An Episode for Immigrant Parents

Parenting & Divorce

You and your husband decide to get a divorce, how do you tell the kids? We spoke to Dr. Andrew Rosen [https://www.drandrewrosen.com/] PHD, ABPP, FAACP to find out how to tell your kids you are getting divorces, how to get divorced without hurting your child and much more. Dr. Rosen founded the Center for Treatment of Anxiety and Mood Disorders. [https://www.centerforanxietydisorders.com/2016/08/18/divorce-therapy-for-children/]

The Vital Role of DEI in a Child's Education

Diversity Equity & Inclusion is under attack, so we spoke to Dr. Iheoma Iruka [https://sph.unc.edu/adv_profile/iheoma-u-iruka-phd/] about why it is important, in early childhood education, especially in predominantly white communities. If your classroom is mostly white, we talked about how to raise children who will be allies. Iruka also addresses the challenges faced by white teachers in diverse classrooms and suggests strategies for building relationships and fostering empathy. She highlights the significance of Head Start, which supports children and families holistically, and advocates for inclusive curricula and materials. Dr. Iruka is a tenured professor in the Department of Maternal Child Health at the University of North Carolina Gillings School of Global Public Health. Dr. Iruka is adjunct professor in the Department of Public Policy and the founding director of the Equity Research Action Coalition at the Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute at UNC. Dr. Iruka is an applied developmental psychologist who is focused on ensuring that racially minoritized children and children from low-income households thrive through anti-bias, anti-racist, and culturally grounded mixed methods approaches. Dr. Iruka is co-author of We Are the Change We Seek [https://www.amazon.com/Are-Change-Seek-Advancing-Education/dp/0807768022] and Don't Look Away: Embracing the Anti-Bias Classroom [https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Look-Away-Embracing-Classrooms/dp/0876598432?tag=googhydr-20&source=dsa&hvcampaign=books&gbraid=0AAAAA-byW6C1Hjhr5tjQEVfxuoIkitMaJ&gclid=Cj0KCQjwzrzABhD8ARIsANlSWNN1TsQsk1Ms_vu_Y8xe2mj52biXFDZvXCPqcFIqvihDuebMtGyPIfAaAoYAEALw_wcB]. Running a classroom in a predominantly white community, educators have the ethical and moral responsibility to educate their white students to be global citizens who embrace diversity, equitable practices and inclusive behaviors. Educators can achieve this through diverse and equitable curriculum and classroom environment choices, such as: Variety of color in human representation such as baby dolls, toy figures, classroom decorations and books. Go further and ensure that the people of color are not in subservient roles. For example, not the servants for the kings and queens. Instead in roles of import such as the pilot and the train driver rather than the porter and the mechanic. With gender equity in mind, have female figures as police officers, mechanics, doctors. Linguistically, dont gender these roles with terms such as fireman; use firefighter instead. Consider transportation and vehicle exposure Are tractors common in the child's environment? Perhaps taxis and buses are more common. Ensure that the child's community is represented but that other, more diverse, communities are also represented. Consider home dwelling types Is there a dollhouse in the classroom? Is the family presented there a more traditional composition or more in line with our modern society? When communities are built in the block area, are apartment buildings created or only suburban dwellings? Do not read books that stereotype People of Color and women. Alter the words if a book is beneficial in other ways but has an element or two that is no longer appropriate. For example, many books featuring vehicles use the male pronoun for most, if not all, the vehicles. This can be changed while reading aloud. During play, use names and words that do not fall into the traditional English category. For example, if seeking to use an N name in an example to the children, choose Nakima or Norleys over Nicole. Music…where possible, play the original version of a popular song for children rather than the Kid-version. Oftentimes the kid version strips the song of its important ethnic qualities and culturally representative instrumentation.

Un Episodio Para Padres Inmigrantes

Las familias inmigrantes viven bajo un estrés tremendo en Estados Unidos, especialmente en estos momentos. En este episodio, hablamos con la consejera profesional boliviano-estadounidense Yesseinia Arias y la dominicana-estadounidense Ana Victoria Morales, ambas hijas de padres inmigrantes. Morales comparte su experiencia con ICE y ofrece consejos para familias que actualmente corren el riesgo de separación y deportación. Juntas, Arias y Morales defienden el manejo del estrés y la comunicación abierta dentro de la familia.

