When Ambition Becomes Avoidance | Burnout, Identity & Leadership

Why You Can't Outwork a Belief You Never Chose | Burnout, Identity & the RAS

Before next week's conversation with young entrepreneur Kai Brown, Renae gets personal — and goes deep on something most burnout conversations completely miss: the beliefs you never actually chose. In this solo episode, Renae shares a story she's never told publicly — about watching her mom lose her career and her lungs to something completely outside her control, and how that moment quietly wired a belief in Renae that would show up decades later as self-sabotage she couldn't explain. Because here's what nobody tells you about burnout: you can change your habits, your schedule, your job title — and still feel stuck. Not because you're broken, but because the belief underneath hasn't moved. And until it does, you'll keep renovating the house without ever touching the foundation. In this episode, Renae breaks down: — Why the beliefs driving your burnout aren't actually yours — How your reticular activating system filters reality to match what you already believe — Why behavior change keeps failing without identity work underneath it — What to sit with before next week's conversation with Kai Brown Plus — a sneak peek at something Renae is building for women who are tired of feeling unheard and misunderstood in their relationships — The Sheepdog Framework. 🔗 Burn the Blueprint: [Burn the Blueprint: 4 week Identity Reset [https://burn-the-blueprint.my.canva.site]]  📩 Work with Renae: [waywardwellnesscoaching.org [https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org/coaching]] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2560329/support] Find more info on how to work with Renae - [ Wayward Wellness Coaching [https://waywardwellnesscoaching.carrd.co] ] CONNECT ON SOCIALS: LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/] Website → https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org [https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org/] Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/] Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/]

The Lie of Constant Consistency | Burnout, Presence & Nervous System Recovery

What happens when you put the laptop down, miss a week, and something better gets built in the silence?  This week on The Weekly Recharge, I'm getting honest about skipping last week's newsletter — the guilt spiral, the conditioning that says stopping equals failing, and the choice I made to be present with my mom instead. And what formed in that quiet? The clearest vision yet for something I've been building for a long time.  In this episode:  → Why I went quiet last week — and why I'm not sorry  → The "consistency at all costs" conditioning and what I chose instead  → The Sheepdog Framework: a new approach I'm developing for women who are tired of fighting to be heard  → This week's Hustle Rebels Podcast guest: Amaury Panciano — 26-year US Navy Master Chief and USS Cole bombing survivor — on the real cost of being the person everyone depends on If you've ever felt like you were performing for an audience that probably didn't notice you were gone anyway — this one's for you.  🎙️ Listen to the Hustle Rebels Podcast: [Hustle Rebels Podcast [https://hustle_rebels_podcast.buzzsprout.com]]  📩 Subscribe to The Weekly Recharge newsletter: [Subscribe HERE] [https://wayward-wellness-coaching.kit.com]  📚 Previous newsletter issues: [The Weekly Recharge [https://wayward-wellness-coaching.kit.com]] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2560329/support] Find more info on how to work with Renae - [ Wayward Wellness Coaching [https://waywardwellnesscoaching.carrd.co] ] CONNECT ON SOCIALS: LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/] Website → https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org [https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org/] Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/] Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/]

From USS Cole Survivor to Navy Master Chief: Leadership, Burnout, and Knowing When Enough Is Enough

