#259: How to Communicate with a Defensive Partner

#259: How to Communicate with a Defensive Partner

Subscribe to my YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmxC4jls4uolRKhFWV_RIoA/ ] Does your partner get defensive easily, even when you feel like you weren't being attacking or critical? If so, today's episode is for you. Being on the receiving end of someone's chronic defensiveness can be extremely frustrating and disheartening, and it can feel like a real block to connection. But the way we typically respond — by making someone wrong for their defensiveness — can entrench the very pattern we're hoping to shift. Links * Free workshop on anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics [https://stephanierigg.com/anxious-avoidant-masterclass] * Understanding Your Avoidant Partner course [https://stephanierigg.com/understanding-your-avoidant-partner] * Secure Together couples course [https://stephanierigg.com/secure-together]

#258: When Your Partner Isn't Respecting Your Boundaries (Ask Steph)

Subscribe to my YouTube Channel [yt] How do you navigate a situation where your partner isn't respecting the boundaries that you've set? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. Boundaries can be fraught for those of us with insecure attachment patterns, and it's easy to swing between demands and capitulation — neither of which are particularly helpful. We'll talk about how to reorient to what is within your control rather than making repeated pleas of someone else to change their behaviour to accommodate you, which is a recipe for frustration and resentment. Links * Free anxious attachment healing workshop [http://stephanierigg.com/haa-webinar-opt-in ] * Free resources for attachment healing [freebies] * Take my attachment quiz [qquiz]

#257: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive (Part 2)

Subscribe to my YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmxC4jls4uolRKhFWV_RIoA/] Today's episode is a follow-up from last week's deep dive into fearful avoidant attachment. This week, we're looking at the fearful avoidant in relationships — how these patterns play out, how that changes over the lifecycle of a relationship, and how it can differ based on the other person's attachment style. Links * Understanding Your Avoidant Partner Course [https://stephanierigg.com/understanding-your-avoidant-partner] * Free resources for attachment healing [freebies] * Take my attachment style quiz [qquiz]

#256: How to Balance Accepting Your Partner & Supporting Their Growth (Ask Steph)

Subscribe to my YouTube Channel [yt] In today's Ask Steph episode, we're talking about how to balance accepting your partner for who they are, while also encouraging them to grow. This is a delicate dance for many of us, and can reveal our own patterns of wanting to fix and save people. We'll talk about where the healthy middle lies between acceptance and change, and how you can create a relational environment that supports growth. Links * Free resources for attachment healing [freebies] * Take my attachment styles quiz [qquiz]

#255: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive (Part 1)

Subscribe to my YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmxC4jls4uolRKhFWV_RIoA/ ] In today's episode, we're diving deep into the fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We're talking about where it originates, and what some of the core belief systems are that drive fearful avoidant patterns. Make sure you're following or subscribed to the show to catch Part 2 next week, where we explore how the fearful avoidant attachment style shows up in relationships. Links * Check out my free attachment healing resources [stephanierigg.com/free-resources ] * Take my attachment quiz [stephanierigg.com/quiz ]