#24: MBT 1 on 1 Therapy > Between setting boundaries and losing each other

#25: MBT Group Therapy > Between Losing Control and Trying to Hold Yourself Together

🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Losing Control and Trying to Hold Yourself Together” Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast. In this group session, an intense conversation unfolds about control, helplessness, and the fear of what happens when emotions become too overwhelming to keep pushing away. What makes this session powerful is how clearly it shows that many group members, each in their own way, are trying to maintain control over tension, insecurity, and overwhelming emotions. Today, we listen to a group session where themes such as self-criticism, emotional control, not feeling seen, and the struggle between feeling and avoiding come to the surface. ⸻ 🧠 What this episode explores Being overwhelmed by emotions Several group members describe how emotions can suddenly hit without warning. Frustration. Anger. Sadness. Helplessness. Feelings that once seemed manageable can suddenly take over completely. And that loss of control can feel frightening. ⸻ Keeping the lid on emotions The session reveals how differently people try to cope with emotions. Some spend years suppressing and controlling their feelings. Others experience emotions exploding in every direction with almost no control at all. But both responses serve the same purpose: trying to protect yourself from being overwhelmed. ⸻ Self-criticism and pressure to perform An important theme in this session is the harsh way group members look at themselves. Doubting yourself. Always needing to do more. Never feeling truly good enough. Compliments are difficult to accept, while mistakes become painfully magnified. ⸻ Not feeling seen The painful feeling of not being important enough also strongly emerges. When someone finally becomes vulnerable, but feels that nothing is really done with it, pain and disappointment quickly follow. The group explores how deeply this feeling can hurt — especially when someone is genuinely trying to ask for help or be honest. ⸻ Old patterns under stress What this session strongly highlights is how quickly old survival patterns return under pressure. Trying to stay in control. Shutting down emotionally. Exploding in anger. Or disappearing into yourself completely. The therapists help the group slow down and stay curious about what lies underneath these reactions. ⸻ 🌟 The common thread The central theme of this episode is the tension between trying to stay in control and allowing yourself to truly feel. The fear of being overwhelmed exists alongside the need to finally be honest about what is happening inside. Mentalizing helps people not to immediately run away from emotions, but to pause and explore what is truly being triggered — within themselves and in connection with others. ⸻ 💬 Closing This episode shows how difficult it can be to allow emotions when you have spent years learning to protect yourself from them. But it also shows how important it is not to carry everything alone. Sometimes, change does not begin with controlling emotions, but with the moment you dare to admit: “I don’t know how to handle this right now.”

#24: MBT 1 on 1 Therapy > Between setting boundaries and losing each other

🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Setting Boundaries and Losing Each Other” Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast. In this episode, you are once again given a unique insight into a one-on-one therapy session — a space where emotions, patterns, and relationships become visible as they unfold in everyday life. What makes this session powerful is how clearly it shows what can happen when one person begins to change, while the relationship around them struggles to move along with that change. Today, we listen to a conversation about tension, setting boundaries, old patterns, and the search for connection without losing yourself again. ⸻ 🧠 What this episode explores Old patterns returning This session reveals how quickly old survival patterns can return under stress. People-pleasing. Avoiding conflict. Continuously searching for understanding. Even when someone has already made significant progress, emotionally unsafe situations can still reactivate old responses. ⸻ Setting boundaries without guilt An important theme in this episode is learning to express needs and boundaries. Not from anger or control, but from calmness and self-care. At the same time, this creates tension within relationships — especially when the other person is still used to the old dynamic. ⸻ Not feeling heard A recurring feeling throughout this session is the experience of not truly being heard or understood. When someone calmly tries to explain what they feel, but the other person mainly reacts from frustration or blame, distance begins to grow. And that distance touches deeper emotional wounds. ⸻ How change affects relationships What this session strongly highlights is that personal growth does not only change you — it also changes the relationship with the people around you. When someone stops adapting so much, begins to slow down, and starts listening more to themselves, the dynamic with others automatically shifts as well. And that can create confusion, resistance, and insecurity. ⸻ Allowing yourself to matter One of the most powerful moments in this episode is the realization that self-care is not selfish. That your needs are allowed to exist. That rest is allowed to matter. And that you do not have to constantly perform in order to be valuable. Slowly, a new feeling begins to emerge: I am allowed to matter too. ⸻ 🌟 The common thread The central theme of this episode is the tension between staying connected to others and staying true to yourself. The need to keep harmony clashes with the need to stop crossing your own boundaries. Mentalizing helps by creating space to pause instead of reacting immediately from emotion — to reflect on what is truly happening within yourself and within the other person. ⸻ 💬 Closing This episode shows how difficult change within relationships can be. Not because people do not care about each other, but because old patterns and new boundaries can collide in painful ways. And sometimes, growth does not begin with fighting harder to be understood, but with allowing yourself to feel: “My feelings are allowed to exist too.”

