The Divorce Decision Podcast

Ep. 45: Are You Unhappy In Your Marriage? The Subconscious Thought Pattern Making It Worse

17 min · 23 de abr de 2026
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Do relatively small things that your spouse does or says create big feelings inside of you?  Is it normal for you to feel upset, angry, annoyed  or some other negative emotion towards your spouse regularly? If you answered "yes" to either of these questions, you might have fallen victim to this subconscious thought pattern making your daily life feel worse.   In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins unpacks one of the most powerful mental traps affecting unhappy marriages and divorce decisions: confirmation bias. When you’re hurt, resentful, lonely, or stuck in limbo, it becomes easy to interpret everything your spouse says and does through an already painful story: They don’t care. Nothing will ever change. I’m the only one trying. We’re too far gone. But that lens can distort what’s actually happening in your marriage and quietly shape how you feel, how you react, and whether you lean toward rebuilding or divorce.  Kari breaks down how confirmation bias works in struggling relationships, how it can make living under the same roof feel even more miserable, and how it can push people toward divorce too fast — or keep them hanging on to hope too long. Through real-life coaching examples, she shows how this subconscious pattern can fuel conflict, cloud clarity, and interfere with honest decision-making.  If you’re questioning your marriage, feeling stuck in uncertainty, or trying to decide whether to stay or leave, this episode will help you take a more honest look at the story you’re telling yourself — and the evidence you may be ignoring.  In this episode: *  What confirmation bias is and how it shows up in marriage  *  Why small things start to feel huge in unhappy relationships  *  How negative and positive bias can both cloud the truth  *  Why confirmation bias can distort a divorce decision in either direction  *  Two powerful questions to help you think more clearly about your marriage Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 [https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

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