I Wanted to Be Chosen- Until I Chose Me

Boundaries From Love, Not Fear

In this episode of Power Through the Mess, I explore what it really means to set boundaries from a place of self-respect rather than survival. So often, boundaries are framed as walls — built after we’ve been hurt, disappointed, or exhausted. But boundaries rooted in fear can keep us guarded, defensive, and disconnected from ourselves. In this conversation, I talk about the shift that happens when boundaries come from love instead — love for your peace, your energy, and your emotional well-being. This episode is about learning to listen to your body, trust your intuition, and honor your limits without guilt or explanation. It’s about understanding that boundaries don’t make you cold, difficult, or closed off — they make you clear. If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, over-explaining, or feeling responsible for how others respond to your needs, this episode will meet you right where you are. ⸻ 🌿 THANK YOU & STAY CONNECTED If you want to continue walking with me beyond the podcast: 🔗 All My Links Linktree: https://linktr.ee/starlit3 Website: https://thesoftpowerjournal.com 🌿 Connect With Me Instagram — The Power Society https://www.instagram.com/thepower_society Instagram — Official EM Divine https://www.instagram.com/officialemdivine TikTok — @officialemdivine https://www.tiktok.com/@officialemdivine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/1BSDLAptVv/?mibextid=wwXIfr YouTube — Divine Frequencies (weekly behind-the-scenes vlog series) https://youtube.com/@emdivineofficaltemp 🎶 My Music Spotify (Artist) https://open.spotify.com/artist/5CByfgJh2uFUuqJmYb0iTg Apple Music (Artist) https://music.apple.com/us/artist/e-m-divine/1834772947 📚 My Book Amazon — What the Basement Knew https://a.co/d/hw9wIGQ

I Wanted to Be Chosen- Until I Chose Me

In this episode of Power Through the Mess, I open up about a season of quiet, loss, and self-reckoning — and the truth about what really happens when you choose yourself. I talk honestly about the desire to be chosen, the patterns we unknowingly repeat in relationships, and the confusion that comes from inconsistency — especially when love feels different in private than it does in public. This episode isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about recognizing where self-abandonment shows up, how isolation can be part of the process, and what alignment actually looks like on the other side. Choosing yourself doesn’t always feel empowering at first. Sometimes it costs you connections, friendships, and familiarity. Sometimes it brings silence before it brings clarity. But in that quiet, something truer begins to form. If you’ve ever felt like you were asking to be chosen instead of choosing yourself — this conversation is for you. ⸻ 🌿 THANK YOU & STAY CONNECTED If you want to continue walking with me beyond the podcast: 🔗 All My Links Linktree: https://linktr.ee/starlit3 Website: https://thesoftpowerjournal.com 🌿 Connect With Me Instagram — The Power Society https://www.instagram.com/thepower_society Instagram — Official EM Divine https://www.instagram.com/officialemdivine TikTok — @officialemdivine https://www.tiktok.com/@officialemdivine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/1BSDLAptVv/?mibextid=wwXIfr YouTube — Divine Frequencies (weekly behind-the-scenes vlog series) https://youtube.com/@emdivineofficaltemp 🎶 My Music Spotify (Artist) https://open.spotify.com/artist/5CByfgJh2uFUuqJmYb0iTg Apple Music (Artist) https://music.apple.com/us/artist/e-m-divine/1834772947 📚 My Book Amazon — What the Basement Knew https://a.co/d/hw9wIGQ

Not Pretty But Still Worthy

🎙 Show Notes: Season 3, Episode 1 – Not Pretty But Still Worthy The glow-up doesn’t always look like the highlight reel. Sometimes it’s messy. Sometimes it’s quiet. Sometimes it doesn’t look pretty at all. But it’s still worthy. In this episode, Evelyn Michelle opens Season 3 of Power Through the Mess with raw honesty about her own journey—losing over 100 pounds, facing shame from family and relationships, and realizing that the real glow-up starts inside, not outside. She shares the “deep, dark secret” she’s been keeping (her quiet creative glow-up), and what stepping into this new chapter is requiring of her: discipline, organization, belief, and the courage to bet on herself. If you’ve ever felt like your glow-up doesn’t measure up, this episode will remind you that the messy middle still counts. ⸻ ✨ In this episode you’ll hear:     •    Why the glow-up isn’t about before-and-after photos.     •    The moment Evelyn realized she had to change—for her kids and for herself.     •    The shame she carried, where it came from, and how she’s releasing it.     •    The “quiet glow-up” she’s stepping into now (yes, she’s creating music 🎶).     •    Practical tools that are helping her in this season: schedule blocking, small disciplines, and the courage to believe in herself even when it looks crazy to others. ⸻ 🌹 Dive Deeper     •    Explore the new offerings on The Unlearning Room (https://thesoftpowerjournal.com/%F0%9F%8C%80the-unlearning-room/).     •    Read the raw letters + journal entries in Dear Former Me (https://thesoftpowerjournal.com/category/dear-former-me/).     •    Support this work through Pour Into Purpose (https://buymeacoffee.com/softpowersociety) (if you feel called).     •    Get a sneak peek of my new sounds on SoundCloud (https://on.soundcloud.com/jimwDXDeZ71cjJJbQ7).     •    Or connect with everything in one place at my Linktree (https://linktr.ee/starlit3). ⸻ ✨ Whether you’re new here or have been walking with me since Season 1—thank you. You are proof that even in the middle of the mess, we are still glowing.

Becoming Her Anyway: Even Without Clarity, Even in the Uncertainty

This might be the shortest episode of the season, but it's still real. In this raw, unfiltered reflection, I talk about what it really means to "become her"-not through perfection or performance, but through presence. Not with a blueprint, but with breath. This one's soft. Short. And from the heart!

The Truth That Doesn't Fit in a Blueprint: Spiritual Alignment Beyond the Plan

Sometimes even your healing becomes too small. This episode is about the moment you outgrew the life you prayed for-the version of you that was built on strategy, structure, and survival. We're diving into what it really means to surrender the plan, losses your grip on the blueprint, and evolve into a version of yourself that isn't controlled by fear, performance, or past patterns. This is about spiritual alignment over expectation. It's about walking away from what no longer fits-even if it once felt like everything you wanted-and choosing the unknown, because that's where your soul is pulling you now.