20: every woman needs a hoe phase (not with men though)

20: every woman needs a hoe phase (not with men though)

"You can’t choose well until you fully know what it’s like to choose badly." - Bryn Daylor In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn gets into the hoe phase  (yes, that one) but then flips the concept on its head. After asking herself what a hoe phase even looks like as a married woman, she lands on something she wasn't expecting: her career. From 3rd grade teacher to gym owner to meal delivery company to the blend of creativity, love, and God she's living now through her business, Bryn makes the case that trying things, pivoting out loud, and refusing to be boxed in isn't a bug. It's a feature. Takeaways - Why having a hoe phase, romantically and professionally, is actually how you choose well - The shame spiral Bryn had with her business coach about every pivot she's ever made, and the reframe that changed everything - Why your purpose is a verb, not a noun — it grows and changes with you - Why pivoting out loud gives the people around you permission to grow too - A question to sit with: where do you need more permission to experiment? Connect with Bryn:  Instagram: @bryndaylor [https://www.instagram.com/bryndaylor/]  Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/] Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

19: the universe loves a messy b*tch

"You don't have to be perfect to be magnetic. You have to be honest. And honest, most of the time, looks a lot like messy." - Bryn Daylor In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn opens with the moment she blacked out (twice!) on stage in front of sixty people while telling the story of her dog Wags and the love they shared. What she expected: shame, pity, an audience that pulled back.  What actually happened cracked open everything she thought she knew about magnetism. Bryn makes the case that what you project is what you magnetize… and performing perfection attracts people who want the performance, not you.  Takeaways - Why messy gets a terrible rap, and why that rap is wrong - The critical difference between trauma dumping and messy (one discharges onto people, the other invites them in) - Why the people meant for you don't move toward your polish, they move toward your realness - Why clarity doesn't come from getting it right the first time – it comes from living something fully and letting it teach you - How this applies to love: every messy data point is what makes you a ten out of ten for the right person when they show up Connect with Bryn:  Instagram: @bryndaylor [https://www.instagram.com/bryndaylor/]  Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/] Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

18: how to be a magnet for extraordinary (whether you are single or in a relationship)

"You don't have to earn the right to be fully seen. Being fully seen is how everything you want arrives." - Bryn Daylor In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn introduces the UNMISSABLE method: not a dating strategy, not a manifestation hack, but a way of becoming so fully yourself that the right love has somewhere to land. She breaks down the three pillars of Frequency, Visibility, and Divinity, and makes the case that extraordinary love doesn't find a woman who's performing. It finds a woman who's finally, fully somewhere visible. This one applies whether you're single, dating, or already in a relationship. Takeaways - What the UNMISSABLE method actually is, and what it isn't - Why you don't attract what you want, you attract who you are - The sneaky ways high-achieving women hide in plain sight (including the journals no one will ever read) - Why the polished, competent, fine version of you is visible… but the woman he's actually looking for is still in witness protection - What Divinity really means and why it's the pillar most women want to skip - Where Frequency, Visibility, and Divinity overlap and why that's where extraordinary love finds you Connect with Bryn:  Instagram: @bryndaylor [https://www.instagram.com/bryndaylor/]  Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/] Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

17: when your dream doesn't work: the truth nobody talks about

🌹Free creative resources to wake up your muse [https://bryndaylor.myflodesk.com/muse] "Your creative dream is going to ask you to be the most delusional, committed version of yourself. Be that." - Bryn Daylor In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn gets honest about the part of creative work that nobody talks about — the flop. The launch that doesn't land the way you pictured. The book, the podcast, the business that doesn't take off the first time. Inspired by the opening scene of the Steve Jobs movie, and a real launch she had last week that didn't go the way she imagined, Bryn makes the case that not getting the result you wanted is not the same thing as failing. This one is for anyone with a creative dream. Takeaways - Why the first version of your creative dream so often doesn't land the way you imagined - What we can learn from the way Steve Jobs related to his vision (and what to leave behind) - The difference between a flop and a failure - Why your soul might need an idea to be birthed more than once before it lands - What it actually takes to be a creative, a visionary, and someone who takes real risks - Permission to keep coming back to the dream, again and again, or to let it be unperceived and let that be okay too Connect with Bryn:  Instagram: @bryndaylor [https://www.instagram.com/bryndaylor/]  Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/] Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

16: from numb to turned on: what nobody taught us about desire

"You have to be so lit up by your own desire that the right people, opportunities, and love can actually find you." — Bryn Daylor In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn gets honest about one of her biggest edges: embodying her full erotic self. Bryn unpacks her Erotic Blueprint, introduces the Bad Bunny archetype, and makes the case that turn on is a portal. One that doesn't have to be sexual at all. It can be a pastry on a Saturday morning, a song that stops you mid-walk, or a creative project that makes time disappear. Aliveness is your mating call. And this episode is your permission slip to chase it. Takeaways - What responsive desire is and why so many women don't realize they have it - The difference between performing sexuality and actually embodying it - Why so many women have never given themselves permission to access their full erotic self - The Bad Bunny archetype and what it means to choose your edge - Why turn on is a portal to aliveness, and aliveness is what actually attracts the life and love you want - The one question that can change everything: what do you actually desire? Not what you should want. Not what looks responsible or reasonable or right. What actually turns you on? Connect with Bryn:  Instagram: @bryndaylor [https://www.instagram.com/bryndaylor/] Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe [https://bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]