The Meeting Before the Meeting | Triangulation at Work

Competence Hoarding: What to Do When One Person Holds All the Answers

Every time you try to document a critical process or get someone else trained, there's always an excuse or something more urgent. And that person stays exactly where they are: indispensable, untouchable, and immovable. In this episode, I break down competence hoarding. It's the team member who won't document the critical process, the leader who never quite teaches you enough to operate without them, or the promotion going to someone you just trained because you're “too valuable” in your position. If you're on the receiving end, you're being kept dependent. If you have a hoarder on your team, you're one resignation away from catastrophe. And if you're the one holding on, you're operating from scarcity instead of building a team that can actually function. Key Takeaways: * How to recognize competence hoarding when you see it (whether you're experiencing it or doing it yourself) * Why knowledge shared is not power lost, even when everything feels scarce * What succession planning actually means: being able to name who could step up tomorrow, not someday * The question to ask yourself about what you're holding onto and what happens when you let it go This episode is for you if you've ever watched knowledge stay locked in one person's head and wondered what it's costing everyone else. Want to explore what systemic change could look like in your organization? Visit sparkthefirm.com [http://sparkthefirm.com] to learn more about working together. __ Strong Face is for leaders caught between caring for their people and enforcing a system that wasn't built to do so, without losing themselves in the process.   Hosted by Tamara Steward, organizational consultant and founder of Spark the Firm, each episode takes one situation you're likely living through at work right now or have seen before, and shows you what's actually broken, and what's yours to fix.

The Meeting Before the Meeting | Triangulation at Work

The decision was already made before anyone asked for your input, and the phones lighting up around the table just confirmed it. In this episode, we’re talking about the meeting before the meeting, the text messages during the meeting, and the decisions happening around you instead of with you. You'll learn why this pattern erodes trust so fast that good people start calculating their exit, how to recognize when you're being triangulated around, and what to do if you realize you're participating in it yourself.  Because when people stop believing the process in the room is real, your meetings become theater and your best ideas never make it to the table. Key takeaways: * Why creating room for healthy challenge is how you get to the best idea (not just good workplace culture) * How to recognize and address triangulation when you feel it in the room * Why once your team realizes the real decisions happen outside the room, trust breaks faster than you can rebuild it * What to do if you're being triangulated around, and how to raise it as a question to your leader * What to examine in yourself if you're the one sending the text or having the pre-meeting (we've all been guilty) This episode is for you if you've ever walked out of a meeting wondering why you were even in the room. Want to explore what systemic change could look like in your organization? Visit sparkthefirm.com [http://sparkthefirm.com] to learn more about working together. __ Strong Face is for leaders caught between caring for their people and enforcing a system that wasn't built to do so, without losing themselves in the process.   Hosted by Tamara Steward, organizational consultant and founder of Spark the Firm, each episode takes one situation you're likely living through at work right now or have seen before, and shows you what's actually broken, and what's yours to fix.

Praise Without Protection | When Recognition Isn't Enough

You're in the company-wide meeting, and your boss is publicly celebrating your team's exceptional work. But just last week, your resource request came back denied. In this episode, I break down what happens when you get public praise but private denial, and why excellence without protection is a trap for managers. You'll learn how to turn that visibility into leverage, protect your team's bandwidth and morale, and use praise as currency to get what you actually need. Key Takeaways: * Why this happens at work, and why the gap between words and actions leaves you feeling isolated and alone * How to use public praise to strengthen your business case for headcount and budget * The strategic way to say no when new requests flood in after your team gets visibility * Why tracking the uptick in asks gives you the data to go back to leadership with proof This episode is for you if you manage people and have ever felt the tension of being valued and unsupported at the same time. Want to explore what systemic change could look like in your organization? Visit sparkthefirm.com [http://sparkthefirm.com] to learn more about working together. __ Strong Face is for leaders caught between caring for their people and enforcing a system that wasn't built to do so, without losing themselves in the process.   Hosted by Tamara Steward, organizational consultant and founder of Spark the Firm, each episode takes one situation you're likely living through at work right now or have seen before, and shows you what's actually broken, and what's yours to fix.

Everything Is a Priority (Therefore Nothing Is)

You're standing in front of your team with a new initiative to roll out, but you can't explain why it matters any more than the seven other things already on everyone's plate. In this episode, I break down what's actually happening when everything is labeled a priority and what you can actually do to protect your team’s bandwidth, capacity, and energy. Key Takeaways: * Why you need to know the difference between what you believe and what you're delivering before you walk into any room * The one question to ask your leadership before your team asks it of you * How to give your team the truth without giving them the chaos, even when you don't have all the answers * The calculated risk I took with a 40-hour monthly report, revealing what low-value work really costs * Why being willing to have uncomfortable conversations is what opens up capacity for what's possible This episode is for you if you've ever smiled and nodded your way through explaining why something matters when you couldn't honestly answer that question yourself. Want to explore what systemic change could look like in your organization? Visit sparkthefirm.com [http://sparkthefirm.com] to learn more about working together. __ Strong Face is for leaders caught between caring for their people and enforcing a system that wasn't built to do so, without losing themselves in the process. Hosted by Tamara Steward, organizational consultant and founder of Spark the Firm, each episode takes one situation you're likely living through at work right now or have seen before, and shows you what's actually broken, and what's yours to fix.

Welcome to Strong Face

What actually breaks a team? Some leaders think it's poor communication. Others think it's a lack of skills or the wrong people in the wrong roles. Some believe if they just work harder, set clearer expectations, or build stronger culture, things will improve. And then there's the advice that if you just lead better, everything else will fall into place. The truth is that while all of these things matter, none of them can fix a structurally broken system. When you're caught between caring for your people and enforcing policies that weren't designed with people in mind, the problem isn't your leadership. It's the system itself. So how do you tell the difference between what's yours to fix and what requires organizational intervention? That's where Strong Face comes in. I'm Tamara Steward, organizational consultant and founder of Spark the Firm. In every episode, I take one situation leaders are living through right now - urgency that never stops, praise without protection, meetings designed to avoid real decisions - and show you what's actually broken and what's within your control to fix. Along the way, you'll learn how to navigate workplace dysfunction, hold boundaries without becoming the problem, and decide what you're willing to carry without losing yourself in the process - so you can stop hiding behind your Strong Face.