Daily Shift 174: You can't people please your way into feeling loved

Daily Shift 174: You can't people please your way into feeling loved

SHOW NOTES People pleasing often starts as a strategy for getting love and staying connected. If I'm easy enough, helpful enough, agreeable enough — they'll love me. But it never actually works. Because the love you earn through performance never feels like the love you were looking for. In today's episode, Celeste explains why people pleasing and genuine love are fundamentally incompatible — and what it actually takes to feel truly loved. Today's shift: Identify one relationship where you've been performing for love instead of receiving it — and get honest about how that's been working for you. Events [https://stwyt.com/events] Store [https://stwyt.com/store] Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582556684611] and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/] Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@stwyt8] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566337261784]and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/stwyt_/]

EP 541 The Heart-Brain Connection: Using HeartMath for Emotional Regulation

In this episode, Celeste explores HeartMath — a research-backed system that uses heart coherence to regulate your nervous system, manage stress, and support emotional healing. What Is HeartMath? Developed by the HeartMath Institute, this approach is built on 30+ years of research showing that the heart and brain are in constant communication — and that your emotional state directly shapes your heart rhythm, which in turn affects how you think, feel, and respond. **Key Concepts -Heart coherence — a state where your heart, brain, and nervous system are in sync; you feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded - HRV (Heart Rate Variability)** — a measure of nervous system flexibility and resilience; HeartMath techniques shift your HRV into a healthier pattern - The heart sends *more* signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart — your emotional state is a physiological event, not just a mental one Quick Coherence® Technique (60 seconds) 1. Shift your focus to your heart area and breathe slowly — inhale 5–6 seconds, exhale 5–6 seconds 2. Recall something or someone that brings genuine feelings of appreciation or calm 3. Hold that feeling while continuing to breathe Use this before a hard conversation, in a stressful moment, or as a daily reset. Why It Matters for Healing Many people carrying unresolved trauma are stuck in survival mode — the body hasn't gotten the message that it's safe. Heart coherence techniques give you a body-based tool to interrupt that cycle in real time, not just talk about it. --- Resources - HeartMath Institute: heartmath.org - Inner Balance™ Coherence Plus App (HRV biofeedback) - *The HeartMath Solution* by Doc Childre & Howard Martin - Celeste's website: celestethetherapist.com

Daily Shift 173: The cost of being easy to be around

Being easy to be around sounds like a compliment. But for a lot of people it's come at an enormous cost — their voice, their needs, their sense of self. In today's episode, Celeste talks about what it actually takes to maintain the reputation of being easygoing — and why the people who are always easy to be around are often the ones struggling the most on the inside. Today's shift: Ask yourself honestly — what has being easy to be around actually cost you? Events [https://stwyt.com/events] Store [https://stwyt.com/store] Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582556684611] and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/] Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@stwyt8] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566337261784]and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/stwyt_/]

Daily Shift 172: People pleasing is not about other people — it's about your fear

People pleasing feels like it's about being considerate. About keeping the peace. About being a good person. But at its core it has nothing to do with other people at all. It's about your fear. Fear of rejection, conflict, withdrawal, not being enough. In today's episode, Celeste gets to the real root of people pleasing — and why naming the fear underneath it is the only thing that actually changes it. Today's shift: Name the specific fear that drives your people pleasing — and get honest about whether that fear is running your decisions.

Daily Shift 171: The difference between being kind and being a people pleaser

One of the biggest reasons people struggle to identify their own people pleasing is because it looks so much like kindness from the outside. And from the inside too. In today's episode, Celeste draws a clear line between genuine kindness — which comes from a place of abundance and choice — and people pleasing — which comes from a place of fear and obligation. Understanding the difference doesn't make you less kind. It makes your kindness real. If you've been using kindness as a cover story for people pleasing, this one is going to be an honest mirror. Today's shift: The next time you do something for someone, pause and ask yourself — am I doing this because I want to, or because I'm afraid of what happens if I don't? Events [https://stwyt.com/events] Store [https://stwyt.com/store] Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582556684611] and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/] Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@stwyt8] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566337261784]and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/stwyt_/]