30. The Mackins on Parenting Myths, Mistakes, and Memories

34. Brandon Mergard on Why Leadership Isn't About You

Leadership lives or dies in how other people experience you. This conversation between Brandon Mergard and Alex Culley reframes leadership as a social process, where one recurring behavior can quietly erode trust and frustrate teams. The key shift is moving from abstract self-improvement to actively understanding the “rubric” others use to judge your effectiveness and then working with it, not guessing at it. A central idea is the power of feedforward. Instead of looking backward and risking defensiveness, feedforward asks:  “Here’s how I want to show up. But what should I do to get there?”  It’s a simple but uncomfortable habit. You go directly to your stakeholders, be that your team, peers, or boss, and ask for specific, actionable input. Vague praise isn’t enough, and conflicting advice is to be expected. It’s all relevant data. Your job is to synthesize it into better judgment. Leadership becomes a dialogue, not a declaration.  Where most leaders fall short is failing to follow up. Consistency is what turns good intentions into visible change. When people see you listening, trying, and improving over time, trust builds. That’s because leadership is a social process. It requires showing up in people’s lives, making them feel heard, and aligning expectations continuously. The takeaway is practical and immediate. Step one, ask for feedforward. Step two, say “thank you”. And step three, close the loop. Done consistently, these small actions compound into stronger relationships, better performance, and leadership that people feel and see.

33. Robert Royston on Breaking the Stereotype

What if the hardest parts of your story became your competitive edge? Eight-time swing world champion and six-time country world champion Robert Royston joins us to unpack how poverty, instability, and abuse became the forge for world-class craft, leadership, and perspective. Robert doesn’t romanticize pain; he names it, learns from it, and translates it into a system anyone can use. Robert shares the three rules that guided his rise: the world isn’t fair, be honest about your abilities, and do the work. He tells the “Santa” story that will stop you in your tracks, the night he lost a world title at 24 and thought his career was over, and the shift that gave him permission to appreciate success without losing his edge. He also reveals how martial arts mentors killed victimhood and taught him to focus on controllables. We dig into parenting with intention: why his kids had to “find a thing,” why limits on screens built discipline, and how exposure to poverty nurtured empathy without recreating trauma. Robert offers a practical path to identity. Reflect on what’s always been there, name your influences honestly, and evaluate your abilities against the work you will actually do. If the data says you’re misaligned, you don’t need a Plan B, you can choose a new Plan A today.

32. Alex Seiler on Chasing the Right Career for the Wrong Version of Yourself

This episode explores how life-altering moments can fundamentally reshape our definition of success, work, and legacy. After losing his mother, globally recognized people leader Alex Seiler confronted the illusion of unlimited time and re-evaluated goals that no longer fit who he had become. Grief became a clarifying force, prompting deeper questions about identity, purpose, and what it truly means to live, and be known for, a meaningful life, rather than chasing success for an outdated version of oneself. From that clarity emerged a reimagined approach to career and leadership. Alex shares why he stepped away from traditional career ladders to design a portfolio career blending executive leadership, advising, writing, speaking, and partnerships, each chosen for income, impact, learning, or legacy. The conversation challenges narrow definitions of loyalty, titles, and progression, arguing instead for values alignment, optionality, and being “brilliant at the basics.” Practical insights span early-career guidance (building transferable skills, saving for choice, finding community beyond one employer) to senior leadership lessons on pacing change, meeting organizations where they are, and leading without judgment. At its core, the episode is about relationships, reflection, and intentional change. Alex discusses building a personal board of advisors, creating trust through accountability, and making reflection a daily practice rather than a crisis response. The conversation ultimately returns to legacy: not “Have I been successful?” but “What do I want to be known for next?” For anyone questioning whether their career still fits the life they want, this episode offers a thoughtful, humane blueprint for choosing work that evolves with who you are becoming.

31. Srikar Bhagavatula on the Burden of Should

Success rarely follows a straight line, and this episode leans into that truth. Srikar Bhagavatula shares how lofty goals, self-doubt, and the pressure of "should" can quietly paralyze us, especially when we compare our messy, nonlinear paths to the curated success stories of our peers. From research that refuses to give clear answers to careers that detour far from the original plan, Srikar reframes uncertainty as part of the work. The real challenge isn’t getting everything right, but staying honest to the process and resisting the false narrative that everyone else is ahead. At the heart of the conversation is the distinction between "good shoulds" and "bad shoulds". "Bad shoulds" are driven by external expectations, outcomes, and fear of failure; "good shoulds" are grounded in values like curiosity, integrity, and effort. Srikar reflects on how early role models, teachers who celebrated being proven wrong and parents who modeled quiet honesty, shaped his compass, while acknowledging that many people must later rewire their values through experience, therapy, and reflection. Growth, like values, is nonlinear, and learning to ask better questions often matters more than finding immediate answers. Unexpectedly, the dance floor becomes a metaphor for leadership and life. Through West Coast Swing, Srikar learned the value of listening, adaptability, and frequent, low-stakes failure, putting himself in situations where being uncomfortable was unavoidable. Whether in research, careers, or relationships, progress comes from choosing challenges that stretch you without breaking you. This episode is a reminder that failure is part of the path and that when you define your why clearly, timing and outcomes have a way of catching up.

30. The Mackins on Parenting Myths, Mistakes, and Memories

Have you ever realized that parenting is the ultimate leadership training ground? In this deeply honest episode, Jon and Danielle Mackin invite listeners into a raw conversation about family, faith, and the lessons they keep learning.  They admit that nothing exposes your blind spots faster than raising kids. As Danielle jokes, “I was the best parent until I became a parent.” The two reflect on how the journey of nurturing children has required them to reparent themselves, all while learning grace, patience, and how to surrender control in a world that constantly tests them.   The Mackins open up about the early years, the evolution of their relationship with control, and the art of loving each child uniquely. They share how faith has become the solid rock beneath their family, and how leadership at home often mirrors leadership in life: you can’t protect those you love from every hard thing, but you can walk beside them as they learn. With vulnerability and warmth, they explore how moms and dads often see parenting differently, and how those contrasts can strengthen rather than divide.  The episode also explores modern realities such as raising kids on “their parents’ social media” and capturing family life in real time. Jon and Danielle reflect on the lasting gift of transparency: giving their children the ability to “know them later” through stories, recordings, and the honest encyclopedia of what it took to raise them. Whether you’re a parent, leader, or both, this conversation is a reminder that leadership begins in the home, that faith steadies the chaos, and that sometimes the most profound lessons are the ones we have to learn the hard way.