We Took the Attachment Test and It Exposed Everything

Season 1 Finale: Recap, Reflections, and Summer Break Plans

The season one finale is finally here! We’ve officially made it through eleven episodes of deep dives, hard truths, and a whole lot of chaos. In this finale, we’re looking back at the journey of Honey, We're Not Okay—from navigating the messy world of queer dating to all of the unlearning we’ve done along the way. In this episode, we talk about: * Season 1 Highlights: A recap of our favorite moments and the topics that hit the hardest. * The Summer Break: Why we’re stepping away to "live more life" and gather new stories for the next chapter. * What’s Next: A sneak peek into what we’re planning for the hiatus and the road to Season 2. We’re not going away forever—just taking a beat to recharge. Stay connected with us for mini-episodes and "car talks" throughout the summer. Thank you for being part of this first season! If you’ve enjoyed the show, please leave us a review and share your favorite episode with a friend. Follow us on Spotify to get notified the second we’re back for Season 2.

Our First Q&A: Spilling Everything You Wanted to Know

We’re opening the floor to your most intrusive questions—and we aren’t holding back. 🏳️‍🌈 This week, we’re stepping away from the scripts to answer the anonymous questions you sent us on Instagram. We’re getting into the parts of our experience that we usually only talk about in the group chat: from the cliquey nature of our community to the exhaustion of the "savior complex" in toxic relationships. We also dive deep into the rules of engagement. Can you really survive a long-distance poly relationship? Is dating a friend’s ex ever okay? In this Q&A, we unpack: * Being Black & Queer in Arizona: The beautiful but sometimes cliquey reality of navigating the Black queer community. * The "Insecure" Era: Why our lives feel like a mix of Issa Rae and Drake’s Marvin's Room. * Toxic Traits & Red Flags: Unlearning the "savior complex" and why villainizing an ex on the first date is a major red flag. * Desire & Intimacy: How often we think couples should actually be having sex, and what makes us feel truly desired beyond physical attraction Rate the podcast if you’re enjoying the chaos, and we’ll see you next Wednesday!

We Realized Monogamy Isn't the Only Way to Love

Is there only one way to love, or have we just been sold a dream that doesn’t fit? 🏡 This week on Honey, We’re Not Okay!, we’re putting monogamy and polyamory side-by-side to see where we actually land. We’re getting honest about the "Standard American Dream" of one partner and why that feels like a cage to some and a safety net to others. From Meccah's experience navigating multiple relationships to Valerie’s need for clear boundaries and "permission," we’re breaking down the terminology (as best we can)—ENM, Ambiamory, and the complexities of Mono-Poly dynamics. In this episode, we discuss: * The Mono-Poly Tension: Can a monogamous person and a polyamorous person actually make it work? * Our Personal Shifts: Why we’re moving away from "Serial Monogamy" and toward something more honest. * The "Greedy" Myth: Deconstructing the stigma that being poly means you’re just afraid of commitment. * Safety & Security: Things we see as a green flag in an open dynamic, not a restriction. Whether you’re strictly monogamous or out here living your best ENM life, we’re unpacking why we believe love should be free, however you choose to define it. Rate the pod and check in on us next Wednesday!

We Took the Attachment Test and It Exposed Everything

Are you the one double-texting, or the one leaving them on read for three days? 📱 This week on Honey, We’re Not Okay!, Valerie and Meccah are diving into the world of attachment theory. We’re taking the attachment style quiz and getting honest about our results—from being "secure" at work to "preoccupied" in romance. We also discuss how coming out and dating women completely shifted our nervous systems, and why we’re now confronting anxious thoughts we never had before. In this episode, we unpack: * The Four Styles: Secure, Anxious, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant. * The Gender Shift: Why dating women feels like a "different emotional situation" than dating men. * The Toxic Cycle: Why the anxious-avoidant trap is so addicting. Take the Quiz: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjBmeGhiQ1pxWFVDNEhmaTRuSG9mT3lOYzRpQXxBQ3Jtc0ttNHp6QXFMTUZZeWotbnE5a0VtYkNEaU1VTnJuRWJ1Zlk2OVR5NlppS3lIbDhzVnZ0T1g1MnNMekpFT0tlb0dZVzlYN2M5U2RfTTByX2dYZ0s0VjQ1SDdFZnZPOW1HN3ZfNkg1ckxtVEdkYUo1Yk1wcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fquiz.attachmentproject.com%2F&v=C5osThM5sBU] Whether you’re a "repeat offender" in relationships or just trying to heal your inner child, this one is for you. New episodes every Wednesday!

Spirituality, Manifestation & Self-Care: Staying Sane When Life is Trying You

Welcome back to Honey, We're Not Okay with Valerie and Meccah. In case you were wondering, we’re still not okay. This week, we are having an honest conversation about the intersection of spirituality, manifestation, and the reality of day-to-day stress. We often hear about the "perfect" spiritual routine, but what happens when life gets overwhelming and those habits fall to the wayside? In this episode, we discuss our personal struggles with staying consistent and how we’re using tools like The Artist's Way and morning pages to find our footing again. We dive into the nuance of manifestation for the black queer community and how to prioritize self-care without the pressure of being perfect. In this episode, we cover: * The challenge of maintaining a spiritual routine during high-stress periods. * Our experience with The Artist’s Way and the impact of daily journaling. * How neurodivergence plays into habit-building and self-care. * Practical ways to approach manifestation when you’re feeling burnt out. Thank y'all again for checking on us, and make sure to come back next Wednesday!