Ep. 36 Parenting guilt part 2 & what to do when we feel we have messed up

Ep. 38 Interview with India Farr Part One Separation anxiety & other childcare stories

In this episode we meet India Farr who runs Treebug childcare in Stroud in Gloucestershire UK. She tells us how she came to Aware Parenting and how central it is for her both personally and professionally. India's’ psychology studies and her childcare work enables her to embody her passion for child development and emotional wellbeing on a daily basis. Her heart warming stories offer real insights around democratic and consent based approaches that are just as relevant in any public setting or at home. To find out about Vicki Plomer’s latest offerings visit: www.vickiplomer.com To contact Sara Devoy and find out more about her work contact@saradevoycraniosacral.com

Ep. 39 Interview with India Farr Part Two Sibling Rivalry, trusting the wisdom of children & more

In part two we continue to hear how India and her team manage more than one child and their feelings all at once. India offers specific games and approaches that ensure all the children are acknowledged and held as needed. Her profound stories point to the wisdom of children and notably her own daughter’s capacity to be sensitive and attuned to the needs of others. And so we all shout what about sibling rivalry? Yes it happens at times in most households. India’s calm trust of the principles of Aware Parenting gives her the capacity to offer consent based solutions to get to the root of rivalry dynamics. So inspired and grateful for these conversations. To find out about Vicki Plomer’s latest offerings visit: www.vickiplomer.com To contact Sara Devoy and find out more about her work contact@saradevoycraniosacral.com

Ep. 35 Parenting guilt part 1

At many steps on the parenting path most of us parents will feel waves of guilt. It can creep up on us in different ways and can sometimes be hard to distinguish from feelings of grief and anger. Perhaps dressed our child roughly when they went out the door as they were refusing to put on a coat or we forced them into the car screaming against their will. It just didnt feel right to act that way and our actions may have left us with a feeling of failure, confusion or even isolation. These hurtful scenes were not how we envisaged parenting to be, we can feel the impact of such events for weeks or (even years) later. In part two we look at what to do when we feel we have messed up To find out about Vicki Plomer’s latest offerings visit: www.vickiplomer.com To contact Sara Devoy and find out more about her work contact@saradevoycraniosacral.com

Ep. 36 Parenting guilt part 2 & what to do when we feel we have messed up

When Parental guilt visits us we can feel so constricted and hard towards ourselves. We explore here a four part process,integral to Aware Parenting that opens us up to the possibility of repair and connection with ourselves and our children once again. We remind ourselves that when WE mess up, react and behave inappropriately, it is not our fault. It simply shows that we have unmet needs that are deserving of attention and love. As the adult though we do have a responsibility we could say ‘response - ability‘ to create space for playful repair and healing. To find out about Vicki Plomer’s latest offerings visit: www.vickiplomer.com To contact Sara Devoy and find out more about her work contact@saradevoycraniosacral.com

Ep. 37 Being with Guilt with listening partners

In this podcast we discuss the crucial role of listening partnerships in relation to parental guilt. A listening partner offers us the opportunity to speak freely about our feelings without judgment or minimising. Often when we speak about our feelings with our partner or a close friend they may tell us we are ‘over thinking’ or worrying too much. Being listened to by someone who appreciates t core aware parenting principles, gives us the opportunity to unpack lingering ‘guilty’ feelings. It is important to note that when these feelings are left unspoken they can lead to low-grade feelings of depression, lack of confidence and unworthiness. When we fully acknowledge what has happened we can begin to put down these burdens. With gentle encouragement a listening partner may also help us recall times when we offered our children some wonderful moments of connection. Being reminded of what is RIGHT with us will help us gather resources and prepare us once again to enter the crazy parenting dance. Treading that tricky path of being a heartfelt and engaged parent with an awareness for our own limits and needs as well. To find out about Vicki Plomer’s latest offerings visit: www.vickiplomer.com To contact Sara Devoy and find out more about her work contact@saradevoycraniosacral.com