Mastermind Parenting Podcast

Every time I learn more about Attachment Theory, it feels so eye-opening. It explains so much about me and my Mastermind moms. I hear it when we talk about how we were raised, how we relate to our parents, and how we’ve tried to fill the spaces we feel in our hearts.  Building a secure attachment style is so important for who our kids will become in the future. But many of us are out here trying to figure out our own - let’s say “less than ideal”- attachment issues. How can we do even better for them? My fave sage of attachment and healing, Kirby, is back to help us break it down and build it up. He says the key to security is an environment where kids feel safe to feel and express themselves, and he’s going to help us figure out how to create that space for our kids. You don’t want to miss this one! Something clicked while listening? We’d love to talk with you if you want to dig deeper into your family’s specific situation. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start knowing what works, it might be worth a conversation. https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/]  Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-328 About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now in his 20’s, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker”  parents like herself for almost two decades. Randi’s Web and Social Links * Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting [https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ [https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/] About Kirby Fling Kirby is the creator of the Two Mind Method, a practical, heart-centered approach to healing attachment wounds and reshaping nervous system patterns. Drawing on years of deep personal research, lived experience, and work with clients, Kirby specializes in helping people build healthier relationships with themselves and others. His work is grounded, accessible, and refreshingly real, offering tools that truly work in the messiness of real life. Kirby brings a unique blend of neurophysiology, trauma awareness, and emotional attunement to the table, empowering people to transform their inner world and their closest connections. Kirby’s Web and Social Links Website: https://TwoMindMethod.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TwoMindMethod Instagram: https://instagram.com/TwoMindMethod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@twomindmethod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TwoMindMethod Resources Discussed/Links Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/] Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/]

I’ve got a bite-sized treat of an episode for you this week. I was recently coaching a Mastermind mama who’s struggling with the changing relationship with her own mother.  As she changes, her relationship with her mom is changing too.  And change is hard and can even feel scary. Especially when it feels like the people closest aren’t necessarily thrilled about the changes we are making in our lives.  As I listened to her story, I knew exactly what she was going through. And I also felt like it would be relevant to you, no matter where you are in your parenting journey. Something clicked while listening? We’d love to talk with you if you want to dig deeper into your family’s specific situation. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start knowing what works, it might be worth a conversation. https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/]  Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-327 About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now in his 20’s, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker”  parents like herself for almost two decades. Randi’s Web and Social Links * Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting [https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ [https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/] Resources Discussed/Links Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/] Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/]

You think you’re parenting with one mind. You’re not. There’s the mind that reads the books and makes the plans. And there’s the other mind—the one running the show when your kid does that thing that makes your jaw clench and chest tighten. Kirby Fling sees this clearly. His Two-Mind Method helps you understand the two versions of yourself that show up every day. The one that wants to be patient. And the one that actually is patient. The difference? That’s where attachment gets stronger. Where families find their rhythm. Where the hard moments become growth moments. Something clicked while listening? We’d love to talk with you if you want to dig deeper into your family’s specific situation. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start knowing what works, it might be worth a conversation.  Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-326 About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now in his 20’s, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker”  parents like herself for almost two decades. Randi’s Web and Social Links * Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting [https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ [https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/] About Kirby Fling Kirby is the creator of the Two Mind Method, a practical, heart-centered approach to healing attachment wounds and reshaping nervous system patterns. Drawing on years of deep personal research, lived experience, and work with clients, Kirby specializes in helping people build healthier relationships with themselves and others. His work is grounded, accessible, and refreshingly real, offering tools that truly work in the messiness of real life. Kirby brings a unique blend of neurophysiology, trauma awareness, and emotional attunement to the table, empowering people to transform their inner world and their closest connections. Kirby’s Web and Social Links Website: https://TwoMindMethod.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TwoMindMethod Instagram: https://instagram.com/TwoMindMethod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@twomindmethod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TwoMindMethod Resources Discussed/Links The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 [https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748]  Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair by Daniel P. Brown PhD and David S. Elliott PhD https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Disturbances-Adults-Treatment-Comprehensive/dp/0393711528/ [https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Disturbances-Adults-Treatment-Comprehensive/dp/0393711528/]  Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/] Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/]

