Social media & mimetic desire: are your desires your own?

the art of meaningful conversations: how to have deeper connections

Fun fact: this was the 1st podcast episode I ever recorded!!! Canon event!! The seminal Harvard study on Adult Development found that close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives. Those ties protect people from life’s curveballs, help to delay mental and physical decline, and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes, the study found. Our relationships have a powerful influence on our health – so how do we enrich our relationships? Partly through deeper conversation. TIMESTAMPS 00:36: pro-tip – go to networking events where you know NOBODY 01:26: why you should care about deeper conversations & connections w ppl  02:11: staunch advocate of talking to strangers in this house 02:42: serendipitous meetings with strangers 02:51: the story of the beautiful stranger i met under the eiffel tower in paris 06:35: second story of a beautiful stranger i met during the sunset in port melbourne 07:42: meeting god through strangers 08:14: the mindset that there’s ALWAYS something you can learn from someone 09:26: when you reduce the multiplicity of a person into a series of labels, that’s a disservice to both you and them 09:37: nobody is ever above or beneath you + some absurdism 10:36: if you want to be interesting, be interested  10:54: my favourite questions to ask ppl 11:53: go first – smile first, compliment first, be vulnerable first 13:18: approach conversations with the mindset of “how can i help this person?” 13:55: on conversational card games like we’re not really strangers Recommended reading: longitudinal Harvard study, which began in 1938 and studied people over the course of their lifespan to investigate what drives happiness: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/ [https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/] Cover art: “The Dance” by Henri Matisse Ask Natalie an anonymous question to answer on the podcast / newsletter –  https://forms.gle/9oe9Bi11S6vBKKyV8  Subscribe to Futurist Frequency on Substack for email notifications whenever a newsletter or episode goes live (instead of being on Zuck’s internet x) –  https://futuristfrequency.substack.com Join the community over on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/futuristfrequency/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

the "manosphere": how technology is radicalising young men

Trigger warning: i’m going to be talking about gender-based violence & r*pe culture in this episode. If the topic of violence against women brings up heavy emotions for you, please contact 1800 RESPECT in Australia, or Women’s Information and Referral Exchange, AKA WIRE, at 1300 134 130. Online spaces, algorithms & manfluencers are enabling the proliferation of misogyny -- which is leading to real-world terrorism. Here's some things we can do to solve this. TIMESTAMPS 00.40: TW – gender based violence & r*pe culture 01.03: australia’s epidemic of gender-based violence 02.05: misogyny is a multifaceted problem – economic, judicial, social, intersectional 03.35: defining “the manosphere” 04.17: communities within the manosphere 05.01: manosphere overlaps with alt-right & far-right communities 05.50: defining the “incel” 06.17: memes & beliefs of incels 06.59: the concept of “hypergamy” 08.19: how the manosphere influences young men’s beliefs around women 09.43: challenges faced by young men today 09.56: N.E.E.Ts – men not in education, employment or training 10.48: how young men dropping out of education have literacy issues 11.55: paradox of social media – despite how connected we are, we’re more lonely than ever before 12.45: how the architecture of social media feeds into the loneliness epidemic 14.04: how loneliness feeds into nihilism which breeds misogyny and violence 14.48: the radicalisation pipeline according to ex-incels 15.11: how online misogyny leads to real-world terrorism 16.49: director-general of ASIO on the changing face of terrorism 17.29: potential solution #1 empathy 18.25: THE “GENDER WARS” AREN’T A ZERO-SUM GAME 18.43: gender binary is so intellectually lazy and restrictive tbh 20.05: potential solution #3 – educating men on how a capitalist patriarchal system affects us all 20.33: potential solution #4 – parental supervision online & video games 21.14: potential solution #5 – critical thinking & literacy skills in identifying misinformation 21.33: potential solution #6 – holding social media platforms to account for the content published on their platforms 22.26: potential solution #7 – social media platforms should make their content algorithms public 23.53: traditional media stoking gender wars & ragebait content 24.10: potential solution #8 – social media age restrictions should be 16yo minimum + enforced Recommended reading: “Not All Dead White Men: Classics and Misogyny in the Digital Age” by Donna Zuckerberg Futurist Frequency is a tech & wellbeing podcast that helps you disconnect from technology to reconnect with yourself. With several years experience working within the technology industry, Natalie breaks down key tech trends that are shaping our societies, culture, and collective wellbeing, so that we can use technology more mindfully. Ask Natalie an anonymous question to answer on the podcast / newsletter –  https://forms.gle/9oe9Bi11S6vBKKyV8  Subscribe to Futurist Frequency on Substack for email notifications whenever a newsletter or episode goes live (instead of being on Zuck’s internet x) –  https://futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com/] Join the community over on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/futuristfrequency/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

