Mid-Singles and Sexuality Q&A

Mid-Singles and Sexuality Q&A

Dating, sexuality, and romantic relationships are tricky enough when we're young — but life experience, past hurts, and complicated relationship histories add a whole new layer of complexity for those of us who are single in midlife. The simple answers and guidelines that once felt sufficient don't quite hold anymore. If it feels like the framework and guidance you were offered as a teen isn't working, it's because it was intended for someone at an entirely different stage in life. Midlife singlehood asks something more, because you've lived enough to know that life doesn't always go as planned, and the choices in front of you now carry a depth and consequence that call you toward the spirit of the law, not just the letter of it. During this Q&A discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks directly to mid-singles — whether never married, divorced, or widowed — answering their real questions on topics including: * What chastity actually means for adults with sexual history * How to relate to desire and sexuality without fear running the show * Dating wisely without repeating old patterns * What to look for in a partner  * How to use this season as an opportunity for growth — regardless of what comes next ANNOUCEMENTS: Get your tickets for JFF's FIRST-EVER event for singles HERE [https://buytickets.at/jenniferfinlaysonfifephd/2259017] Save 20% on Cozy Earth pajamas, sheets and more with code JFF20 [https://cozyearth.com/]

Mixed-Faith Marriages | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer

When a spouse's faith shifts, the anxiety that follows is real. Most of us want to find a way around it, so we seek reinforcement from friends, try to pressure them back into their old position, or just avoid the conversation altogether. But avoiding a difficult reality doesn't make the anxiety go away. In fact, it increases it. In this Q&A episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife takes questions from those navigating mixed-faith marriages, including how to share where you are without demanding your spouse follow, how to stay collaborative when your worldviews have diverged, and how to raise children when you no longer share the same spiritual framework. Because it is in going toward the hard conversations, not around them, that we grow, and that our marriages can too. _________ Last call for our 2026 Sex Worth Wanting Retreat! [https://buytickets.at/jenniferfinlaysonfifephd/1873985] SAVE 20% on Cozy Earth Products (including their buttery-soft sheets!) HERE with code JFF20 [https://cozyearth.com/]

Desarrollo y Madurez Espiritual [Developing Spiritual Maturity]

WE'VE RECEIVED MANY REQUESTS OVER THE YEARS TO OFFER DR. FINLAYSON-FIFE'S RESOURCES IN OTHER LANGUAGES. MIRIAM PARKIN HAS GENEROUSLY OFFERED HER TIME AND TALENT TO TRANSLATE EPISODES FOR US AND WE WILL ADD THEM TO THE FEED AS THEY COME IN (IN ADDITION TO OUR REGULAR PODCAST PRODUCTION SCHEDULE). YOU CAN LISTEN TO THE ORIGINAL "DEVELOPING SPIRITUAL MATURITY" PODCAST HERE [https://www.finlayson-fife.com/podcasts/conversations-with-dr-jennifer/post/developing-spiritual-maturity]. _________ JODY MOORE [https://jodymoore.com/podcast/], DEL PODCAST *BETTER THAN HAPPY*, ENTREVISTA A LA DRA. FINLAYSON-FIFE SOBRE EL TEMA DE LA MADUREZ ESPIRITUAL. EN LA CONVERSACIÓN ABORDAN: - LA IMPORTANCIA DE LA MADUREZ ESPIRITUAL Y CÓMO ALCANZARLA. - CÓMO VIVIR LA VIDA CON MAYOR HONESTIDAD Y EN CONSONANCIA CON LA PROPIA INTEGRIDAD. - EL PROCESO DE ABORDAR LA OBEDIENCIA CON SABIDURÍA. - EL VERDADERO SIGNIFICADO DEL PUDOR Y CÓMO ENSEÑARLO CON SENSATEZ. - POR QUÉ EL PERFECCIONISMO ES UNA VIRTUD FALSA Y CUÁL ES LA VERDADERA NATURALEZA DE LA BONDAD GENUINA. - CUÁLES SON LOS FRUTOS DE LA MADUREZ ESPIRITUAL.

Rethinking Obedience

All of us start out following the rules of our family or group because we want to stay safe, earn approval, or belong to something larger than ourselves. Safety and belonging are not small motivations, they're important and necessary steps on the pathway of our moral development. But obedience is the first law of heaven for a reason. It was never meant to be the final one. Obedience lays the foundation for us to grow towards something far greater: integrity. In this conversation with Larkin Swain of the Sanctuary Podcast [https://www.sanctuarypod.org/podcast], Dr. Finlayson-Fife walks through her three-stage framework for spiritual and psychological development and explains the role of obedience in each stage. We begin in fear. We grow into belonging. And in Stage 3, we use the moral compass we developed in Stages 1 and 2 to make our decisions not from fear or compliance, but from our own integrity. When we make that shift from living by the letter of the law to the spirit of it, it can feel like something has gone terribly wrong. But it hasn't. It's actually the whole point.  SHOW NOTES: SAVE up to 30% at COZY EARTH through June 1st with code JFF30 [http://www.cozyearth.com]

Finding Joy

Joy is not something we stumble upon. And it's not freedom from suffering. Nor is it the same thing as happiness. Joy is the willingness to see the beauty and goodness around us, even in the midst of difficulty and loss. Joy is a disposition toward living, not a feeling that comes and goes. And developing the capacity for it takes courage. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Packer of the About Progress [https://www.aboutprogress.com/] podcast to explore what joy actually requires of us, why eros love is at the heart of a marriage that stays alive, and what it means to stop trying to change your spouse and start asking who you want to be instead. SHOW NOTES: SAVE up to 30% at Cozy Earth  [https://cozyearth.com/]with code JFF30 (through 6/1)—HERE [https://cozyearth.com/products/womens-bamboo-stretch-knit-long-sleeve-pajama-set?_pos=5&_sid=bd5aaf48a&_ss=r&variant=41039987146932] are the pajamas JFF loves! Join us for the Sex Worth Wanting Retreat [https://buytickets.at/jenniferfinlaysonfifephd/1873985]! Read That We Might Have Joy [https://amzn.to/42xSOB3] (currently $14.95 on Amazon)