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Why You Get Triggered (and what to do about it)

52 min · 14 de may de 2026
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In this episode, we dig into family dynamics and why the people closest to us are the ones who trigger us the most. Therapist Alexa Silvaggio explains what's really going on, and how to start breaking out of those cycles. She uses parts work, or Internal Family Systems (IFS), to help you meet the younger versions of yourself that are still quietly running your adult life. We get into people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, and why setting boundaries with the people you love is so hard. If there are patterns you keep trying to change but can't figure out why they stick, we think Alexa can help. New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy. And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help. 0:00 – Why family triggers us the most 6:58 – What to do when you're triggered 10:51 – Internal Family Systems explained 13:58 – Kevin's live parts work session 20:16 – Different types of parts 29:07 – Stop fighting your own mind 33:29 – Your problems are the curriculum 45:53 – Setting boundaries without walls See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

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