CPA- Chanda Pays Attention

Center Stage – The Pros and Cons of Male‑Centered Culture

What happens when male-centered values shape our culture, relationships, and even our faith? In this episode, we explore the myth of Achilles and Patroclus, the dangers of male-centered friendships, and how androcentrism affects both men and women today. Drawing from Greek mythology, feminist critique, media studies, and scripture, we unpack the costs of centering anything other than God—and the call to build a world where all voices are heard and all people are pursued.

The Silent Struggle — Unpacking the Male Loneliness Epidemic

Male loneliness is a specific form of emotional and social isolation that disproportionately affects men. It’s shaped by cultural expectations, rigid gender norms, and structural barriers to connection. And it’s not just about solitude—it’s about feeling unheard, unacknowledged, and emotionally cut off.If you would like to see the photo please go to www.ochaopt.org [http://www.ochaopt.org] and see the photo and read more stories and please remember you are seen and you are loved.

Don’t Look Away—The Cost of Numbness in a Traumatized World

Today’s episode is not easy. It’s about the images we scroll past, the headlines we mute, the suffering we’ve normalized. From Gaza to Congo to ICE detention centers, we’ve been shown visually terrible things—and instead of being moved, we’ve become numb. We’ve seen so much suffering that we’ve started calling the numbness wisdom. We’ve baptized our avoidance and called it peace. But silence isn’t holy—it’s harmful.” But should we continue to look on in terror? What does it cost us to look away? And is there ever a case for protecting our peace by turning it off? Let’s talk about it.

The Art of Confrontation, Facing Challenges with Courage

Whether it's about calling out a friend who hurt you, addressing a workplace issue, or simply setting boundaries, confrontation is a skill that you must have and it's not a challenge. It's not something that you should run away from. It's a skill that you can learn and it's a skill that you should absolutely have to be a thriving and functional adult. So let's talk about it. Let's talk about how to explore it constructively, what it means

How to make Friends Part 2

You asked and I delivered. A long time has passed since but I assume you probably only just finished the 6v3 method . Here are a few more tips to help make some solid friends.