Lust in Translation
What if your “low libido” is actually a lack of imagination? In this episode, Natassia sits down with writer Carly Pifer, founder of literary erotica platform Aurore [http://readaurore.com], to explore what women really want, how responsive desire styles get turned on by storytelling and why reading erotica is such an effective form of low-pressure foreplay. Carly shares the real‑life experiences that inspired her crowdsourced erotica platform—from interviewing strangers about their intimate lives in bars and going on Tinder “research dates” across Europe to rewriting painful relationships through erotic fiction and helping women feel less ashamed of what turns them on. For the past two years, Natassia has been an avid reader of Aurore’s stories and loves how it offers a playful way to sample different scenarios, learn what actually lights you up (and what doesn’t), and bring those discoveries back into your own sex life. If you’re curious, use code NATASSIA to get 10% off your subscription at readaurore.com [http://readaurore.com]. 00:00 – Why women connect more with erotica than porn 02:00 – Responsive desire vs spontaneous desire 04:18 – Erotica as a place you go mentally 05:25 – Writing through body image insecurities 08:16 – Turning insecurity into eroticism 09:39 – Building Aurore and crowdsourced erotica 10:30 – Why romance novels don’t work for everyone 12:02 – Feeling emotionally safe during sex 13:32 – The rise of “real eaters” 15:44 – Interviewing strangers about sex in bars 18:21 – What people secretly reveal about intimacy 20:03 – Bathroom habits and relationship comfort 22:09 – Pubic hair trends and attraction 24:34 – Tinder dates across Europe 27:12 – Why men struggle to talk about intimacy 28:55 – Two Frenchmen in Paris story 32:12 – Why sex gets better with age 33:35 – Writing erotica as emotional healing 35:01 – Men learning oral sex from lesbian stories 36:25 – What women actually want sexually 37:18 – Fantasies as clues to your deeper desires 39:16 – Using erotica to communicate with partners 41:10 – How to start talking about fantasies 43:45 – Why sexual coaching matters 44:16 – Making quickies hotter through fantasy 45:16 – Love Is Blind and relationship psychology 46:43 – The rebellious origins of Aurore 48:05 – Straight men writing erotica 50:15 – The jeans story and male desire 51:10 – Why threesomes dominate fantasies 53:09 – Female gaze, dick pics, and visual desire 55:14 – Writing erotica to heal sexual trauma 56:34 – Understanding consensual non-consent fantasies 59:10 – Rewriting trauma through fantasy 01:01:06 – A powerful body acceptance writing exercise 01:02:22 – Final thoughts and where to find Carly It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca [https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust] offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust [https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust] and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: lustintranslation.com [http://lustintranslation.com] Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/] Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/ [https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/%E2%81%A0]
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