No One Can Cancel Christmas (Not Even Mom)

The One Where We Talk About Cutting Off Our Parents

In this episode of MissInformed, we’re talking about estrangement and what it actually looks like when you cut off contact with your parents. The decision is rarely as simple or dramatic as people imagine. We share the messy, sometimes funny, sometimes painful stories behind our own family estrangements. That includes growing up believing our aunts were literal witches, navigating mental health crises in the family, realizing the stories we were told about our dad weren’t the whole truth, and learning what it means to set boundaries with a parent who cannot respect them. We also talk about what estrangement really feels like from the inside. There is grief, guilt, moments of relief, and the strange reality of missing someone while knowing you are healthier without them in your life. This episode is not about revenge but survival, healing, and figuring out how to love people without losing yourself. If you have ever wondered what leads someone to go no contact with their parents, or what happens after, this conversation is for you.

No One Can Cancel Christmas (Not Even Mom)

From slippery white tights and velvet collars to nursing-home caroling and “present!” drops from Mom’s closet, Beth and SJ unpack the rituals that made Christmas sparkle, and the darker seasons when holidays were used as leverage. They talk about learning to reclaim celebrations, giving Dad his flowers for simply showing up, and how repetition (not perfection) is the real engine of holiday magic. The sisters swap practical tradition ideas (window candles, cookie day, puzzles, popcorn garlands), debate turkey vs. ham, and explore a meaningful Winter Solstice gathering that centers light, gratitude, and connection. They close on gift-giving sanity checks, parenting without recreating scarcity, January as a recovery month, and the great “eat the frog…or toad?” bit. What you’ll hear: * The good stuff: kid memories of tights, Mary Janes, matching dresses, and the legendary “present!” hallway toss * The hard stuff: when holidays turned into control tactics and how the sisters rebuilt them anyway * Reframing tradition: repetition > elaborate plans; “predictable = magical” for kids * Gifts with grace: managing expectations, secondhand wins, and why “being seen” matters more than price tags * Winter Solstice 101: candles, evergreens, Yule logs, and celebrating the return of light (zero spell-casting, promise) * Boundaries & grace: why Dad gets oceans of grace for still trying and what that means for adult relationships

Part 2: Our Lives through the Eras

SJ and Beth pick up their Swiftie saga where they left off, diving from Lover into the pandemic twins folklore and evermore, fast-forwarding to the glittery insomnia of Midnights, and landing in the 2024 double-drop, The Tortured Poets Department. It’s part nostalgia tour, part sister therapy, part lyrical detective work. Between cardigan discourse and eldest-daughter rage, the sisters unpack why Taylor’s storytelling sticks, especially when life is messy: miscarriages, motherhood, family rupture, and learning to trust your own inner knowing.

Part 1: Our Lives through the Eras

In this episode we time-travel through our lives alongside Taylor’s eras, complete with bad posture critiques, free Speak Now concert tickets (yes, those existed), subtweets about a breakup, and an ongoing conversations about Taylor and her musical intentions. From SJ’s emo eyeliner phase to Beth’s "tarantula on her chest” moment, Taylor’s albums were the soundtrack (or sometimes the background noise) of our growing up, falling in love, and cutting toxic people out like Reputation pros. We roast our younger selves, fangirl hard, and ask the big questions: Why is Lover both sparkly rainbows and secretly anxious? Was Speak Now merch really brown? And are we allowed to skip a track five? (Sorry Archer stans.) Basically this is a Swiftie fever dream wrapped in sister banter, Kansas City pride, and a lot of self-deprecating humor. Come scream-sing with us because our life really has been one long era. 💖 Not on Spotify? watch on Youtube here. [https://youtu.be/bIN3GUq4LXg]

Overfunctioning Anonymous: Confessions of a Recovering Eldest Daughter

In this episode of Misinformed, Beth celebrates a huge career milestone as she steps into her dream role as a play therapist, while SJ gets uncomfortably honest about falling back into old “eldest daughter” survival patterns. From growing up as the built-in family manager to overfunctioning in jobs and relationships, SJ shares how those early responsibilities shaped her boundaries (or lack thereof) — and what it’s taking to reclaim her time, energy, and sparkle. There’s a trip to South Korea, a murky aura, sibling protest signs, and the reminder that sometimes doing less is the bravest thing you can do. It’s funny, raw, and a must-listen for anyone who’s ever been told, “I don’t have to worry about you.”