The Missing Link in Sexual Pleasure: Your Nervous System with Lisa West | Episode 41

The Missing Link in Sexual Pleasure: Your Nervous System with Lisa West | Episode 41

Have you ever wondered why it can be so hard to stay in your body during moments of intimacy? This episode explores the deep connection between your nervous system, your body, and your capacity for pleasure. Lisa West is a physical therapist, bodyworker, and yoga practitioner of over 30 years and the author of the book Follow the Feeling, A Roadmap to Emotional Freedom. She has worked with clients navigating midlife, chronic pain, and trauma and brings deep insight into sexual medicine, pelvic health, and nervous system regulation. In this episode, Jay and Lisa discuss: ► The shift from constant upward, productive energy to honoring the downward-flowing energy (apana vayu) of the body. ► Why arousal requires a baseline parasympathetic (relaxed) state and how to find the sweet spot of flow between relaxation and stimulation. ► The misconception that pain during sex or pelvic exams is normal, and how pelvic floor physical therapy can help. ► The truth about women's arousal, including the fact that only about 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone. ► Simple, fluid movements and grounding practices—like softening the jaw to access the pelvis—that help you stay present and connected to yourself. Learn more about Lisa West ► Website: https://lisawestwellness.com [https://lisawestwellness.com/] ► Instagram: @LisaYogini ► Other links: Follow the Feeling on Amazon and courses on Teachable If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields [https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields] Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com [https://jaymoonfields.com/] ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ [https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/] ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B [https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B] ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching [https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching] ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/] Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

How to Stop People Pleasing And Emotional Outsourcing with Beatriz Albina | Episode 40

People pleasing, perfectionism and codependence, oh my! Are you exhausted from constantly managing the people around you and performing for safety? If so, this is the episode you need if you want to stop looking outward for validation and actually feel safe being yourself. Beatriz Victoria Albina is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Somatic Coach, and the author of the bestselling book End Emotional Outsourcing. She has worked with humans socialized as women looking to regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, and brings deep insight into untangling codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing. In this episode, Jay and Bea discuss: ► What "emotional outsourcing" really means and how it's a shame-free replacement term for codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. ► The sneaky mixed nervous system state of "functional freeze," where you might look like an impressive, highly productive overachiever on the outside but are totally frozen to your feelings on the inside. ► Why you need to stop viewing these behaviors as individual character flaws and start celebrating them as the brilliant childhood survival skills they once were. ► How performing for self-worth and living in a constant state of panic might literally be messing with your poop and digestion (because science!). ► The game-changing difference between being self-aware and being self-referential, plus a sweet little somatic grounding practice to help you reconnect with the earth. Learn more about Beatriz Victoria Albina ► Website: https://beatrizalbina.com/ [https://beatrizalbina.com/] ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp [https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp] ► YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina [https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina] ► Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022] ► End Emotional Outsourcing Book: https://bookshop.org/p/books/end-emotional-outsourcing-how-to-overcome-your-codependent-perfectionist-and-people-pleasing-habits-beatriz-victoria-albina-np-mph-sep/54b675f3d3e5154a?ean=9781538766439&next=t [https://bookshop.org/p/books/end-emotional-outsourcing-how-to-overcome-your-codependent-perfectionist-and-people-pleasing-habits-beatriz-victoria-albina-np-mph-sep/54b675f3d3e5154a?ean=9781538766439&next=t] If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields [https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields] Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Fun Vibes 08:03 Fawning vs. Emotional Outsourcing 12:39 Survival Skills vs. Flaws 15:10 Compassion for Our Inner Parts 17:16 Teaching New Skills to Our Inner Child 18:15 Dating Under-Functioners and Emotional Immaturity 20:52 Navigating Emotional Isolation 22:27 Creating Safety and Belonging 24:15 The Importance of Community in Healing 25:54 Understanding Societal Influences on Emotional Health 27:25 Generational Differences in Emotional Awareness 30:03 The Role of Science in Emotional Understanding 32:46 The Gut-Brain Connection 35:35 Practicing Presence for Emotional Well-being 39:15 Self-Referential Awareness vs. Outsourcing 41:09 The Journey to Your Favorite Life 43:07 Shifting Perspectives on Thought Work 46:20 The Importance of Somatic Experience 50:29 Catalysts for Change and Liberation 55:30 Grounding Practices for Connection Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com [https://jaymoonfields.com] ► Yours Truly Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly [https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly] (Code heywait-100 for $100 off!) ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B [https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B] ► Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching [https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching] ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ [https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/] ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/] Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

