The Divorce Decision Podcast

Ep. 49: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? The First Sign Repair is Still Possible

If you're wondering whether or not your marriage can be repaired, this episode is for you.  In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins begins a 3-part series on one of the biggest questions couples face when their marriage is in crisis: Can this marriage actually heal? Part 1 focuses on ownership. When one spouse wants to repair the marriage and the other is unsure, it can be hard to know whether real change is possible. Most people say they are willing to take responsibility, but true ownership is more than saying, “I know I’m not perfect.” Real ownership means being able to name your part without defending it, be specific about how you contributed to the pattern, and understand the impact your behavior has had on your spouse and the relationship. If you’re questioning divorce, trying to decide whether to stay or leave, or wondering whether your marriage can be repaired, this episode will help you look beyond apologies and promises to see whether both people are truly willing to participate in repair. You’ll also get reflection questions to help you consider what you need to own — and what your spouse would need to own — for healing to feel possible.   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 48 How to Live Together While Deciding Whether to Divorce

What do you do when divorce has been brought up or just decided on but you’re still living together? This is one of the most emotionally confusing stages of the divorce decision. You may still be sharing a bedroom, parenting together, eating dinner in the same kitchen, or managing bills and errands — but underneath all of that, the marriage feels uncertain. In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, I’m talking about how to live under the same roof while deciding whether to divorce. You’ll learn how to: * Set boundaries around when you talk about the marriage  * Keep normal household conversations from turning into emotional emergencies  * Create temporary living agreements around sleeping arrangements, parenting, responsibilities, and space  * Decide what to tell friends, family, and kids  * Stay kind without sending mixed messages or creating false hope  * Know when outside support may help you navigate the decision with less damage  If you’re in the painful in-between — not fully together, not fully apart — this episode will help you feel more grounded and less alone as you figure out what comes next.  Book a complimentary call: kahoskins.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 47 5 Options For A Marriage In Limbo

Should you stay married, separate, or get divorced? Most people think the divorce decision has only two options: stay or leave. But the truth is, the decision is usually much more nuanced than that. In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins walks through five options people often have when they are questioning their marriage. Instead of rushing toward a black-and-white answer, this episode helps you think more clearly about which version of staying or leaving you may be choosing. You’ll hear about the difference between staying and accepting the marriage as it is, staying while taking your happiness back into your own hands, staying to repair or rebuild the relationship, separating without divorcing yet, and choosing divorce when the marriage is no longer healthy, repairable, or wanted. Kari also explains the difference between repairing a marriage and rebuilding one, why a therapeutic separation can be more helpful than a vague “I need space” separation, and why divorce is not always a failure, but it is a serious decision that deserves clarity, honesty, and care. If you are silently wondering, “Should I stay or leave my marriage?” this episode will help you slow down, understand your real options, and think about your next step with more intention and less panic. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 46 Before You Say The Word Divorce: How to Tell Your Spouse You’re Unhappy

Have you been secretly unhappy in your marriage but unsure how to tell your spouse? In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins talks to the spouse who has been carrying private pain, resentment, loneliness, or discontent for months—or even years—without knowing when or how to finally say it out loud. Before you say divorce, there may be an honest conversation that needs to happen first. Kari explains why private unhappiness becomes so emotionally exhausting, how unresolved issues create “open loops” in a marriage. You’ll learn how to recognize when it may be time to share your unhappiness, how to begin the conversation in a more productive way, and what questions to reflect on before you talk with your husband or wife. If you feel lonely in your marriage, tired of pretending everything is fine, or afraid that one conversation could change everything, this episode will help you find language for what you’ve been carrying—and take the first step toward clarity. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 45 Are You Unhappy In Your Marriage? The Subconscious Thought Pattern Making It Worse

Do relatively small things that your spouse does or says create big feelings inside of you?  Is it normal for you to feel upset, angry, annoyed  or some other negative emotion towards your spouse regularly? If you answered "yes" to either of these questions, you might have fallen victim to this subconscious thought pattern making your daily life feel worse.   In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins unpacks one of the most powerful mental traps affecting unhappy marriages and divorce decisions: confirmation bias. When you’re hurt, resentful, lonely, or stuck in limbo, it becomes easy to interpret everything your spouse says and does through an already painful story: They don’t care. Nothing will ever change. I’m the only one trying. We’re too far gone. But that lens can distort what’s actually happening in your marriage and quietly shape how you feel, how you react, and whether you lean toward rebuilding or divorce.  Kari breaks down how confirmation bias works in struggling relationships, how it can make living under the same roof feel even more miserable, and how it can push people toward divorce too fast — or keep them hanging on to hope too long. Through real-life coaching examples, she shows how this subconscious pattern can fuel conflict, cloud clarity, and interfere with honest decision-making.  If you’re questioning your marriage, feeling stuck in uncertainty, or trying to decide whether to stay or leave, this episode will help you take a more honest look at the story you’re telling yourself — and the evidence you may be ignoring.  In this episode: *  What confirmation bias is and how it shows up in marriage  *  Why small things start to feel huge in unhappy relationships  *  How negative and positive bias can both cloud the truth  *  Why confirmation bias can distort a divorce decision in either direction  *  Two powerful questions to help you think more clearly about your marriage Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]