It’s Not Me, It’s My Attachment Style

Changing Your MIndset: With my Guest: Dr. Rachel Goldman

I call my podcast Reframing Midlife, because as a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist I know the power of your mindset. In midlife many things happen to you, some times your thinking is helpful, other times your thinking is not helpful.  Listen as my guest Dr. Rachel Goldman and I, both CBT therapists discuss the process of changing your thoughts. I call it 'reframing' Dr. Rachel calls it 'tweaking' but we both agree that there are techniques designed to help you better manage your mood.  Your thoughts affect how you feel and also how you act or behave. If you can change the way you think, you can change your life.    Happy Listening, your Session Starts Now!

Getting your Husband on board with Menopause

Midlife can be challenging, especially in your relationship. Listen to advice from my husband on how to best support your wife during the change.

What is Gray Divorce?

Gray Divorce: what is it, and why are statistics rising? As a psychologist, I’ve seen firsthand the emotional impact that divorce can have on people, especially later in life. In this video, I sit down with three friends who each had very different experiences with their divorces after decades of marriage. One shares how their divorce was a positive and freeing experience, another talks about the deep regret they feel and the challenges of moving on, while the third dives into the pain of an ugly, messy divorce filled with conflict. Which story resonates with you the most? Cynthia, Maryam, or Jenny? Whether you've been through it, are thinking about it, or are just curious about what happens after "gray divorce," we’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.   Let’s open up the conversation around this often-overlooked chapter of life. Is menopause affecting your marital relationship? If so, how? 👉 Don’t forget to subscribe for more discussions on relationships, mental health, and personal

It’s Not Me, It’s My Attachment Style

Ever wondered why your husband can’t put his socks away? Or why your teenage son gives you one-word answers? Turns out, attachment styles might be the key to unlocking the mysteries of ALL your relationships (yes, even with your dog!). In this episode, I’m diving into the magical world of attachment theory—a not-so-clinical diagnosis that explains everything from your romantic partner's quirks to your BFF's ghosting habits. I’ll be breaking down: * Where the whole “attachment style” craze came from * How it’s measured (spoiler: no actual rulers involved) * The four attachment styles (one of these may explain that frantic text you sent at 3 a.m.) * Real-life, hilarious (and occasionally cringe-worthy) examples Midlife is tough enough with all the physical and emotional changes, and guess what? Your attachment style decides to make a cameo right when you're trying to figure it all out. Buckle up as we laugh, learn, and reframe midlife—attachment style and all! 👂 Tune in, bring your sense of humor, and let’s unravel the ties that bind (literally and figuratively). Find out your unique attachment style today with my free attachment style assessment https://doctor-diane.com/quiz/ [https://doctor-diane.com/quiz/]

What is Midlife?

In this debut episode of the Reframing Midlife Podcast, Dr. Diane Strachowski, a licensed psychologist, dives deep into the concept of midlife. What exactly is midlife? When does it begin, and when does it end? More importantly, what is the true purpose of this often-misunderstood phase of life? Dr. Diane opens up about her personal experiences, revealing her own journey through midlife challenges. At 58, she thought she had midlife figured out—until unexpected stress, health issues, and life changes caused her to reevaluate everything. From dealing with menopause to juggling multiple roles as a stepmom, wife, and professional in the reality dating space, Dr. Diane shares her struggles with hair loss, insomnia, and heart palpitations, all while questioning if she was in the midst of a midlife crisis. This episode also explores how developmental psychologists define midlife, particularly the insights of Erik Erikson, who framed midlife as a time of "Generativity vs. Stagnation." Dr. Diane reflects on how this period is not just about surviving but thriving, by finding purpose and developing the virtue of care—especially self-care. Join Dr. Diane as she invites you to rethink and reframe midlife. Whether you’re wondering if you’re in midlife, struggling with its challenges, or simply curious about what lies ahead, this episode offers valuable insights and a comforting sense of solidarity. Learn more at https://doctor-diane.com/ [https://doctor-diane.com/] Want to know your attachment style? Take Dr. Diane's Free Assessment https://doctor-diane.com/quiz/