School of Self-Image

The Lightning Strike: A Wake-Up Call to Live Fully In our fast-paced lives, it's easy to let moments slip by unnoticed, overshadowed by distractions and the constant hum of to-do lists. However, as Tonya Leigh emphasizes in this episode, life doesn't need to be grand to feel fulfilling; it simply needs to be fully lived. The key to unlocking joy, clarity, and confidence lies in maximizing our moments. Tonya shares a deeply personal story inspired by a frightening experience during a flight from Charlotte to Boston. While 15,000 to 20,000 feet in the air, an unexpected flash of light shook the plane, sending passengers into a panic. Tonya recounts her reaction of stillness amidst chaos, highlighting the importance of maximizing moments in life. She emphasizes that life doesn't need to be bigger to feel better; rather, it requires a fuller experience. Join Tonya as she explores how to unlock more joy, clarity, and confidence in your everyday moments. Grab your tea or coffee and prepare for an enlightening discussion on living fully. Talking Points: 00:43 - Tonya's Scary Flight Experience 03:23 - Realization of Life's Value 05:09 - What Really Matters 07:16 - How We Minimize Moments 09:53 - Deep Presence and Awareness 13:23 - Focusing on Lack vs. Appreciation 18:10 - Wealth and Maximizing Resources 22:28 - Investing in Inspiration 24:46 - Living in Gratitude Quotes: "It woke me up to what really, really matters." "As long as I have my life, I have possibility." "When you are present, you'll realize you're okay in this moment without all of the mental drama."  "The practice of appreciation will change your life."  "Focusing on what you already have and maximizing it will lead to discoveries and results that will expand your life." "The best way to do that is to make here so full that you outgrow it." "You don't need more time. You just need more aliveness in the time you already have." Useful  Resources: Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/join] to join the Membership  Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/] for a FREE download  Click HERE [http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit] to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE [https://www.instagram.com/schoolofselfimage/] to follow our Instagram Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/] to visit our website Click HERE [https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial] to visit our Facebook group Click HERE [https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh] to follow our TikTok Click HERE [https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial] to subscribe to our YouTube channel

The Art of Joyfully Hustling: Balancing Ambition and Ease

The Drama Triangle Explained: How to Reclaim Your Power The Drama Triangle, a concept developed by psychologist Stephen Karpman, illustrates how individuals can become entangled in a cycle of emotional exhaustion and conflict through three distinct roles: the victim, the rescuer, and the villain. Each role plays a significant part in perpetuating drama in our lives, often without our conscious awareness. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of the Drama Triangle, a framework that reveals the subconscious patterns we create in our lives. The discussion highlights how many people gravitate towards drama, whether for a sense of identity, adrenaline, or connection, often without realizing it. Tonya emphasizes that while some drama may serve a purpose, much of it keeps us trapped in familiar, chaotic states, preventing us from experiencing peace and ease in our lives.  Tune in as we break down the three roles in the Drama Triangle—victim, villain, and hero—and how to recognize and escape these patterns to achieve a more elegant and fulfilling life. 00:47 - The Allure of Drama: Why We Create It 01:03 - Craving Peace and Elegance 02:09 - Role 1: The Victim 04:16 - The Victim's Self-Image 07:10 - Role 2: The Rescuer 09:50 - Examples of the Rescuer Role 11:07 - The Rescuer's Self-Image 16:00 - Role 3: The Villain 19:30 - Examples of the Villain Role 22:26 - The Villain's Self-Image 23:32 - Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle 24:03 - Becoming the Main Character Quotes: "What we crave is a sense of ease, a sense of peace, a sense of elegance in our lives, which means that we're going to have to give up some of the drama." "You're not the problem, but you are the solution." "If you want to grow your impact, if you want to have more ease in your life, you must be willing to let other people fail." "I'm only valuable when I'm needed." "The control, the criticism, and the blame comes from a fear of losing control, of not being enough, of being exposed." "You're the main character, but more importantly, you're also the writer and the director." Useful  Resources: Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/join] to join the Membership  Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/] for a FREE download  Click HERE [http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit] to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE [https://www.instagram.com/schoolofselfimage/] to follow our Instagram Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/] to visit our website Click HERE [https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial] to visit our Facebook group Click HERE [https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh] to follow our TikTok Click HERE [https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial] to subscribe to our YouTube channel