What does it cost to be the person everyone depends on — and who's counting that cost for you? Amaury Ponciano spent 26 years as a U.S. Navy Master Chief, survived the USS Cole bombing at 18, and built a career leading hundreds of sailors through some of the most high-stakes environments imaginable. But the most honest thing he'll tell you isn't about the mission. It's about what he almost lost chasing it. In this episode we get into the leadership behavior that nearly cost a sailor everything, why "mission first" is only half the phrase, what finally made him choose his family over a higher rank — and what he'd say to anyone stuck in the cycle of sacrificing more to achieve more. If you've ever felt like the cost of your ambition is quietly compounding interest you didn't agree to pay — this one's for you. Connect with Amaury + his book: Anchored in Resilience by Amaury Ponciano — Amazon (print + audiobook) [https://www.amazon.com/Anchored-Resilience-Overcoming-Adversity-Awareness-ebook/dp/B0FBLJ1SCX/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2ISISVJ2U8HVQ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.8HyHLOGp4WIoKcVh-KE_gmlir9RcTAzlxWLiEo67Z5jGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.VrQbq2lhf21jP6YAnxKhN7UX1vCEsqMuiIvmFZpQjTE&dib_tag=se&keywords=amaury+ponciano&qid=1778779634&sprefix=amaury+ponc%2Caps%2C141&sr=8-1]  🔗 LinkedIn: Amaury-Ponciano [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amaury-ponciano/] Subscribe, share, and support the show Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2560329/support] Find more info on how to work with Renae - [ Wayward Wellness Coaching [https://waywardwellnesscoaching.carrd.co] ] CONNECT ON SOCIALS: LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/] Website → https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org [https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org/] Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/] Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/]

When Ambition Becomes Avoidance | Burnout, Identity & Leadership

What happens when your identity becomes survival? In this episode of Hustle Rebels, Renae unpacks the hidden cost of living in constant performance mode — especially for high achievers, leaders, first responders, parents, and professionals who feel responsible for holding everything together. This episode explores: * Why burnout is often tied to identity, not laziness * The difference between strength and suppression * How survival mode disconnects you from yourself and others * Why ambition can become avoidance dressed up as productivity * The emotional cost of always being “the strong one” * How nervous system overload compounds over time * Why purpose alone doesn’t protect you from burnout Renae also shares a personal first responder story that shaped how she views emotional suppression, leadership, and the pressure to keep functioning no matter the cost. Plus, a preview of next week’s conversation with retired U.S. Navy Master Chief Petty Officer Amaury Ponciano — a conversation about trauma, purpose, resilience, leadership, and what happens when the mission ends. If you’ve been running on fumes and calling it “drive,” this episode is for you. Want to work with Renae? Click here! [https://waywardwellnesscoaching.carrd.co] Or shoot her an email at waywardwellnesscoaching@gmail.com Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2560329/support] Find more info on how to work with Renae - [ Wayward Wellness Coaching [https://waywardwellnesscoaching.carrd.co] ] CONNECT ON SOCIALS: LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/] Website → https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org [https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org/] Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/] Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/]

How Your Nervous System Uses the Senses to Regulate Stress and Burnout

What if your body already knows how to regulate stress — and you’ve just been trained to ignore it? Subscribe to The Weekly Recharge HERE [https://wayward-wellness-coaching.kit.com] In this episode of the Weekly Recharge audio series, Renae shares a personal story from a recent Brainspotting training in Pasadena and the unexpected nervous system lesson that followed: how scent, sensory input, and the body’s instinctive cravings may reveal more about emotional regulation than most people realize. We explore: * Why smell has a direct connection to the limbic system * The surprising overlap between Brainspotting and sensory regulation * How burnout and stress disconnect people from their body’s signals * Why nervous system healing isn’t always cognitive * A simple sensory anchor practice you can try this week Renae also reflects on identity loss, nervous system survival mode, and her conversation with Aaron Tisdale Parker about rebuilding yourself after career disruption and major life change. If you’re a high achiever, first responder, caregiver, or someone constantly operating in overdrive, this episode will help you reconnect with the signals your body has been trying to send all along. Subscribe to Hustle Rebels for conversations around burnout recovery, nervous system regulation, identity, leadership, and sustainable performance without glorifying exhaustion. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2560329/support] Find more info on how to work with Renae - [ Wayward Wellness Coaching [https://waywardwellnesscoaching.carrd.co] ] CONNECT ON SOCIALS: LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/waywardwellnesscoaching/] Website → https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org [https://www.waywardwellnesscoaching.org/] Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/wayward_wellness_coaching/] Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Wayward-Wellness-Coaching-61566792351111/]