https://www.drlauriesantos.com/] So here is my invitation for reflection to you: what if you were to slow down? To focus on enjoying the messy bits? What would that do for you? Hugging curveballs with kindness and purpose,  Lucia x Connect with me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/] https://www.coachingwithlucia.com [https://www.coachingwithlucia.com/] https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/ [https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/] lucia@coachingwithlucia.com [lucia@coachingwithlucia.com] Music from Soundstripe: Our Way, by Luke Bergs and Markvards.

08. The Goo

Do you recognise yourself?  The limbo, in-between period. Or as I call it: The goo.  You’re not “there” yet, but you’re not at the start line either. A lot has changed and yet somehow it all feels the same.  Some things are happening, progress is made, but the finishing line does not seem to be quite at reach. Or maybe it never was? The goo is the process of growth and transformation that we frequently want to skip or rush, but is the essential part of the journey.  In this episode we talk about: ·       what it means and how it feels to be in the goo ·       getting to know ourselves, our dreams and desires ·       identity, and what it means to lose and grieve who you were, and not knowing quite well who you are becoming ·       the power of becoming Ready for things to get sticky? Let’s go!   Connect with me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/] https://www.coachingwithlucia.com [https://www.coachingwithlucia.com/] https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/ [https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/] lucia@coachingwithlucia.com [lucia@coachingwithlucia.com]   Follow me on: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/c_is_for_change/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/c_is_for_change/] https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/   Music from Soundstripe: Our Way, by Luke Bergs and Markvards.

07. Finding yourself with Diogo Costa Cardoso

This week we are joined by Diogo Costa Cardoso.   Diogo is a citizen of the world, originally from Portugal, now living in London. He is a keen traveller, curious and creative individual!   He Is also a highly driven strategist, fuelling growth at global scale, which is what he is currently doing at NBCUniversal.    Diogo is also passionate about empowering young professionals, a passion project he started when he set up NBC’s Young Professionals Network, impacting over 2,000 people & founded the "Starters In Media" industry-wide forum.   During our chat Diogo and I talked about travels, living abroad, building a community, the process of self-discovery and achieving lasting happiness.    ·       Duality: born and raised in Portugal, Diogo moved to London to pursue his career dreams. A move that not only helped him develop his confidence and entrepreneurial mindset, but that challenged his self-perception ultimately leading to reconcile a dual identity, feeling at home both in Porto and London.     ·       Wholeness: the process of self-discovery is not one for the faint of heart – a long road (I’d say a forever one!), with twists and turns… but it definitely is a rewarding and fulfilling one! Diogo shared the journey he is one, the village it takes to make it and how to go about acquiring the toolkit you’ll need for it.    ·       Identity and growth: as an ever-evolving species, staying put is not an option, neither it is believing that a past version of ourselves is all that we would ever be. Diogo learned to reconcile all the parts of him. Flaws, wins, learnings and adaptations. Every layer peeled reveals a different aspect, an opportunity… and Diogo has learned to embrace and appreciate every twist and turn.    Diogo, what a pleasure and inspiration it was to have you!. And what a pride and joy has been to see you grow. Thank you again.  If you want to connect with Diogo: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diogo-costa-cardoso-3515685b/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/diogo-costa-cardoso-3515685b/] To connect with me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-paredes-suanzes/] https://www.coachingwithlucia.com [https://www.coachingwithlucia.com/] https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/ [https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlucia/] lucia@coachingwithlucia.com [lucia@coachingwithlucia.com]   Follow us on: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/c_is_for_change/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/c_is_for_change/]   Music from Soundstripe: Our Way, by Luke Bergs and Markvards.