My failures & mistakes in 2023: moving overseas, 75 hard & addiction

The visual culture of social media has a lot to answer for in regard to the almost pathological desire we have to save face and put our best foot forward at all times. And unfortunately, this makes us more fearful of the prospect of failing in public. Despite the stigma associated with failure, we should start celebrating it. Failure is never a loss. Failure is where you learn. In the spirit of celebrating failure, Natalie talks about moving overseas, not listening to her intuition, attempting 75 hard, and playing it safe in life. TIMESTAMPS 00.00: how social media lacks authenticity & honesty  00.40: why we should start celebrating failure  00.54: the japanese concept of kintsugi 01.11: how social media makes us fearful of failing publicly 01.51: attempting 75 hard 06.59: one of the most dangerous approaches to life: playing it safe 09.30: the “career” is one of the most stifling concepts created by humans 11.33: being addicted to overstimulation (screens & nicotine) 15.05: not listening to my intuition when i moved from australia to europe 20.35: being a cuc* for goggins-esque, mind over matter attitudes lol Cover art: “Not to be reproduced” by Rene Magritte (1937) Recommended reading: “The body keeps the score” by Dr Bessel van der Kolk & “Make something wonderful” by Steve Jobs. Futurist Frequency is a tech & wellbeing podcast that helps you disconnect from technology to reconnect with yourself. With several years experience working within the technology industry, Natalie breaks down key tech trends that are shaping our societies, culture, and collective wellbeing, so that we can use technology more mindfully. Ask Natalie an anonymous question to answer on the podcast / newsletter –  https://forms.gle/9oe9Bi11S6vBKKyV8  Subscribe to Futurist Frequency on Substack for email notifications whenever a newsletter or episode goes live (instead of being on Zuck’s internet x) –  https://futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com/] Join the community over on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/futuristfrequency/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Hot girl’s transparent guide to crypto: explaining crypto, its culture and addressing some common crypto myths