An Episode for Immigrant Parents

Immigrant families live under a tremendous amount of stress in the United States of America, especially right now. In this episode, we speak with Bolivian American licensed professional counselor Yesseinia Arias and Dominican American Ana Victoria Morales, both daughters of immigrant parents. Morales shares her history with ICE and offers advice for families currently at risk of separation and deportation. Together, Arias and Morales make a case for stress management and open communication within the family unit. Our podcast featuring advice for helping kids navigate difficult current events: Talking to Kids about Tough Subjects with Little Feet Community [show/episodes/view/34884240] Resources for Immigrant Families and their Allies: * United We Dream [https://unitedwedream.org/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwwe2_BhBEEiwAM1I7sV9P9HD6K0DM_ZfJhEug6zfGJnbHiXB4EKWEVm5ekSoFSpxWXMPNjxoCoe4QAvD_BwE] * Know Your Rights [https://unitedwedream.org/our-work/deportation-defense/know-your-rights/] * Preparedness Packet [https://unitedwedream.org/resources/stay-ready-with-a-preparedness-packet/] * Immigrant Legal Resource Center [https://www.ilrc.org/sites/default/files/resources/family_preparedness_plan.pdf] * Immigrant Defense Project [http://www.immigrantdefenseproject.org/wp-content/uploads/Emergency-Preparedness-Toolkit.pdf] * ACLU Planning Kit [https://www.acluak.org/sites/default/files/field_documents/family_safety_planning_toolkit.pdf] * Brooklyn Defenders [https://bds.org/our-work/immigration] * National Immigration Law Center (NILC): Visit the National Immigration Law Center (NILC) website [https://www.nilc.org/resources/know-your-rights-what-to-do-if-arrested-detained-immigration/] for information on immigrant rights. * New York Legal Assistance Group (NYLAG): Visit the New York Legal Assistance Group (NYLAG) website [https://nylag.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/ICE-Detained-Flyer_Final_english29807.pdf] for information on what to do after a loved one is detained by ICE. * Freedom for Immigrants: Call Freedom for Immigrants at 385-212-4842 or visit their website for more information. * ICIRR's Family Support Hotline: Call ICIRR's Family Support Hotline: 1-855-HELP-MY-FAMILY (1-855-435-7693). * ICE ERO Detention, Removals and Information Line (DRIL): Call 1-888-351-4024. * ICE Website: Visit the ICE website for more information on detention conditions. Children's Books: Here are some titles that can help families address the subjects of immigration as well as stress. Some titles recommended courtesy of Mai Storybook Library on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/maistorybooklibrary/?hl=en] Dreamers [https://www.amazon.com/Dreamers-Yuyi-Morales/dp/0823440559] by Yuyi Morales The Arabic Quilt by Aya Khalil [https://www.amazon.com/Arabic-Quilt-Immigrant-Story/dp/0884487547] Gibberish by Young Vo [https://www.amazon.com/Gibberish-Young-Vo/dp/1646141105] Words Between Us by Angela Pham Krans [https://www.harpercollins.com/products/words-between-us-angela-pham-krans?variant=41004647907362] The Interpreter by Olivia Abtahi [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/723543/the-interpreter-by-written-by-olivia-abtahi-illustrated-by-monica-arnaldo/] Not Far From Here by Nydia Armenia-Sánchez [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/767988/not-far-from-here-by-nydia-armendia-sanchez-illustrated-by-devon-holzwarth/] Watercress by Andrea Wang [https://www.amazon.com/Watercress-Andrea-Wang/dp/0823446247] Rostam's Picture-Day Pusteen by Ryan Bani Tahmaseb [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/741283/rostams-picture-day-pusteen-by-ryan-bani-tahmaseb-author-fateme-mokhles-illustrator/] Homeland by Hannah Moushabeck [https://www.amazon.com/Homeland-My-Father-Dreams-Palestine/dp/1797202057] I Dream of Popo by Alivia Blackburne [https://www.amazon.com/I-Dream-Popo-Livia-Blackburne/dp/1250249317] Eleven Words for Love by Randa Abdul-Rattan [https://www.amazon.com/Eleven-Words-Love-Journey-Expressions/dp/1536230219] A Boy From Mexico by Edwards Dennis [https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Mexico-Immigrant-Bravery-Determination/dp/1642509833] Islandborn by Juno's Díaz [https://www.amazon.com/Islandborn-Junot-D%C3%ADaz/dp/0735229864] The Worry Monster by Dr. Catherine Cook-Cottone [https://www.amazon.com/Worry-Monster-Calming-Anxiety-Mindfulness/dp/0593567919] Ruby Finds A Worry by Tom Percival [https://www.amazon.com/Ruby-Finds-Worry-Tom-Percival/dp/1547602376] Something Happened to My Dad by Anna Hazzard [https://www.amazon.com/Something-Happened-Dad-Immigration-Separation/dp/143383944X] I Wish I Knew by Jackie Azúa Kramer and Magdalena Mora [https://www.amazon.com/Wish-Knew-Jackie-Az%C3%BAa-Kramer/dp/1250226309] What to Do When the News Scares You: A Kid's Guide to Understanding Current Events by Jacqueline B. Toner [https://www.amazon.com/What-When-News-Scares-What/dp/1433836971#:~:text=Designed%20to%20be%20shared%20between,identifying%20viewpoints%20offered%2C%20determining%20the]

