When Guilt and Grief Collide

Grieving the Loss of Identity: Finding Yourself After Major Life Changes

Grief often comes with change—not just in what we’ve lost, but in who we no longer recognize ourselves to be. In this episode of Grieving Well, Iris Peterson Bryant explores the tender experience of grieving identity loss—the silent sorrow that follows the death of a spouse, a parent, a job, or a role we once cherished. Through personal reflection, Scripture, and gentle encouragement, Iris invites listeners to name this hidden grief and find hope in the becoming. Whether you've walked through a major life transition or simply feel disconnected from who you used to be, this episode will remind you: 🕊️ You are not lost to God—even when you feel lost to yourself. 🕊️ Your grief is valid, even when it's invisible to others. 🕊️ You are not starting from scratch—you’re starting from experience. Plus, Iris shares three powerful journal prompts to help you reflect on identity, transition, and what you’re ready to carry forward.     Mentioned in this Episode: * Psalm 139:14 – “You are fearfully and wonderfully made” * Grieving Well Support Group [https://irispbryant.com/griefsupport] (Eastern NC area) * Journaling prompts for identity reflection ---------------------------------------- 💛 Subscribe to Grieving Well and walk with us as we hold space for sorrow and remember that healing is possible. 🌐 For more support and details on our local gatherings, visit irispbryant.com [https://irispetersonbryant.com]. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit irispetersonbryant.substack.com [https://irispetersonbryant.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

When Guilt and Grief Collide

Key Topics Covered: * Handling the first holiday season without a loved one * The challenge of changing traditional gathering locations * Understanding grief as a journey of moving through, not moving on * Dealing with grief-induced guilt and regret * Practical tools for processing grief Notable Quotes: * "Grief isn't a problem to be solved – it's love that needs to be carried." - David Kessler * "You don't get over it. You just get through it." - Brooke Noel Resources Mentioned: * "Can You Just Sit With Me? Healthy Grieving for the Losses in Life [https://www.amazon.com/Can-You-Just-Sit-Me/dp/1514006219]" by Natasha Smith * "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye [https://www.amazon.com/Wasnt-Ready-Say-Goodbye-Surviving-ebook/dp/B0023ZLLYY/ref=sr_1_1?crid=15LDESZW7G9X5&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.lKUU0sSLHaHFMjr2xuqSP2N0G6huyZiPwb0dKTNLP_fQSF0delCP7j3qjVLN7_GxYnDpSuaRgpdydYjeemNsmNhCUiHVjmH_ZojhfCEhdfvMIcp6jcGHIot8NfVGBSg8fAax1do_KuoXNcdSsFDSbLaVfFITz9aDCwgiUDu_S6sWvb2sBE9aXy44_4JO7bdL23iM73xgFU7KFZK50VWLCm4wu0vvbbs0BSAEEE7UE88.knlKpEYuoOZuGRRjtlntn9KwU_FE8pi7om7uJ5Prm74&dib_tag=se&keywords=i+wasn%27t+ready+to+say+goodbye&qid=1738251798&sprefix=I+Wasn%27t+Read%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-1]" by Brooke Noel * Scripture references: Isaiah 53:3, Isaiah 56:8, 1 Peter 5:7 Practical Tool Shared: Dialogue Journaling Practice for Processing Grief-Related Guilt Connect: * Follow Me on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/IrisPBryant/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/IrisPBryant/] * Grieiving Well Resources * Subscribe to Iris's Insights Substack [https://irispetersonbryant.substack.com/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit irispetersonbryant.substack.com [https://irispetersonbryant.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Anticipatory Grief: Grieving Before Goodbye

Have you ever experienced the pain of losing someone before they're actually gone? This unique form of grief, known as anticipatory grief, can be a powerful and often overwhelming emotion. It occurs when individuals anticipate an impending loss, such as the death of a loved one or the end of a significant relationship. Let’s Connect: Instagram [http://instagram.com/irispbryant] | Facebook [http://facebook.com/irispbryant] Website [http://irispbryant.com] Music by Jonathan Pegues This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit irispetersonbryant.substack.com [https://irispetersonbryant.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Grieving Well on the Anniversary of a Loved One's Passing

