#70 - Stop Performing Extroversion to Get Promoted - Minisode

#71 — Assertive Communication for Introverts: How to Be Heard Without Raising Your Voice — Megan Malone

Why does being heard in meetings feel harder for introverts — and what do the most assertive quiet leaders actually do differently? Most introverted leaders have been told to "speak up more" their entire careers. It hasn't worked. The real problem isn't volume — it's that the room moves too fast, the louder voices get the airtime, and you walk out wishing you'd said the thing you actually thought. Personality expert Megan Malone has spent her career at Truity helping people use self-awareness, not extroversion, as the foundation for assertive communication. In this conversation, she breaks down the specific moves introverts can use to hold their ground, claim time to think, set boundaries that protect their energy, and have the hard conversations they've been putting off. In this episode you'll discover: * Why "let me get back to you" is a leadership move, not a retreat — and how to use it without losing the room * How to use personality self-awareness to spot the patterns that keep you silent in meetings (and what to do instead) * How to address conflict and set boundaries earlier, using "I" statements that keep the relationship intact If you've ever left a meeting wishing you'd been more direct, this episode gives you the playbook. Hit play and listen now. * Megan Malone's Book [https://amzn.to/3xW6U13] * Megan Malone's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coachwithmegan/] * Megan Malone's Twitter [https://twitter.com/meganmmalone] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

#70 - Stop Performing Extroversion to Get Promoted - Minisode

You've made it through the whole day. Meetings, conversations, constant social engagement. Now someone's suggesting happy hour. Maybe drinks after. You're drained — but you're thinking: What if I miss something important? What will my boss think if I'm not there? This minisode pulls back the curtain on one of the most quietly exhausting parts of being an introvert in an extroverted culture: the belief that you must perform extroversion to get promoted and be taken seriously as a leader. What you'll hear: * Greg's personal story: how a team culture of late-night social events pushed him to the breaking point — and the hotel room conversation that changed everything * The real price of masking: why the exhaustion feels invisible, and why most of us are paying the "performance tax" without naming it * Steve Friedman's Five Phases of Introversion framework — from Unaware through Flourishing — and why recognizing you've been running an operating system that wasn't designed for you is a diagnosis, not a weakness * A concrete listener prompt: identify one obligation you're doing out of fear, then ask what would actually happen if you stopped Key Insight: You will never get promoted into a version of yourself you haven't decided to be first. The goal is not to perform extroversion well enough to lead. The goal is to get promoted as yourself — and those are not the same path. Why It Matters: Introverted leaders often operate under a false choice: either drain yourself performing availability, or get left behind. This minisode reframes that as a false trade-off. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish — it's the condition for sustainable, authentic leadership. Resources: * Full episode with Steve Friedman: E67 (available this week) * Greg's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gregoryweinger/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/gregoryweinger/] * Show website: https://www.powerfulintrovertpodcast.com [https://www.powerfulintrovertpodcast.com] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

#69 — How to Break the Habits Blocking Your Next Promotion

What if the habit holding back your promotion isn't your personality — but the way your brain shuts down under stress? For most introverted leaders, the moment that matters — speaking up in a meeting, pushing back on a louder colleague, advocating for your own work — comes with a physical reaction your brain has been trained to avoid. So you stay quiet. The opportunity passes. And the pattern hardens. In this episode, Greg sits down with Norman Farb — neuroscientist, University of Toronto professor, and co-author of Better in Every Sense — to unpack the science of why introverts get stuck, how the brain's "default mode network" runs us on autopilot, and the small daily practice that lets you make a different choice in the moments that decide your career. In this episode you'll discover: * Recognize the stress response that quietly shuts down your ability to speak up, advocate, or lead in real time * Rewire the habit loop between sensation and reaction so you can act with quiet authority even when your heart is racing * Expand your sense of self instead of trying to "become" an extrovert — the path Norman's research shows actually leads to lasting change If you've ever walked out of a meeting thinking, I had the better idea and I still said nothing — this conversation will change how you understand that moment, and give you a way through it. Hit play and listen now. * Better in Every Sense — Norman Farb & Zindel Segal [https://betterineverysense.com] * Norman Farb — University of Toronto Faculty Page [https://www.utsc.utoronto.ca/psych/norman-farb] * Norman Farb's Research Lab [https://farblab.ca] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

#68 — Workplace Anxiety: Stop Suppressing It. Start Using It.

What if your anxiety at work isn't a flaw to fix — but information you've learned to ignore? Most introverted professionals have spent years trying to suppress, manage around, or hide their anxiety in professional settings. The result: the energy drain gets worse, not better — because avoiding anxiety costs more than the anxiety itself. Dr. David Rosmarin is a psychologist at McLean Hospital, a Harvard Medical School faculty member, and the author of Thriving with Anxiety: 9 Tools to Make Your Anxiety Work for You. His research shows that your relationship with anxiety matters far more than how much of it you feel. And for introverted leaders — who tend to process more deeply and feel more acutely in high-pressure moments — that reframe changes everything. In this episode you'll: * Understand why the standard advice to "manage your anxiety" often backfires — and what the research says actually works instead * Identify whether your anxiety is signaling something genuinely important or simply a habit loop your nervous system has gotten stuck in * Use a practical, evidence-based toolkit to make your anxiety work for you at work — not against you If you've ever walked into a meeting feeling your nervous system spike, or spent the hour before a high-stakes conversation burning energy you didn't have — this episode will change how you see that experience. Hit play and listen now. * Thriving with Anxiety: 9 Tools to Make Your Anxiety Work for You [https://www.amazon.com/Thriving-Anxiety-Tools-Make-Your-ebook/dp/B0BYYWCR5D/] * David's Website [https://dhrosmarin.com/] * McLean Hospital Bio [https://www.mcleanhospital.org/profile/david-h-rosmarin] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dhrosmarin/] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

#67 — Introvert Burnout: The 5 Phases to Finally Flourish at Work

What does it actually cost to pretend to be an extrovert every single day? For Steve Friedman, the answer was decades of exhaustion, unhealthy coping, and a quiet misery that no amount of career success could fix. He traveled the world in senior corporate roles, put on a mask each morning, and came home every night and crashed on the couch — until a moment alone in Hiroshima made it impossible to keep going the same way. What followed was a hard-won transformation he's now mapped into five phases every introvert goes through — from Unaware to Uninformed to Enlightened to Contentment to Flourishing — and a set of practical frameworks for meetings, networking, and leadership that finally let quiet professionals show up as themselves. In this episode you'll discover: * Locate yourself on the flourishing arc using Steve's five-phase framework — Unaware, Uninformed, Enlightened, Contentment, and Flourishing — so you know exactly where you are and what the next step actually looks like * Prepare like an introvert to lead like one with Steve's Ready, Set, Go, and Next meeting framework — a preparation-first system that helps quiet leaders contribute their sharpest thinking without being steamrolled or caught off guard * Network on your own terms using Steve's Networking Intimacy model — one-on-ones, shorter durations, a four-topic conversation card in your pocket — so you build the relationships that matter without the room-of-100 dread Steve is the author of In Search of Courage and The Corporate Introvert, both available on Amazon. If this resonated, the easiest thing you can do is hit subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — a new episode drops every Monday and Friday. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.