Episode 28 – Let’s Talk About ENERGY How to Shift Your V.I.B.E. and Lead With Power

The Aloha Adventures With Colonel Deb – How Pono and Kuleana Help You Live With Aloha

Aloha Friends! In Episode 1 of The Aloha Adventures with Colonel Deb, I begin exploring the deeper meaning behind my book: Why Is Pono Not Pono Today? From my home in Hilo, Hawai‘i, I introduce three powerful Hawaiian concepts:   • Aloha – living with love   • Pono – being in balance   • Kuleana – taking responsibility and action Together, they form a simple yet powerful way of understanding how we return to our best when life feels off balance. This podcast episode is based on my Stress Intelligence YouTube series         The Aloha Adventures: Life Lessons From Pono and Kuleana [https://www.youtube.com/@StressIntelligence/playlists] where I share the story behind the book along with the beauty and spirit of Hilo. This episode sets the foundation for the journey ahead. 📖 If you'd like to follow along with my book, you can obtain a copy here: [https://www.amazon.com/dp/0991483049/ [https://www.amazon.com/Why-Pono-not-Today-Stressed/dp/0991483049/]] ✅ Subscribe to the Stress Smarts Podcast for weekly tools that help you: * Handle stress without breaking down * Reset quickly after overwhelm * Lead yourself and others with clarity, confidence, and care 🌐 Explore more at MentallyToughWomen.com For Stress Intelligence™ tools, courses, and coaching for purpose-driven women ready to lead and thrive. 📺 Watch video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (www.YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence) 🔗 Connect on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/MentallyToughWomen

Season 2 Trailer – The Aloha Adventures with Colonel Deb | Stress Smarts Podcast

Come along on a journey from my home in Hilo, Hawai‘i as we explore the story behind my book, Why Is Pono Not Pono Today? What looks like a simple children’s book reveals powerful lessons about stress, leadership, and living with aloha. Each episode shares a piece of the story—and the deeper meaning behind it, along with lessons we can apply in everyday life. This podcast season is based on my YouTube series:  The Aloha Adventures with Colonel Deb, where I share the story behind the book along with the beauty and spirit of Hilo. 📖 To get a copy of the Pono book:  http://www.amazon.com/dp/0991483049/ [http://www.amazon.com/dp/0991483049/] ✅ Subscribe to the Stress Smarts Podcast for weekly tools that help you: * Handle stress without breaking down * Reset quickly after overwhelm * Lead yourself and others with clarity, confidence, and care 🌐 Explore more at MentallyToughWomen.com For Stress Intelligence™ tools, courses, and coaching for purpose-driven women ready to lead and thrive. 📺 Watch video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (www.YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence) 🔗 Connect on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/MentallyToughWomen

Episode 28 – Let’s Talk About ENERGY How to Shift Your V.I.B.E. and Lead With Power

What’s the most powerful thing you bring into every room? It’s not your resume.  It’s not your title.  It’s your energy. Your energy shows up before you speak. It lingers after you leave. And it either lifts people up — or wears them down. In this episode of Stress Smarts with Colonel Deb, we explore how energy influences leadership, relationships, stress management, and performance under pressure. From “how not to start a war with your face” to mirror neurons and the power of smiling, you’ll learn why your emotional state is contagious — and how to consciously shift it. Because your presence is your leadership. That’s why I teach the V.I.B.E. framework: V — Vibrations Lead the Way  Energy is the primary law. What you give off shapes the emotional climate of every room. I — Internal Reset Is Key  If you don’t reset your energy internally, you’ll project stress, fear, or tension — even if you say the right words. Tools like Waterfall Breathing, tapping, affirmations, and visualization help you recalibrate. B — Be the Mirror You Want to See  Thanks to mirror neurons, your nervous system talks to others. Smile. Stand tall. Project confidence. Your energy influences theirs. E — Embrace Daily Practices  Energy isn’t one decision — it’s a lifestyle. Sleep. Nutrition. Gratitude. Empowering questions. Daily habits determine long-term vitality. There are no shortcuts to high energy. But there are tools to build it. Every day, you have a choice: let the world shape your energy — or choose to lead with intention. These episodes are adapted from my live Facebook series, Let’s Talk About…, where I share real tools for rising stronger. You can also watch the video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence). ✅ Subscribe to the Stress Smarts Podcast for weekly tools that help you: * Handle stress without breaking down * Reset quickly after overwhelm * Lead yourself and others with clarity, confidence, and care 🌐 Explore more at MentallyToughWomen.com For Stress Intelligence™ tools, courses, and coaching for purpose-driven women ready to lead and thrive. 📺 Watch video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (www.YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence) 🔗 Connect on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/MentallyToughWomen