The Real Reason You Feel Anxious About Money with Rahkim Sabree | Episode 39

I used to think I was just "bad with money." After my divorce at 23, I walked away from everything and gave my ex-husband all my savings out of guilt, stepping into a money story defined by debt, scarcity, and shame. But now I understand that my problem wasn't a lack of financial literacy—it was financial trauma, and if you've ever felt a tightness in your chest when checking your bank account, or felt anxiety even though you have "enough" on paper, this episode explores how your relationship with money is often actually about safety, identity, and your nervous system trying to protect you. Rahkim Sabree is a financial therapist, Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC®), Trauma of Money Certified Practitioner, TEDx Speaker, and the author of Overcoming Financial Trauma. He has worked with individuals, corporate teams, HR professionals, and financial advisors, and brings deep insight into bridging the gap between financial literacy and trauma-informed care. In this episode, Jay and Rahkim discuss: ► Why financial advice often feels incomplete, and the difference between financial therapy and financial planning. ► Why you're not "bad with money"—and why your perceived "bad decisions" are actually normal nervous system responses to abnormal circumstances. ► How fight, flight, freeze, and fawn show up in your daily money behaviors, from overworking to actively avoiding your bank account. ► The ways jobs, hustle culture, and entrepreneurial ventures can reinforce financial trauma. ► What it sounds like to actually set financial boundaries, talk about money more honestly, and find healing in community rather than isolation. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Financial Therapy 05:05 Understanding Financial Trauma 06:57 The Human Aspect of Money 09:28 Defining Financial Trauma 11:43 The Impact of Wealth on Trauma 13:30 Navigating Financial Systems 14:47 Personal Stories and Financial Decisions 17:14 The Concept of Financial Literacy 20:02 Responses to Financial Threats 22:52 Flight, Fight, Freeze, and Fawn in Financial Contexts 27:30 The Impact of Fawning in Relationships 29:46 Economic Warfare and Workplace Trauma 31:31 The Misconceptions of Entrepreneurship 33:31 Financial Boundaries and Relationships 36:53 Community and Financial Healing 46:34 Shifting Perspectives on Financial Trauma Learn more about Rahkim Sabree ►Instagram: @rahkimsabree ►Website: Overcomingfinancialtrauma.com [http://overcomingfinancialtrauma.com] ►Substack: Rahkimsabree.substack.com [http://rahkimsabree.substack.com/] If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields [https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields] Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com [https://jaymoonfields.com]► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ [https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/] ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B [https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B] ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching [https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching] ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/] Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

How to Read Your Nervous System Signals with Jay Moon Fields | Episode #38

When life gets overwhelmingly "lifey," your nervous system might be sending you signals of perceived danger and threat. This episode explores the power of pausing to track the physical sensations happening in your body and offers a simple path to reconnect with the quiet, peaceful trust inside you. Jay Moon Fields is a coach and educator specializing in nervous system regulation and somatic awareness. She has worked extensively with successful professionals (who are also just ordinary people) to help them realign with their essential selves by first meeting themself at the physiological level. In this episode, Jay discusses: ► How to reconnect to trust when everything feels uncertain and you are consumed by fear ► The specific imagery that brings her back to a sense of calm every damn time ► How to track your nervous system in real time by paying attention to bodily sensations ► The distinct patterns of thoughts, physical sensations, and behaviors associated with the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn stress responses ►A moment to reconnect with a sense of okness in your body ► Why the world desperately needs more regulated nervous systems right now and how you can be a part of it Learn more about Jay's Programs ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com [https://jaymoonfields.com] ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ [https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/] ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B [https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B] ► Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching [https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching] ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/] Have a question for the podcast? Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com [viv@firstclickva.com] For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com [hello@jaymoonfields.com] Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Signs, Strengths + Struggles of Highly Sensitive People with Muriel Kosovsky | Episode #37

You have pyrobably heard it your whole life: "You're too sensitive." If you feel things deeply, get overwhelmed easily, and notice every detail of everything, you might be wondering why you process the world with such extraordinary depth. Today we explore what it actually means to be a Highl Sensitive Person (HSP) and why it is a neurophysiological trait rather than a stress response. Muriel Kosovsky is a business owner and coach who has worked internationally for over two decades as a teacher, senior leader, and mentor to support highly sensitive leaders and contributors navigating the workplace. She's the author of the forthcoming book, HSPedia, a comprehensive blueprint for highly sensitive people. In this episode, Jay and Muriel Kosovsky discuss: ► The four levels of sensitivity that can be activated in highly sensitive people ► Why many HSPs struggle at work—and the kinds of support that actually help ► The non-negotiable qualities HSPs need for relationships to be sustainable and healthy ► The surprising variant of HSP that craves intensity, adventure, and even danger ► The one quality successful HSPs tend to organize their lives around Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Personal Journeys03:02 Understanding the HSP Trait and Its Impact05:51 Strategies for Managing Sensitivity in Daily Life09:10 Identifying HSP Traits and Characteristics11:47 The Connection Between HSP and High Sensation Seeking14:58 Navigating Life as a Highly Sensitive Person17:56 Ambition and Drive in Highly Sensitive Individuals24:07 The Ambition and Drive of Highly Sensitive People27:00 Challenges in Professional Relationships for HSPs30:37 Navigating Power Dynamics in Relationships33:16 The Importance of Non-Judgmental Relationships36:40 Lessons Learned as a Highly Sensitive Person39:39 Introducing HSPedia: A Resource for HSPs45:47 Practices for Staying Grounded as an HSP Learn more about Muriel Kosovsky ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/murielkosovsky/ ► Book waitlist and newsletter: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe9ByfcCz2jio8OxKhzWI68LxxfGKr6w3QUEXLUbQ2Fey1jFw/viewform If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields [https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields] Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com [https://jaymoonfields.com]► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ [https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/] ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B [https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B] ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching [https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching] ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/] Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com [viv@firstclickva.com]For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant