Passport Personality: You're Not Adventurous, You're Undatable

Who Would Want You?

In this episode, I get uncomfortably honest about my high standards and how often they’re just an excuse. I talk about fast dismissals on the apps, the fear that no one would actually want the full version of me, and the difference between protecting your time and protecting yourself from judgement. If you’ve ever wondered if you’re picky, or just afraid to find out, this one’s for you.

How Do You Know That About Me?

What would you do if a stranger on a dark empty street started telling you what you had for breakfast, your sister's name, your favorite color, things they have no business knowing? That feeling is a version of something happening in dating right now. Someone already has a file on you before you've said a word. They've googled you, stalked your socials, or got the full briefing from a mutual friend. They know you, while you know nothing about them. This episode is about what that information gap actually does to connection, and why being known by a stranger is one of the strangest and most overlooked dynamics in modern dating.

Passport Personality: You're Not Adventurous, You're Undatable

Dating profiles are full of women who've been to 44 countries, have eight trips booked this year, mention travel in their bio four times, and have a detailed list of demands for a partner. Loyalty, presence, consistency, and someone who shows up. This episode is about that contradiction, what travel obsession says in a dating profile, what the relationship you'd be signing up for looks like, and why the person with the most stamps in their passport is often the least equipped to build something real with another person. After living through what that does to a relationship firsthand, I have some things to say about this that you might not like, but you need to hear.

Jealousy Can Be Good For Your Relationship

Most people believe that jealousy indicates something is wrong with them, that secure, emotionally healthy individuals don't experience it, and the goal is to move past it entirely. This episode argues the other side. Jealousy isn't some character flaw, and dismissing it because someone convinced you that the feeling itself was the problem might be the most costly mistake you make in a relationship. This episode explains the two kinds of jealousy, and one of them is telling you something you should probably listen to. I call bullshit on people in open relationships, and discuss what it means when jealousy happens at inappropriate times, and how it can ruin your chances of dating. If you're one of the 8.3 billion people on the planet who've ever been jealous, this one's for your listening pleasure. Website: girlscantellpodcast.com [http://www.girlscantellpodcast.com] Leave a voicemail, listen to all the episodes, and see all the videos

This Is Why You'll Never Date Again

We start with a listener voicemail about something she couldn't stop doing even though she could see it happening. She'd been telling herself she'd get serious about dating again once she reached a goal. Then, when she reached it, instead of dating, she just set another goal. Sound familiar? This episode explains why some of us keep moving the finish line and how to stop doing it.