Fun fact: I used to work in crypto. I used to get asked all the time to explain how blockchains work & what the real-world applications of crypto are, so here it is. No gatekeeping in this house! I also talk about the clusterf**k that are our governments and the value of deflationary assets in an economic environment where inflation has run away from us.  Disclaimer: everything in this podcast is intended for entertainment purposes ONLY. It is not financial advice. I am not qualified to give financial advice. Please, for the love of all that is holy, do not invest in anything without conducting your own research first. If you ever do decide to invest in crypto, you should be prepared to lose the entire value of your investment.  CHAPTERS 00.41: disclaimer: i’m not an expert!!! this isn’t financial advice!!!! 01.48: history of crypto 02.31: bitcoin being the granddaddy of crypto 02.46: explaining what a peer-to-peer network is using limewire LOL 03.52: explaining what a blockchain is, in simple terms 04.31: explaining consensus mechanisms like Proof of Work 05.25: explaining consensus mechanisms like Proof of Stake 06.43: explaining mining / staking rewards 07.34: fun fact – trading algorithms that buy DOGE whenever Elon tweets abt it 07.55: explaining decentralisation  08.32: crypto is the silliest industry on earth  09.05: explaining crypto culture e.g. bitcoin maxis & laser beam profile pics 09.47: president biden accidentally endorses bitcoin  10.53: watching my redundancy play out in real time cos of twitter beef 12.19: personal anecdote - dickriding elon is also big part of crypto culture 13.48: addressing common public misconceptions abt crypto 14.04: myth #1 crypto is inherently worthless 14.25: myth #2 crypto is only used for illicit means 15.00: crypto adoption by major institutions & banks in australia 15.16: explaining stablecoins 16.48: myth #3 crypto is a bubble 17.33: myth #4 crypto has no intrinsic value 18.56: using ‘triangle of sadness’ film as an example of value 20.37: critiquing capitalism & the fragility of our traditional finance systems 21.00: the value of deflationary assets in a context where govts print money 21.28: inventing money thru fractional reserve banking leads to inflation 23.00: the US’ record debt of $34 TRILLION DOLLARS 23.45: myth #5 crypto isn’t environmentally friendly 25.30: myth #6 crypto isn’t regulated 27.31: myth #7 crypto has no real-world use cases 29.12: on greed & wealth creation within the crypto space & why i left the industry 30.04: money is the most powerful religion in the world Cover art: "Bull run" by Beeple Futurist Frequency is a tech & wellbeing podcast that helps you disconnect from technology to reconnect with yourself. With several years experience working within the technology industry, Natalie breaks down key tech trends that are shaping our societies, culture, and collective wellbeing, so that we can use technology more mindfully. Ask Natalie an anonymous question to answer on the podcast / newsletter –  https://forms.gle/9oe9Bi11S6vBKKyV8 [https://forms.gle/9oe9Bi11S6vBKKyV8]   Subscribe to Futurist Frequency on Substack for email notifications whenever a newsletter or episode goes live (instead of being on Zuck’s internet x) –  https://futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com/] Join the community over on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/futuristfrequency/ [https://www.instagram.com/futuristfrequency/]  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Social media & mimetic desire: are your desires your own?

If you’ve ever wondered why every second person is running marathons & wearing adidas sambas, this episode is for you. Natalie draws on her experience as a former marketer to explain the psychological & philosophical mechanisms that drive desire – and influence all decisions that we make, from how we express ourselves, to certain lifestyle choices, and even our life path.  Chapters 00.00: big chungus 00.30: monthly love letters 01.11: are your desires your own? or something borrowed? 01.37: my litmus test for gauging whether i’m overstimulated and need to touch grass 02.00: social media makes everyone looks like CLONES  02.15: what sambas and run clubs have in common 02.50: rene girard, mimetic desire & desire as a social process 03.49: the false assumption that we want things independently of others 04.39: how any society coping with abundance, and not struggling with scarcity, will suffer from mimesis 06.20: “clean girl aesthetic” 07.00: gatherer instinct, but for beauty products 07.40: WE EXIST WITHIN A CULTURAL CONTEXT!!!!! 08.49: i am not immune to mimetic desire and neither are you  09.48: how to distinguish between desires you’ve borrowed & desires that will truly fulfil you 10.57: the importance of developing your own values & philosophy that guide your decision-making 12.10: social media & how it makes us obsessively aware of what other people have & want & how this is eroding people’s sense of self 12.35: taking ownership of your desires & 5 chimp theory Cover art: “Envy. Reading in the park” by Ignacio Diaz Olano Recommended reading: “Wanting: the power of mimetic desire in everyday life” by Luke Burgis Futurist Frequency is a tech & wellbeing podcast that helps you disconnect from technology to reconnect with yourself. With several years experience working within the technology industry, Natalie breaks down key tech trends that are shaping our societies, culture, and collective wellbeing, so that we can use technology more mindfully. Ask Natalie an anonymous question to answer on the podcast / newsletter –  https://forms.gle/9oe9Bi11S6vBKKyV8  Subscribe to Futurist Frequency on Substack for email notifications whenever a newsletter or episode goes live (instead of being on Zuck’s internet x) –  https://futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com/] Join the community over on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/futuristfrequency/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit futuristfrequency.substack.com [https://futuristfrequency.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]