Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Are you ready to hear a transformative love story that will light a spark of hope and motivation in your own dating journey—no matter where you’re starting from?  In Episode 395 of The Charisma Quotient, “Finding Love After Divorce: Where Are They Now with Jeff” Kimmy sits down with her former client. Meet Jeff: a successful lawyer, devoted dog dad, and someone who, after a 40-year marriage, found himself navigating the modern dating scene for the very first time. When Jeff first began coaching with Kimmy, he confessed to feeling like a fish out of water—uncertain about online dating, struggling with confidence and rejection, and stuck in old habits that just weren’t serving him in love. But by bravely opening up to guidance, updating his wardrobe and even revamping his online image with professional photos, Jeff started to turn everything around. In this heartfelt episode, you’ll hear how Jeff and Kimmy worked through his biggest blocks: letting go of perfectionism, learning to approach women assertively, finding the balance between vulnerability and confidence, and developing a playful, relaxed mindset around dating. Listen in as Jeff recalls pivotal moments, like using his volunteer therapy dog Belle as the ultimate “wing girl” at the dog park, and the hilarious anxiety of keeping his age under 70 on dating apps—plus the bittersweet lessons learned from a “bridge relationship” that ultimately set him up for meeting his now-partner who values his authenticity and the care he invests in himself.  You’ll hear: * Why making simple changes to your wardrobe and online photos can dramatically affect how others see you * The power of relaxing and taking pressure off yourself * The importance of “dating yourself” first—discovering what you truly want, setting boundaries, and being upfront about who you are * Why honoring your values ultimately brings the right partner into your life If you’re wondering if you can truly find love after divorce or a long relationship, join Kimmy’s next co-ed interactive Flirt Workshop where you will learn the skill of flirting and having fun.  Just go to www.stophatingdating.com [http://www.stophatingdating.com] to grab your spot as they do go fast. Book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ [https://kimmyseltzer.com/%E2%81%A3] Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Instagram: @kimmyseltzer [https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/] Twitter: @kimmyseltzer [https://x.com/kimmyseltzer] Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers [https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers] Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com [http://www.flirtover40.com]

Did you know intimacy is a skill that is a learnable, empowering skill?  In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman” Kimmy chats with Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Herrell, co-founders of the revolutionary Somatica Institute and authors of three powerful books, including Making Love Real. With extensive experience training over 1,000 coaches and transforming countless lives, Celeste and Danielle blend science, humor, and heart to help people build confidence in intimacy. In this episode, you’ll discover why intimacy is not just about sexual or physical attraction—it’s an evolving set of skills involving emotional safety, intellectual connection, shared experiences, and even spiritual alignment. Kimmy and her guests discuss common roadblocks to intimacy, from childhood wounds to societal messages that make people feel shame about their desires. They explain how flirtation and erotic energy are foundational to authentic relating (not just “nice-to-haves”), and share the step-by-step practices their clients use to move past blocks, build confidence, and celebrate pleasure in ways that feel natural. Listen in for memorable stories, like Kimmy’s account of a client unwittingly creating a “love shield” with her body language, and a playful demonstration by Danielle about using your five senses (and even eating ice cream!) to connect with your body’s pleasure zones. You’ll hear how Celeste coaches clients to enjoy being appreciated, and learn tips to help both men and women feel empowered instead of ashamed in their pursuit of intimacy.  You’ll hear: * Why true intimacy means expressing what feels good for you and setting boundaries. * How shame, gender roles, and societal messages can make people feel disconnected from their own desires. * Skills in intimacy and sexuality that lead to more confidence and authentic relationships. * How putting your own pleasure and desires at the center actually leads to healthier intimacy. If you are having a hard time letting go and having intimacy and playfulness in your dating life, join Kimmy’s next co-ed interactive Flirt Workshop where you will learn the skill of flirting and having fun.  Just go to www.stophatingdating.com [http://www.stophatingdating.com] to grab your spot as they do go fast. Book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ [https://kimmyseltzer.com/%E2%81%A3] Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Instagram: @kimmyseltzer [https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/] Twitter: @kimmyseltzer [https://x.com/kimmyseltzer] Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers [https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers] Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com [http://www.flirtover40.com]