I’ve been saying for a long, long time that raising kids in the digital age is like the Wild Wild West! We are all just trying to make the best decisions for our kids with the info we currently have at any given time.  And it’s really hard to know what the right decision is when you’re a pioneer parent (as all of us are here - raising kids at a time in human history where tech is causing us to move at a more rapid pace than ever before).  In his book “The Anxious Generation,” Jonathan Haidt pulls back the curtain on how online content streams and everywhere screens have changed the experience of growing up in a tech-addicted world. Adolescence has always been a tough time for kids AND parents. They’re struggling with changing bodies, raging hormones, and the pressure to prepare for adulthood; we’re trying to find the balance between keeping them safe and letting them learn from their mistakes. But modern teens and tweens are surrounded by algorithmically curated content that’s targeted at their fears of inadequacy. My daughter, Avery, and I lived through the explosion of social media targeted at teens. This time on the pod, we break down “The Anxious Generation,” and how Avery is one of the unfortunates described in the book - a card carrying member of The Anxious Generation. Sigh.  As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-325 About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker”  parents like herself for almost two decades. Randi’s Web and Social Links * Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting [https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ [https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/] Resources Discussed/Links The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, by Jonathan Haidt https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036 Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/] Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/]

Gentle Parenting has become a sort of parenting movement over the last decade or so.  I’ve been here for more than a hot minute and it’s interesting what I’ve noticed. You see, before Gentle there was Conscious Parenting and before that there was Love and Logic and and and.  I think the original founders of these methods were probably drinking the same koolaid I like…we secretly want to raise our kids even better than our parents did. We want our kids to feel loved and enjoyed. We don’t want them to act like selfish creepos. We want them to become besties with their siblings and to have their backs.  Of course, much fancier more formal lingo is typically used in the “parenting space”. And I think that’s a big part of the problem. Somewhere with all of these lofty movements, parents have become performative.   Gentle Parenting has been twisted. The parents that come to work with me lately are more permissive than I’ve ever seen and more unpack-leader-y too.  They have lost their voice, their power and their family life seems tense and frankly, miserable.  I believe it’s often a case of gentle parenting gone wrong.  My guest this week is Avital Schreiber Levy. She’s a mom, author, parenting coach, and designer who knows how to navigate the traps that well-meaning moms and dads end up falling into.  Avital pulls no punches as we dig into the good, the bad, and the ugly of current Gentle Parenting trends, and why feelings are important, but they can’t be the only thing guiding your child’s behavior. But it’s not all trash talk. She’s got real, practical alternatives and strategies you can use to give your family the Pack Leadership it deserves, with confidence, and without yelling or excessive guilt. As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-324 About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker”  parents like herself for almost two decades. Randi’s Web and Social Links * Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting [https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ [https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/] About Avital Schreiber Levy Avital Schreiber Levy is the founder of Hi Fam and the author of Reclaim Play. She helps intentional mothers break free from modern parenting traps and build strong, values-driven families that feel peaceful, connected, and confident. Avital has helped over 100,000 parents in 100+ countries through her courses, YouTube channel, and live events. She’s a mother of five, and known for blending timeless wisdom with real-world tools that actually work. Avital’s Web and Social Links Website: www.hifam.com [http://www.hifam.com]  YouTube: @HiFamLife Instagram: @HiFamLife Resources Discussed/Links Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/] Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ [https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/] The Coddling Of the American Mind, by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt https://www.thecoddling.com/ [https://www.thecoddling.com/]  The Karpman Drama Triangle: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle]  Waking The Tiger by Dr. Peter Levine: https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X [https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X]