Yikes, My Friend's a Yeller! : Parenting Styles

There are many ways to parent a child. What do you do if your style is at odds with others? In this episode we speak with Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and Perinatal Mental Health Counselor (PMH-C) Kate Kripke [https://www.katekripke.com/]. Kripke has worked supporting mothers and families for more than 20 years in various organizations and settings, most recently as the founding director of the Postpartum Wellness Center in Boulder, Colorado. Kate Kripke is author of Reinventing Supermom:Support and Strategies for New Mothers Who Feel Lost [https://www.amazon.com/Reinventing-Supermom-Support-Encouragement-Strategies/dp/1736021001] and is the host of Motherhood Uncut [https://pod.link/1631059177], a weekly unscripted podcast where she candidly explores all facets of motherhood. In this episode, we have a conversation about different parenting styles, acknowledging that there is overlap between styles and that parental stress can lead you away from the style you may prefer to fall into. Kripke also offers some advice for what to do when your family dynamics vary greatly from others in your life. Takeaways: * There are four basic parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, neglectful and authoritative. * Authoritative is widely considered the most healthy parenting style, featuring a combination of warmth, boundaries and flexibility while still making it clear that the parents are in charge. Children of authoritative parents know what is expected of them. Their parents explain reasons for the rules and consequences for breaking them. Parents also listen to their child's opinions, but the parent remains the ultimate decision maker. * If parents are not taking care of themselves, they will be easily triggered in hard parenting moments. Periods (or even days) where you find yourself stressed and depleted can lead to a more authoritarian or neglectful parenting style. Self care is essential to ensure you are showing up as the best parent you can be for your children. * Authoritarian parenting can come from a place of fear or perceived threat. It is oftentimes not a conscious choice of style. * Speak openly with your children about experiences where a different parenting approach may have led to your child feeling uncomfortable or uncertain. Open communication can help them work through those feelings and experiences. * It's a good idea to have a conversation with the other parent in your life if you feel truly uncomfortable with the choice they have made. For example, "Hey, I just have noticed that we parent our kids differently, and I want to make sure you know that these are the choices I'm going to be making with my kiddo, and it may be different than yours. Do you have any questions?" * The more comfortable and accepting we are of the decisions that we're making for our children and our families, the less likely we are to judge other parents for their choices or practices. * The kids that do the best in life are children who are raised by parents and families where there's A focus on values rather than rules. So saying, "Our family really values kindness. So when we're talking to people, we say please and thank you, and we look them in the eye."