Let’s Talk About ACCUSATIONS - How to Stay Calm and Lead When You're Under Fire

What if the worst thing someone said about you… wasn’t true?  And even worse — people believed it? Accusations can hit like a punch to the gut. Whether they’re true, false, or weaponized projections, they have the power to undermine reputations, damage relationships, and trigger deep emotional pain. In this episode of Stress Smarts with Colonel Deb, I share deeply personal stories from West Point and beyond — moments of being misunderstood, falsely accused, and publicly blamed — and what I learned the hard way about standing strong when your character is under attack. Most accusations aren’t about truth.  They’re about projection, control, fear, or misunderstanding. That’s why I created a tool to help you rise above the noise: C.L.E.A.R. C. Calm and Center your emotions. L. Listen for what’s really happening. E. Evaluate your options. A. Ask better questions. R.  Respond with wisdom. When you stay C.L.E.A.R., you don’t just survive accusations — you lead through them. Accusations don’t define you.  How you respond does. These episodes are adapted from my live Facebook series, Let’s Talk About…, where I share real tools for rising stronger. You can also watch the video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence). ✅ Subscribe to the Stress Smarts Podcast for weekly tools that help you: * Handle stress without breaking down * Reset quickly after overwhelm * Lead yourself and others with clarity, confidence, and care 🌐 Explore more at MentallyToughWomen.com For Stress Intelligence™ tools, courses, and coaching for purpose-driven women ready to lead and thrive. 📺 Watch video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (www.YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence) 🔗 Connect on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/MentallyToughWomen

Let’s Talk About SHORTCUTS – Why the Fastest Way Isn’t Always the Smartest

Shortcuts may save you time. But when it comes to life, leadership, and legacy—the fastest way isn’t always the smartest. Especially when people are involved. In this episode of Stress Smarts with Colonel Deb, we unpack the myth of shortcuts and the hidden costs of cutting corners. From military operations to team leadership, I’ve seen firsthand how rushing decisions, skipping stakeholders, and chasing efficiency before effectiveness can quietly create blind spots—and sometimes unintended harm. There’s a critical distinction between effectiveness and efficiency. Effectiveness means doing the right thing. Efficiency means doing the thing right. Shortcutting the first for the second is a recipe for failure. That’s why I live by a different standard—captured in the word B.R.I.D.G.E.: B. Build trust every step. R. Refine the ultimate goal. I. Include all stakeholders. D. Decide how communications flow. G. Grow stronger through challenges. E. Evaluate impacts while continuously improving. Shortcuts may feel faster. But bridges carry people safely across. If you’ve ever felt pressured to “just get it done” when something didn’t sit right—this episode will help you trust your inner compass instead of someone else’s stopwatch. These episodes are adapted from my live Facebook series, Let’s Talk About…, where I share real tools for rising stronger. You can also watch the video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence). ✅ Subscribe to the Stress Smarts Podcast for weekly tools that help you: * Handle stress without breaking down * Reset quickly after overwhelm * Lead yourself and others with clarity, confidence, and care 🌐 Explore more at MentallyToughWomen.com For Stress Intelligence™ tools, courses, and coaching for purpose-driven women ready to lead and thrive. 📺 Watch video versions on my Stress Intelligence YouTube channel (www.YouTube.com/@StressIntelligence) 🔗 Connect on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/MentallyToughWomen