S3E19 When the System Wounds, Who Do We Forgive?

S3E23: Created for Love: Restoring Authentic Desire in a Pornified Culture

Friends,  In this episode, I sit down with Catholic Coach, Husband, and Father, Andrew Lanchoney, to discuss the impact of pornography on the human person and the journey toward healing and freedom.   Together, we explore the deeper questions beneath pornography use: What are we really searching for? Why do so many people feel stuck? And how do we begin restoring authentic desire in a culture that often reduces people to objects for consumption? Drawing on the wisdom of St. John Paul II's Theology of the Body, this conversation offers hope for anyone who has struggled personally, loves someone who has, or wants to better understand the cultural forces shaping our view of human dignity. Freedom is possible. Healing is possible, and authentic love begins when we recognize that we were created for love, not use. Andrew’s Links:  Email: alanchoney@gmail.com  Website: https://www.andrewlanchoneycoaching.com/ [https://www.andrewlanchoneycoaching.com/] Reference: Theology of the Body: https://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/natural-family-planning/catholic-teaching/theology-of-the-body [https://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/natural-family-planning/catholic-teaching/theology-of-the-body] Are you a Christian woman 40+ who has done all the things to heal from trauma and betrayal, but knows deep down forgiveness is still incomplete? Join us for the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release, and Renewal starting tomorrow. Click HERE [https://go.drcarron.com/Freedomtoforgivemasterclass]to learn more and register. Connect with Dr. Carron *       Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGifthttps://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *       Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptinhttps://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] *      Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E22 Tips for Overcoming Forgiveness Anxiety

Friends, What if the anxiety you feel around forgiveness isn’t resistance… but protection? In this episode I explore the very real fear, confusion, and nervous system responses that can surface when we begin considering forgiveness after trauma, betrayal, abuse, or deep emotional pain. Forgiveness is often presented as simple or immediate, but for many people, the thought of forgiving can activate shame, panic, dissociation, hypervigilance, or emotional overwhelm. Why? Because our bodies remember what happened, even when our minds try to move on. Drawing from trauma research, somatic healing principles, and Christian spirituality, I explain how forgiveness anxiety may actually be a signal that deeper healing and safety are needed first. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why forgiveness can feel unsafe in the body * How trauma responses impact our ability to forgive * The connection between embodiment, emotional safety, and interior freedom * Why misunderstanding forgiveness keeps many people stuck * The difference between authentic forgiveness and forced forgiveness * How unresolved trauma can manifest physically through chronic stress and mind-body symptoms * Why becoming a “student of forgiveness” can reduce fear and confusion References:  van der Kolk, Bessel A. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015. [1 [https://catalog.freelibrary.org/Record/2097674/Cite], 2 [https://saalck-uky.primo.exlibrisgroup.com/discovery/fulldisplay?context=L&vid=01SAA_UKY:UKY&docid=alma9941964344802636]]  Levine, P. Retrieved from YouTube, May 26, 2026  https://youtu.be/e4If-3mQtLA?si=KWMOhhWWR_z2KYE4 [https://youtu.be/e4If-3mQtLA?si=KWMOhhWWR_z2KYE4] If forgiveness has felt overwhelming, unsafe, or impossible, this episode offers a gentler path forward — one rooted in honesty, nervous system awareness, compassion, and healing. Are you: * A high-achieving Christian woman? * Survivor of Trauma and Betrayal? * Have done all the things - therapy, wellness classes, spiritual growth practices? * And still feel like something is missing? Join us for the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release, and Renewal.  [https://go.drcarron.com/Freedomtoforgivemasterclass]We start next Wednesday! Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E21 Why Forgiveness Can Feel So Scary