#23: MBT Group Therapy: Between Insecurity, Validation, and Daring to Be Seen

🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Insecurity, Validation, and Daring to Be Seen” Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast. In this group session, an open conversation unfolds about insecurity, validation, and the tension between protecting yourself and allowing yourself to be seen. What makes this session powerful is how clearly it shows that many group members struggle with the same underlying questions: Am I important enough? Do I matter? Am I allowed to take up space? ⸻ 🧠 What this episode explores Fear of rejection The group reveals how insecurity affects relationships, work, and friendships. When contact feels inconsistent, or someone responds with distance, doubt quickly appears: * Did I do something wrong? * Am I too much? * Does this mean I am not important? ⸻ Protecting yourself Several group members recognize how they try to protect themselves from disappointment. By keeping distance. By acting “cool.” By not fully showing their emotions. Because the stronger the connection feels, the greater the fear of losing it becomes. ⸻ Work, performance, and validation Work and performance also turn out to be deeply connected to self-worth. Success creates safety. Recognition creates relief. But what happens when that validation disappears? Or when you begin to doubt yourself and what you are still capable of? ⸻ Being critical of yourself This session also highlights how harsh people can be toward themselves. Compliments are difficult to receive. Success gets minimized. And the bar keeps moving higher. The group explores how self-criticism can become a way of staying emotionally safe. ⸻ Change within relationships An important theme in this session is how personal change affects relationships. When someone begins to respond differently, stops people-pleasing, or starts setting boundaries, the dynamic with others changes as well. And that can create confusion, distance, or insecurity — on both sides. ⸻ 🌟 The common thread The central theme of this episode is the search for connection without losing yourself. The need for validation exists alongside the fear of rejection. The desire to be seen exists alongside the urge to protect yourself. Mentalizing helps people pause and reflect on what lies beneath that insecurity — and to stay curious about themselves and others. ⸻ 💬 Closing This episode shows how deeply insecurity can influence relationships and everyday interactions. But it also shows how important it is to keep making space for honesty, vulnerability, and connection. Sometimes, change does not begin with certainty, but with the courage to say: “This is what is happening inside me.”

#22: MBT Group Therapy > Between Trust and Protection

🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Trust and Protection” Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast. In this group session, an intense conversation unfolds about trust, dependency, and the way old patterns become activated when someone feels unseen or not taken seriously. What makes this session powerful is how clearly it shows that anger, control, and distance are often not the core issue — but protection against vulnerability.. ⸻ 🧠 What this episode explores Dependency and control For some group members, depending on others immediately creates tension. As soon as someone else has influence over work, recovery, or personal choices, the urge arises to regain control — or to push people away. ⸻ The hedgehog as protection A powerful image in this session is that of the hedgehog. Not attacking to hurt others, but using spikes to protect yourself. Because connection feels unsafe. Because criticism hurts. Because not being seen cuts deep. ⸻ Feeling misunderstood Several group members recognize the same painful feeling: I am not truly heard I am not understood And when someone finally becomes vulnerable, a response from another person can feel rejecting — even when that was never the intention. ⸻ Old patterns and new responses The group explores how old survival patterns automatically return under stress: people-pleasing, fighting, shutting down, or trying to stay in control. But at the same time, something new begins to emerge: slowing down, asking questions, and staying curious about the intentions of others. ⸻ 🌟 The common thread The central theme of this episode is the tension between protecting yourself and still wanting connection. Mentalizing helps people pause instead of reacting automatically from old survival patterns — and to reflect on what is really happening within themselves and others. ⸻ 💬 Closing This episode shows how complex group sessions can become when trust, dependency, and vulnerability come together. And sometimes, change does not begin with finding the right answer, but with asking yourself: “What am I actually trying to protect myself from?”

#21: MBT 1 on 1 Therapy > Between Fatherhood, Vulnerability, and Being Seen

🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Fatherhood, Vulnerability, and Being Seen” Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast. In this episode, you are once again given a unique insight into a one-on-one therapy session — a space where memories, emotions, and old patterns become visible as they unfold in everyday life. What makes this session powerful is how the theme of fatherhood gradually opens a deeper emotional layer. What begins as a conversation about children, holidays, and memories slowly develops into a confronting and emotional journey through attachment, loss, recognition, and the search for genuine connection. Today, we listen to a conversation that reveals how past experiences can take on new meaning once you become a parent yourself — and how this can bring old pain, but also new understanding, to the surface. ⸻ 🧠 What this episode explores Fatherhood and connection A deep conversation about fatherhood unfolds in this session. Not only about caring, protecting, and raising children, but about emotional presence. What does it truly mean to be there for a child? And what happens when a parent has also been emotionally absent? ⸻ Memories gaining new meaning Moments from the past begin to carry a different emotional weight when revisited later in life. Memories of pregnancy, birth, and early childhood bring warmth and love — but also grief and confusion. Becoming a father creates a completely new perspective on the relationship with one’s own father. ⸻ The pain of not being understood A recurring theme in this session is the feeling of not truly being seen or understood. This touches deeper layers connected to: * not feeling important * adapting to others * keeping emotions hidden At the same time, something new begins to emerge: the desire to stop staying on the surface. ⸻ Allowing vulnerability What makes this session especially powerful is how vulnerability slowly begins to take up more space. Where emotions were once pushed away, there is now room to pause and reflect on: * sadness * loss * anger * and the longing for connection Not as weakness, but as something that is allowed to exist. ⸻ Lowering the defenses An important realization in this episode is how many conversations remained superficial for years as a form of self-protection. Not going too deep. Not feeling too much. Not saying too much. But the moment those defenses lower, real connection becomes possible. And that turns out to be not only confronting — but also freeing. ⸻ Learning to communicate differently This session also shows how mentalizing begins to influence everyday conversations. Not reacting immediately. Not filling things in automatically. But slowing down, asking questions, and staying curious. And through that, relationships begin to change. Not only with others — but also with yourself. ⸻ 🌟 The common thread The central theme of this episode is the search for genuine connection. Not through roles, expectations, or emotional distance, but through honest contact and emotional presence. What once felt safe — adapting, controlling, keeping distance — slowly begins to make room for something else: allowing yourself to feel, to share, and to remain emotionally connected. Mentalizing helps with this process: not moving away from emotions, but exploring what is happening — within yourself and within the other person. ⸻ 💬 Closing This episode shows how deeply past experiences can continue to shape the present. But also how personal growth begins when you are willing to look again — at yourself, your past, and your relationships. Sometimes, change does not begin with a major breakthrough, but with a small moment of genuine connection. “I see you… and I allow myself to be seen too.”