What Happened vs What You’re Making It Mean

When Your Mind Turns Against You

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to believe the thoughts in your head? Especially when they sound responsible, honest, or self-aware? In this episode, we’re talking about the quiet thoughts so many women carry: “I should’ve done more.” “This must mean something about me.” “If I were better, things would be different.” Inspired by Sister Tamara Runia’s General Conference quote, “You are not the thoughts in your head,” this episode dives into the difference between thoughts and truth, worthiness and worth, and why the mind can become such a hard place to live when we believe every thought it offers us. We’ll talk about: • Why negative thoughts feel so believable • What actually happens in the brain when thoughts are repeated over and over • Why so many good women tie their worth to outcomes • How coaching helps you question thoughts instead of automatically believing them • The difference between growth and worth If you’ve spent years second-guessing yourself, carrying guilt, or believing your child’s choices somehow define you, this episode will help you breathe a little deeper and see yourself with more compassion. Your worth was never on trial. If this episode resonates with you and you want support learning how to quiet the shame, untangle painful thought patterns, and build a healthier relationship with yourself, I’d love to talk with you. Schedule a free coaching call here [https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min]: https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min [https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min]

The Natural Man Response When Your Child Leaves The Church

If this episode resonates with your heart and you are carrying pain, fear, or distance in your relationship with your child, I would love to invite you to a free Connection & Peace Call with me. You do not have to walk this alone. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min [https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min] Episode 20: The Natural Man Response When Your Child Leaves The Church What happens in the brain when your child tells you they no longer believe in the Church? Why do loving, faithful LDS moms sometimes react from fear, urgency, panic, control, or heartbreak during hard conversations with their adult children? And how do we stay connected without letting fear lead the relationship? In this powerful episode, we dive into the motivational triad, the primitive brain, the higher brain, emotional regulation, and what the scriptures call the “natural man.” You’ll learn why your nervous system reacts so strongly when your child’s choices no longer align with the values you raised them with, and how to move from survival mode into peace, connection, and intentional motherhood. This episode will help you: • Understand why fear and emotional reactivity happen • Learn the difference between the lower brain and higher brain • Stop responding from panic, urgency, or control • Feel your feelings without becoming consumed by them • Rewrite fear-based stories and thoughts • Stay connected to your child while honoring agency • Strengthen relationships instead of creating distance • Find peace even when motherhood feels heartbreaking If you are an LDS mom struggling with an adult child leaving the Church, faith transitions, family tension, fear about eternal families, or emotional overwhelm, this episode will help you better understand your brain, your emotions, and how to respond with more love, regulation, peace, and connection. Your story is not over. And God is still aware of both you and your child. If this episode touched your heart, please share it with another mom who may need it too. And if you would like personal support as you walk through these hard conversations and emotions, I would love to meet with you. Schedule your free Connection & Peace Call here: https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min [https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min]

The Picture of Your Family Changed, Now What?

Episode 19: The Picture of Your Family Changed, Now What? If you’re an LDS mom struggling because your child has stepped away from the Church, changed beliefs, or chosen a different path than the one you imagined this episode is for you. Book a free coaching call with me here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/84270157732 [https://us06web.zoom.us/j/84270157732] You raised your children with faith. Family Home Evening. Seminary. Prayer. Church every Sunday. You thought you knew what your family story would look like. Then one day the picture changed. In this episode, we’re talking about the grief, fear, confusion, and self-blame many Christian and LDS mothers feel when life no longer matches the picture they carried in their heads. We’ll talk about: * Why “families are forever” can suddenly feel complicated * What happens when your child leaves the Church or believes differently * Why many moms quietly feel like they failed * The pressure LDS women often carry around creating the “perfect eternal family” * What it actually means to trust God when life feels uncertain * How to stop seeing your family as broken * Finding peace when your child’s choices are different than what you planned This episode also explores how familiar gospel truths can become so common that we stop really seeing them until something painful moves the picture. If you’ve ever thought: “What did I do wrong?” “How did we get here?” “Why does this hurt so much?” “Can I still trust God with my family?” You are not alone. This conversation will help you feel more grounded, more hopeful, and less afraid while navigating faith transitions, mixed-faith families, adult children leaving religion, and the emotional pain that comes with unmet expectations. You’ll walk away with a new perspective on eternal families, trust in God, grief, agency, and what it means to love your family without panic. You are allowed to stop measuring your family against a picture in your head. The picture may have changed. The promises haven’t. If this episode helped you, please share it with another mom who needs it today.

What Happened vs What You’re Making It Mean

“Don’t tell me this is neutral when it’s breaking my heart.” If you’ve ever thought that, this episode is for you. When your child makes a choice that goes against everything you taught them, it doesn’t feel neutral. It feels heavy. It feels personal. It feels like everything is unraveling. It feels wrong. In this episode, I’m walking you through the difference between what actually happened and the story your brain is building around it. Because those are not the same thing. We’re talking about real situations LDS moms face every day: *  A daughter who is pregnant  *  A son choosing not to serve a mission  *  A child stepping away from church  *  A child living with a partner  *  A family that suddenly doesn’t look like what you pictured  I’ll show you how your thoughts about these situations can quietly add layers of shame, fear, and suffering and how to start separating that out so you can feel more confident, more clear, and more like yourself again. This is not about pretending things are okay.  This is about stopping the extra pain you don’t need to carry. You’re allowed to feel sad.  And you’re also allowed to stay whole. If your child’s choices are keeping you up at night or weighing on your heart, you don’t have to figure this out alone. 👉 Schedule a free call with me and let’s talk about what’s going on for you: https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min [https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min] I’ll help you come back to yourself… while still loving them deeply.

The One Painful Question Mom’s Ask

The One Painful Question Moms Ask As Mother’s Day gets closer, there’s a question many good women carry quietly: Am I enough? Enough as a mom, enough for the child who struggles, enough when life didn’t turn out the way you prayed it would. In this episode, we gently pull that question apart and replace it with something more honest, more grounded, and more healing. You’ll hear: * 6 clear ways to know you are enough (even when things feel messy) * The truth about why your child’s choices are not proof of your failure * What God actually sees when He looks at you and your family * How to stop measuring your worth by outcomes you were never meant to control We’ll anchor everything in powerful scriptures like Isaiah 49 and Romans 8, and a deeply moving story from President Dallin H. Oaks that will change the way you see both yourself and the people you love. If Mother’s Day feels tender this year, if you’ve been carrying quiet guilt, worry, or disappointment or If you’ve ever wondered if you did enough… This episode is for you. Do you want 1:1 help, join me for a free call  https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min [https://calendly.com/sherylee-kartchner/25min] Press play. 🤍