*Content Warning* This episode contains mature content not suitable for minors. Please use discretion when listening.  Friends,  In this episode, I explore one of the most difficult and rarely discussed questions surrounding forgiveness: Who will I be if I let go of unforgiveness? For many people, unforgiveness is not simply an emotional response to pain. It becomes intertwined with identity, safety, survival, and even spirituality. When we’ve lived for years inside betrayal, abuse, abandonment, or grief, forgiveness can feel less like freedom and more like losing ourselves. In this episode, I share my own journey through childhood sexual abuse recovery and explore: * how wounding can become part of our identity, * why the nervous system resists unfamiliar peace, * the attachment we develop to our personal stories, * the spiritual pressure many Christians feel around forgiveness, * and how repeated emotional patterns shape the brain over time. If forgiveness feels scary to you, you are not broken. You may simply be standing at a crossroads between survival and freedom. This episode offers compassion, insight, and hope for those who feel stuck in resentment, grief, fear, or confusion around forgiveness. Reference(s): Van Der Kolk, B.A., The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015. Learn more about the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release & Renewal.  [https://go.drcarron.com/Freedomtoforgivemasterclass] Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E20 Fighting for Hope: Veteran Suicide and the Battle for Belonging

Friends,  As Memorial Day approaches, we pause to remember the men and women who gave their lives in service to our country. But there is another group of veterans quietly fighting battles long after deployment ends, those struggling to transition home, find belonging, and rediscover hope in civilian life. In this deeply important conversation, I’m joined by retired Lt. Colonel John Garcia, host of the Regiment of the Cross podcast, to discuss the invisible struggles many veterans face after returning home from service. John shares the heartbreaking realities surrounding veteran suicide, the emotional and psychological challenges of transitioning into civilian society, and the ways advocacy, agriculture, storytelling, and authentic human connection can help restore dignity, purpose, and hope. Together, we explore: * Why the transition home can feel isolating and disorienting * The importance of belonging and being truly seen * The emotional toll of military service and reintegration * The alarming statistics surrounding veteran suicide * How civilians can better support veterans in their communities * Why storytelling and meaningful work can become pathways to healing This episode is both a Memorial Day reflection and a call to greater compassion, awareness, and connection. If you know someone serving in the military, transitioning home, or quietly struggling, please share this conversation with them. Connect with John Garcia * Listen to the Regiment of the Cross podcast [http://www.youtube.com/@RegimentumCrux] * Email: regimentofthecross@gmail.com [regimentofthecross@gmail.com] Connect with Dr. Carron * Interested in joining Dr. Carron for a forgiveness Masterclass this summer? Join the Freedom to Forgive Interested List. [https://forms.gle/z3fBFSeZzAPdAYzQ6] This course is for Christian women 50+ who have survived trauma, spent years in therapy, are living good lives, but still feel something is missing. In this course, we will journey together through a process of healing, release and renewal.  * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] * Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Limited spots available. Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E19 When the System Wounds, Who Do We Forgive?

Friends,  In a world marked by division, violence, and deep injustice, the question of forgiveness becomes anything but simple. In this deeply personal episode, I reflects on my lived experience of Apartheid, a system that shaped my childhood, understanding of safety, and relationship to truth.  As global events echo familiar patterns of oppression and silenced voices, this episode explores what it means to hold both grief and compassion simultaneously.  Through the life and witness of Nelson Mandela, a man who moved from prisoner to president and chose forgiveness in the face of profound injustice, we are invited into a difficult, necessary question: Who do we forgive when the system itself is the wound? This conversation doesn’t offer easy answers. Instead, it creates space to reflect on: * Trauma stored in the body and how it resurfaces * The impact of hidden or distorted history * The tension between justice and forgiveness * The role of our shared humanity (Ubuntu) in healing * Why forgiveness begins with people, not systems “Systems are made of people, and when people change, systems change.” Whether you are carrying personal wounds or witnessing injustice in the world around you, this episode invites you to consider one small but powerful step: Who is one person you might be ready to forgive? Reference(s) https://www.facebook.com/amarchivepub/videos/nelson-mandela-on-imprisonment-and-forgiveness-1991/2187579574982773/ [https://www.facebook.com/amarchivepub/videos/nelson-mandela-on-imprisonment-and-forgiveness-1991/2187579574982773/] https://youtu.be/hnpIyHzHukc?si=XF8MP2tISiITmP4M [https://youtu.be/hnpIyHzHukc?si=XF8MP2tISiITmP4M] Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.