* Anniversaries of a loved one's death can reactivate intense grief reactions like intrusive thoughts, yearning, anger, anxiety and depression * Iris launched her "Grieving Well" podcast on the 1st anniversary of her husband David's passing * The day was excruciatingly painful despite efforts to do self-care activities like a massage, beach visit, lunch * A text from David's best friend unleashed a wave of emotions as the shared grief struck her * Her children and other loved ones intentionally offered love and support in tangible ways. Key Takeaways: * There is no right or wrong way to experience an anniversary of loss * Allow yourself to feel whatever arises - sadness, anger, anxiety, relief after the day * Plan ahead - take off work, visit meaningful places, write a letter, look at photos * Lean on your support system * Don't judge your emotions - grief is unpredictable * Practice self-compassion * Grief is "love with no place to go" after loss (quote from Robin Roberts’ Interview with Regina King [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTL63wRVLYY]) * “Grief is a receipt.. . .It shows you loved someone deeply” (quote from Think You’ll Be Happy: Moving Through Grief with Grit, Grace, and Gratitude [https://www.amazon.com/Think-Youll-Be-Happy-Gratitude/dp/B0BT3S53D7/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2YTKO2JPXIC8K&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.sp9nJGD5JnXAubu1CmFdEj3NTmme3_zL-RAxW0SYQHFoy54rUxuWUohFtpc0mz6fmLK4mRIu9THxSsXrsB4_tLOroQatgiDL7xhbdRYkJmMVA6tPc22UQDaDxD6lZ-ICTPmLGQMvjdTBLI695ytOam2-THzndOErjQXOO5Ux6LBCBV3Ows8PINXfpl48dqkrxTmsONG8NZBrciUaN67_z7WICNjhmG8Rj5jww7QLVhA.Y3PewZWEgixxvpO7_sWHKv6jjq9-bWcN7u3vjDlNjaA&dib_tag=se&keywords=think+you%27ll+be+happy+nicole+avant&qid=1715832434&sprefix=think+you%27ll+be+%2Caps%2C217&sr=8-1] by Nicole Avant) Suggestions: * Feel the grief but also feel grateful for the love you shared * Remembrance keeps the memory alive in a meaningful way  * Find a support group or grief-informed therapist if needed * Have compassion for yourself through this challenging journey Let’s Connect: Instagram [http://instagram.com/irispbryant] | Facebook [http://facebook.com/irispbryant] Website [http://irispbryant.com]   This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit irispetersonbryant.substack.com [https://irispetersonbryant.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Makes You Wanna Holler: The Physical Impact of Grief

In this episode of "Grieving Well," host Iris shares her personal journey through grief following the loss of her husband, David. With raw honesty and vulnerability, Iris explores the physical toll of grief and offers practical advice for those navigating similar experiences. From chest pains to emotional breakdowns, Iris sheds light on the physical manifestations of grief and emphasizes the importance of seeking support and fortifying one's spiritual foundation. Key Points: * Iris reflects on her own experience of physical pain in the aftermath of her husband's passing, describing moments of chest discomfort and emotional exhaustion. * She shares the insights she gained from reading the book I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye by Brooke Noel and Pamela Blair [https://www.amazon.com/Wasnt-Ready-Say-Goodbye-Surviving/dp/1402212216], which details the physical symptoms of grief. * Iris recounts her visit to the doctor's office and subsequent diagnosis of prolonged bereavement, shedding light on the lesser-known aspects of grieving. * Three key suggestions are offered for those dealing with grief: talk to someone, seek medical attention if necessary, and fortify your spiritual foundation. * She concludes with a message of hope and encouragement, reminding listeners that they are not alone in their journey through grief. Resources Mentioned: * Book: "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye" by Brooke Noel and Pamela Blair [https://www.amazon.com/Wasnt-Ready-Say-Goodbye-Surviving/dp/1402212216] * Support Group: GriefShare [https://www.griefshare.org/] (a Christian-based grief support group) Connect with Iris: * Website: IrisPBryant.com [https://irispbryant.com] * Email: iris@irispbryant.com [iris@irispbryant.com] * Social Media: Facebook [https://Facebook.com/irispbryant] | Instagram [https://instagram.com/irispbryant] *   * Support the Show: * If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grieving-well/id1739310719]. * Share this episode with someone who may benefit from its message. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit irispetersonbryant.substack.com [https://irispetersonbryant.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]