Why do we keep finding ourselves in the same frustrating dating patterns, no matter how much we try to shake things up? In Episode 393 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: What Is Your Dating Archetype?” Kimmy gets to the heart of the matter by introducing her breakthrough framework: the Five Dating Archetypes. Whether you’re struggling to meet the right person or find yourself replaying old dynamics, this episode is your fast track to self-awareness—and real change. Drawing from years as a leading dating and makeover expert, therapist, and matchmaker, Kimmy has worked with thousands of women (and men!) both in her “Wing Girl” sessions and individualized coaching practice. She’s seen personality patterns repeat across clients and created the Five Dating Archetypes to help you identify what may be holding you back and possibly creating a love shield you are not aware of. Kimmy was inspired to create this framework after noticing similar challenges in client after client, whether working with high-profile celebrities or everyday singles. In this lively, down-to-earth conversation, Kimmy breaks down each archetype in detail, describing telltale behaviors, mindsets, and the powerful ways your history shapes your dating style. You’ll hear real-life stories—like the Hollywood powerhouse whose “Chief” energy was intimidating every man she met, or the “List Lady” whose sky-high standards secretly protected her from heartbreak. Kimmy shares deeply personal accounts, including courageous clients who overcame trauma or old roles to open up to love again—proving that transformation is possible no matter your situation or age.  You’ll hear: * An overview of the “Big 5” dating archetypes * How subtle things like your body language, wardrobe choices, communication style, and past wounds could be sending the wrong signals in love. * Practical strategies and “secret weapons” for each archetype, from developing self-awareness to making small tweaks that yield big changes in your confidence and connection with others. * Why most of us fall into these same patterns, and exactly what you can do to break free. If you want to know what kind of dating archetype you are, take her free archetype quiz https://form.jotform.com/231376592380157 [https://form.jotform.com/231376592380157] an then book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ [https://kimmyseltzer.com/%E2%81%A3] Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Instagram: @kimmyseltzer [https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/] Twitter: @kimmyseltzer [https://x.com/kimmyseltzer] Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers [https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers] Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com [http://www.flirtover40.com]

The key to lasting love is more than just chemistry, it’s really knowing how you (and your partner) handle conflict. It’s communication, emotional intelligence and how you handle stress that builds a lasting connection and relationship  In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, "Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot,” Kimmy is joined by Dr. John Elliot, an acclaimed psychologist, conflict resolution expert, and co-author of "How to Get Along With Anyone." With a career spanning consulting for NASA, the US Olympic Committee, the Mayo Clinic, Fortune 500 companies, and appearances in outlets like The New York Times and ESPN, Dr. Elliot is uniquely equipped to reveal why true relationship success depends on how you both show up when the going gets tough—not just when it’s smooth sailing. Together, Kimmy and Dr. Elliot break down the five conflict personality styles—the Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, and Accommodator—explaining the habits, triggers, and communication patterns that come out when tension rises. You’ll hear actionable advice on how to identify your own (and others’) conflict styles, why some personality pairings struggle while others thrive, and how to turn moments of tension into lasting intimacy instead of drama or distance. They discuss why your "must-have list" should go beyond looks or job titles, and how picking up on someone’s conflict style early can save you heartache down the road.  You’ll hear: * The “five conflict personality styles”—discover if you’re an Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, or Accommodator (and why it matters so much!)  * How mismatched conflict styles sabotage romantic chemistry—and what style pairings work best for long-term happiness * Real stories from pro sports, high-stakes business, and dating that illustrate these personality clashes and how they’re resolved * Simple, practical tools and mindset shifts to help you attract, connect with, and keep truly compatible partners If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same painful patterns, or want to break free from being an overgiver, people-pleaser, or the “nice guy,” book a FREE private breakthrough call with Kimmy:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ [https://kimmyseltzer.com/%E2%81%A3] Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Instagram: @kimmyseltzer [https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/] Twitter: @kimmyseltzer [https://x.com/kimmyseltzer] Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers [https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers] Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com [http://www.flirtover40.com]

Are your past experiences getting in your way when it comes to dating? Specifically you may have a fear of abandonment that stems from childhood which is the reason you push people away subconsciously. Most people don’t realize that they hold onto their past traumas which impacts relationships. Fears that are created from this dynamic makes dating feel frustrating and anxiety-provoking. In Episode 393 of The Charisma Quotient, “Fear of Abandonment in Dating: Why You Push Love Away ~ Coaching With Kimmy” Kimmy coaches a woman live on this episode whose personal history and experiences echo the struggles many face in the realm of intimacy and self-perception.  In this coaching session, Kimmy and Evelyn delve into the intricacies of how past abandonment issues can manifest in adult relationships, influencing the patterns we fall into and the people we attract. From forming quick, intense attachments to pushing partners away through self-sabotage, the discussion covers a spectrum of behaviors that many listeners will find familiar. Evelyn shares poignant anecdotes, such as the emotionally charged and rapid-moving relationship that led her to relocate across the country, only to find herself ensnared in familiar emotional pitfalls. Her story is a testament to the power of self-awareness and the challenges of translating that awareness into action.  You’ll hear: * The top 5 ways a fear of abandonment may show up in a person’s romantic relationships and actionable steps for tackling these deep-seated fears.  * The concept of "shape-shifting" in relationships and why it causes you to lose touch with your authentic self. * Actionable steps from Kimmy for rewriting personal stories and reinforcing self-worth. * How seeking excessive reassurance from partners can lead to emotional exhaustion and breakdowns in relationships. * The duality of either erecting emotional walls or forming overly rapid attachments as a result of abandonment fears. * An unsuspected breakthrough Evelyn had on the call that caught her by surprise on why dating has been so hard. If you want help overcoming your fears around dating book a FREE private breakthrough call with Kimmy:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ [https://kimmyseltzer.com/%E2%81%A3] Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ [https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough%E2%81%A3] Instagram: @kimmyseltzer [https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/] Twitter: @kimmyseltzer [https://x.com/kimmyseltzer] Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers [https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers] Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com [http://www.flirtover40.com]