Clearing the Clutter: Transforming Your Self-Image for a New Season Spring is often associated with renewal and fresh beginnings, and this concept can be applied to our self-image as well. Just as we clean out our closets or declutter our homes, we can also take the time to refresh how we see ourselves and how we show up in the world.  Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of spring cleaning your self-image, much like we do with our homes. As nature begins to awaken from winter, it's the perfect time to reflect on how we perceive ourselves and make necessary changes for personal growth. The host invites listeners to embrace this season of renewal by clearing out old beliefs and habits that no longer serve them and to welcome in new, positive energy that aligns with the woman they're becoming. Join us as we discuss practical steps to refresh your self-image, create an environment that supports your evolution, and ignite your journey toward self-reinvention. Get ready to dive deep and transform your perspective this spring! Talking Points: 00:47 - A Time for Reinvention 02:02 - Identify the Area to Spring Clean 04:00 - Paint the Vision for Your After Story 07:10 - Clear the Clutter of Limiting Beliefs 12:21 - Bring in Fresh Energy and New Beliefs 20:02 - Protect the Space with Boundaries and Systems 27:52 - Elevate and Upgrade Your Environment Quotes: "Within each of us, we always have a new after story that's just waiting to be revealed, waiting to be experienced, waiting to be created, but you have to paint it first." "Identity is built in tiny decisions." "If you continue to do what you're doing for the next 10 years, are you going to like the result?" "My workouts go in my calendar like a meeting with my most important client because honestly, I am." "If you love this podcast, if it brings a spark of joy to your life, if it's helped you to navigate some challenging times." Useful  Resources: Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/join] to join the Membership  Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/] for a FREE download  Click HERE [http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit] to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE [https://www.instagram.com/schoolofselfimage/] to follow our Instagram Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/] to visit our website Click HERE [https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial] to visit our Facebook group Click HERE [https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh] to follow our TikTok Click HERE [https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial] to subscribe to our YouTube channel

Cultivating Quiet Confidence as a Woman In today's fast-paced world, power is often associated with loudness, dominance, and aggressive behavior. However, Tonya Leigh highlights a different perspective: quiet power, which is rooted in presence, certainty, and self-trust. This form of power is not about making noise or asserting oneself over others; rather, it embodies a calm and confident energy that naturally commands respect. The concept of "quiet power" and what it truly means to be a strong, influential woman without conforming to traditional expectations of dominance. Tonya reflects on her personal journey and how her quietness and feminine energy have often been misinterpreted as weaknesses. She shares insights on the importance of authenticity and self-trust, emphasizing that true power lies in being aligned with one’s true self rather than succumbing to external pressures. Join Tonya as she uncovers how to embrace your presence, influence without force, and become undeniably powerful in your own unique way. Talking Points: 01:42 - Misalignment and Loss of Power 04:25 - True Power and Insecurity 06:33 - Knowing Your Worth 11:04 - Acting Out of Character 14:49 - Rosa Parks' Quiet Defiance 18:24 - Unshakable Boundaries 22:07 - Importance of Emotional Management 26:04 - Dressing and Moving with Intentionality 28:29 - Embodying Quiet Power 30:22 - Taking Action Without Announcing Quotes: "If you are trying to be something that your soul is not in alignment with, if you are trying to be powerful in a way that doesn't feel true to you, there is going to be misalignment." "I am that quiet power. I have no interest in dominating you. I want us all to win together." "Her strength lay in her unshakable presence, her certainty, and her quiet refusal to be moved, literally and figuratively." "There's something magnetic about a woman who's in that energy that's just so in who she is, who's so present, who has nothing to prove and everything to give." "How would you dress, walk, and speak if you fully believed in your power?" "A woman with quiet power doesn't waste time talking about what she's going to do. She just does it." Useful  Resources: Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/join] to join the Membership  Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/] for a FREE download  Click HERE [http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit] to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE [https://www.instagram.com/schoolofselfimage/] to follow our Instagram Click HERE [https://schoolofselfimage.com/] to visit our website Click HERE [https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial] to visit our Facebook group Click HERE [https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh] to follow our TikTok Click HERE [https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial] to subscribe to our YouTube channel