When the People Who Should Build You Up, Tear You Down

Why Grief Feels Like it is Breaking You

Grief doesn't just break your heart. It disrupts your mind, drains your body, and forces you to rebuild a daily life you never asked to change. This episode talks honestly about what that looks like — and why it is not a spiritual problem. Raymond shares the story of camp, Lily, and selling the RV — the routines grief destroys and the new ones it forces on you. Then he walks through what the Psalms say about the physical and mental weight of loss. In this episode: * What Psalm 6 and Psalm 31 say about the body under grief * Why fog, fatigue, and forgetfulness are normal — not failure * The difference between a broken person and a grieving one * Psalm 121 — the God who does not sleep is awake with you at 3am Scripture: Psalm 6:6-7, Psalm 31:9-10, Psalm 121:3-4 (NLT) GET THE BOOK — The Greater the Love, the Deeper the Grief https://www.discipleblueprintpress.com [https://www.discipleblueprintpress.com] FREE DOWNLOAD — Grief to Grace: A 5-Day Devotional https://discipleblueprint.com/grief [https://discipleblueprint.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Grief-Free-Grief-to-Grace.pdf] DISCIPLE BLUEPRINT MEMBERSHIP — Founding pricing through June https://www.discipleblueprint.com/explore-membership [https://www.discipleblueprint.com/explore-membership]

Is Grief the Sign of Weak Faith?

Is grief a sign of weak faith? If you have ever felt guilty for how hard you are crying, or wondered why a stronger faith does not seem to be making this easier — this episode is for you. Raymond opens the Grief Series with the story of his daily routine with Wendy — the lunch check-ins, the three porches, the two white rocking chairs, the brothers who showed up every evening. And what happened to all of it when she died. In this episode: * Why Jesus wept at the tomb of Lazarus — even knowing the resurrection was minutes away * What John 11:35 tells us about grief and faith * Why tears are not a sign of weak faith — they are the cost of loving deeply * Psalm 34:18 and the promise that God is close to the brokenhearted Scripture: John 11:35, Psalm 34:18 (NLT) FREE DOWNLOAD — Grief to Grace: A 5-Day Devotional https://discipleblueprint.com/grief [https://discipleblueprint.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Grief-Free-Grief-to-Grace.pdf] GET THE BOOK — The Greater the Love, the Deeper the Grief https://www.discipleblueprintpress.com [https://www.discipleblueprintpress.com] DISCIPLE BLUEPRINT MEMBERSHIP — Founding pricing through June https://www.discipleblueprint.com/explore-membership [https://www.discipleblueprint.com/explore-membership]

Living From a Christ-Centered Identity — What It Actually Looks Like

Understanding who God says you are is one thing. Living from it on a Monday morning when the voices are loud, the circumstances are hard, and the old story feels more reasonable than the truth — that is something else entirely. This episode is about closing the gap between what you know and how you actually live. In this final episode of the Identity and Shame series, Raymond Smith brings everything together with the most practical question of the week: what does it look like to stop performing for approval you already have and start living from the identity God declared over you before the world existed? He shares the specific practice — name the lie, replace it with Scripture, say the declaration out loud — and explains from Romans 12:2 why this is not positive thinking. It is the renewal of the mind God promised would produce transformation. And he closes with the only finish line worth running toward. Not a revenue number. Not a follower count. Five words from the only voice that carries eternal weight. Also — next week we are moving into grief. If you have lost someone, or you love someone who has, be here Monday. Key Scriptures:Romans 12:2 — Transformed by the renewing of your mindColossians 3:3 — Your real life is hidden with Christ in GodMatthew 25:21 — Well done, good and faithful servant Free Resource:Download Trading the Lie for the Truth — a free Scripture declaration guide that walks you through six of the most common lies shame tells, the Scripture that answers each one, and a declaration to say out loud when the voice gets loud.👉 Get it here: https://discipleblueprint.com/?ff_landing=20 [https://discipleblueprint.com/?ff_landing=20] This Week's Series:Monday — Who God Says You AreTuesday — When the People Who Should Build You Up, Tear You DownWednesday — Why Shame Runs DeepThursday — How Christ Heals What Shame WoundedFriday — Living From a Christ-Centered Identity Coming Next Week: Grief #ChristCenteredIdentity #LivingFromIdentity #RenewingYourMind #ChristianIdentity #IdentityInChrist #ShameHealing #OvercomingShame #ChristianPodcast #BibleTeaching #Discipleship #DiscipleBlueprint #ChristianMentalHealth #BiblicalIdentity #FaithPodcast #ChristianGrief

