No Hard Feelings…Kinda
What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you…don’t? In this episode, I sit down with children’s therapist, author, and survivor Stacy Schaffer to talk about childhood trauma, survival mode, dissociation, and what it really takes to heal from experiences that were never supposed to happen in the first place. Stacy shares her story of growing up in an environment where safety wasn’t guaranteed, learning to cope in ways that helped her survive, and eventually finding her way back to herself - not just personally, but professionally as a therapist helping others do the same. We talk about: - what it feels like when adults fail to protect you - dissociation and the “emotional cave” many survivors retreat into - perfectionism as a survival strategy - the long-term effects of childhood trauma - healing, community, and learning how to feel safe again This conversation touches on topics like sexual assault, trafficking, and abuse - including experiences in childhood. While we don’t go into graphic detail, this is a heavy but important episode. If you’ve ever felt like you had to become someone else just to survive…this one is going to hit. --- Connect with Stacy Schaffer: Website: https://authorstacyschaffer.com [https://authorstacyschaffer.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hoperestored/ [https://www.instagram.com/hoperestored/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stacy.schaffer [https://www.facebook.com/stacy.schaffer] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@authorstacyschaffer [https://www.tiktok.com/@authorstacyschaffer] Get her book: With Love From a Children’s Therapist https://www.amazon.com/Love-Childrens-Therapist-lessonsihavelearnedalongtheway/dp/1964251516 [https://www.amazon.com/Love-Childrens-Therapist-lessonsihavelearnedalongtheway/dp/1964251516] --- Support the show + check out Veliza dopamine patches: If your brain has ever felt like it’s running on low battery, you’re not alone - https://veliza.shop/products/veliza-dopamine-patches?sca_ref=10829553.XYRVtmlcO1Rf40II [https://veliza.shop/products/veliza-dopamine-patches?sca_ref=10829553.XYRVtmlcO1Rf40II] https://veliza.shop?sca_ref=10829553.XYRVtmlcO1Rf40II [https://veliza.shop/?sca_ref=10829553.XYRVtmlcO1Rf40II] (If you grab anything through this link, it helps support the show - which I appreciate more than I can even put into words…and we’ve already established how that goes.) --- Join the community: The After Party (Private Facebook Group): https://www.facebook.com/groups/nhfktheafterparty [https://www.facebook.com/groups/nhfktheafterparty] --- Follow & support the show: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Q2mmRyZspf9Qr40ZGB25R [https://open.spotify.com/show/4Q2mmRyZspf9Qr40ZGB25R] YouTube: www.youtube.com/@nhfkpodcast [http://www.youtube.com/@nhfkpodcast] Leave a review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-hard-feelings…kinda/id1835874169 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-hard-feelings%E2%80%A6kinda/id1835874169] --- Therapy is expensive. Share your chaos with me…for free. --- The ROAR Gallery is a digital wall of encouragement where people can upload short video messages for individuals and families going through tough times, especially during hospital stays. You can view examples here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjde29iQPBJL_Trf3F7yWw [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjde29iQPBJL_Trf3F7yWw?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAYnJpZBExRlU5eEVmdnBmRnJ5b2dxN3NydGMGYXBwX2lkDzUxNDc3MTU2OTIyODA2MQABHvcOd8PikzO3uKXCUDt0pV8LZt714HH9bNwUxE8RZ7W8nmsUw1njNPDQwJfI_aem_jHaR7--evI0LRelJXv4e9Q] Your ROAR can change a life. Share your story and inspire hospital families to never give up. Upload your ROAR: https://extendtherose.org/roargallery [https://extendtherose.org/roargallery] Welcome to The ROAR Gallery - a movement of hope that starts with you. Here, people from all walks of life share short stories of courage and gratitude, creating a wave of encouragement for children and families fighting tough battles in hospitals. Every ROAR reminds them they’re seen, heard, and celebrated. Together, we’re flooding hospital rooms with positivity and giving families the strength to keep going. A ROAR is a short, positive message - a declaration of the good in your life and a reminder that hope still wins. Because hope is a team sport.
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