How Christ Heals What Shame Wounded

Shame does not heal by pretending it never happened. It does not heal by trying harder, feeling differently, or getting your act together. It heals because Someone absorbed it. On the cross, Jesus was not just bearing sin in some invisible spiritual transaction — He was publicly stripped, mocked, and humiliated in the most degrading form of execution ever designed. He did not avoid shame. He walked straight into it. For you. In this episode, Raymond Smith gets personal about something that is still happening right now — not decades ago. The Monday morning voices that show up every single week telling him that Disciple Blueprint will never amount to anything, that nobody is reading or listening, that he is fooling himself. Those voices are forty years old. They just found a new topic. And some nights, working alone at his desk at seven in the evening, he starts to believe them. This episode is about what keeps him going anyway — and what Hebrews 12:2 says about a Savior who understands shame from the inside because He chose to walk through it first. Key Scriptures:Hebrews 12:2 — He endured the cross, disregarding its shameMatthew 25:21 — Well done, good and faithful servant Free Resource:Download Trading the Lie for the Truth — a free Scripture declaration guide that walks you through six of the most common lies shame tells, the Scripture that answers each one, and a declaration to say out loud when the voice gets loud.👉 Get it here: https://discipleblueprint.com/?ff_landing=20 [https://discipleblueprint.com/?ff_landing=20] This Week's Series:Monday — Who God Says You AreTuesday — When the People Who Should Build You Up, Tear You DownWednesday — Why Shame Runs DeepThursday — How Christ Heals What Shame WoundedFriday — Living From a Christ-Centered Identity #ShameHealing #HowChristHeals #ChristianIdentity #IdentityInChrist #OvercomingShame #HealingFromShame #ChristianPodcast #BibleTeaching #Discipleship #DiscipleBlueprint #ChristianMentalHealth #BiblicalIdentity #FaithPodcast #CrossAndShame #FaithfulServant

Why Shame Runs Deep — And Where It Actually Started

Guilt says I did something wrong. Shame says I am something wrong. That difference is everything — and it is why shame does not go away when you clean up your act, improve your behavior, or finally get things together. Shame is not attached to what you did. It is attached to who you believe you are. In this episode, Raymond Smith gets honest about one of the most painful seasons of his life. He was twenty-one years old when he married someone for the wrong reason — not love, but the belief that she was the only one who would ever want him. Eighteen months after their son was born, she left. He was twenty-three years old, divorced, a single father, and the first person in his entire family to have a marriage end. And for the first time in his life, he stopped arguing with the verdict. He believed it completely. But shame did not start with Raymond's story. It started in a garden. And understanding where it came from changes everything about how you fight it. Key Scriptures:Genesis 3:7–10 — The first shame, the first hiding, and the God who came lookingRomans 8:1 — The verdict that overrules every other verdict Free Resource:Download Trading the Lie for the Truth — a free Scripture declaration guide that walks you through six of the most common lies shame tells, the Scripture that answers each one, and a declaration to say out loud when the voice gets loud.👉 Get it here: https://discipleblueprint.com/?ff_landing=20 [https://discipleblueprint.com/?ff_landing=20] This Week's Series:Monday — Who God Says You AreTuesday — When the People Who Should Build You Up, Tear You DownWednesday — Why Shame Runs DeepThursday — How Christ Heals What Shame WoundedFriday — Living From a Christ-Centered Identity #ShameAndFaith #WhyShameRunsDeep #ChristianIdentity #IdentityInChrist #ShameHealing #OvercomingShame #ChristianPodcast #BibleTeaching #Discipleship #DiscipleBlueprint #ChristianMentalHealth #HealingFromShame #BiblicalIdentity #FaithPodcast #ShameTruama