#37 - Learning to Lead Without Losing Myself

#37 - Learning to Lead Without Losing Myself

In this episode of Talking with Tanya, I open up about my experience stepping into leadership and how much it challenged me emotionally, mentally, and personally. I talk about the discomfort of asserting myself into other people’s spaces, navigating conflict in real time, learning to trust myself under pressure, and realizing that being a good leader doesn’t mean everyone will like or understand you. Leadership became the ultimate people pleaser test for me. I’ve had to learn how to hold boundaries, stay grounded in my values, and stop seeking validation from how others perceive me. At the same time, I’ve also experienced the rewarding side of leadership, seeing people feel motivated, supported, and genuinely cared for under my guidance. I also share updates about life outside of work, including getting back into dating, personal growth, and the unexpected lessons this season of life has been teaching me. This episode is for anyone learning how to take up space without abandoning themselves in the process. Follow Me On 👇: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tan.gaaa?_t=zt-8zsmpjzylgn&_r=1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanya.villalobos YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos [https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos] Email: talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com [talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com] 💖 Support the Channel:If you enjoyed this episode and would like to support my work, you can do so here: Venmo: @TV0719 CashApp: $TVill719 Kofi: ko-fi.com/talkingwithtanya

#36 - 1 Year of Podcasting: A Timeline of Who I’ve Become

One year ago, I started this podcast with no plan—just a desire to grow, understand myself, and share what I was learning along the way. 36 episodes later… I’m not the same person. In this episode, I’m taking you through a timeline of my journey—not just the episodes I’ve recorded, but the versions of myself that existed within them. From wanting to help others, to learning how to use my voice, to setting boundaries, to finally choosing myself… this past year has changed me in ways I didn’t expect. This isn’t just a recap. It’s a reflection on growth, self-awareness, and becoming. To be loved is to be seen… and this year, I finally started seeing myself. Follow Me On 👇: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tan.gaaa?_t=zt-8zsmpjzylgn&_r=1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanya.villalobos YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos [https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos] Email: talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com [talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com] 💖 Support the Channel:If you enjoyed this episode and would like to support my work, you can do so here: Venmo: @TV0719 CashApp: $TVill719 Kofi: ko-fi.com/talkingwithtanya APPLY HERE FOR INTERNSHIP: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScvOqwOofnDUaotWPGnl_Z66BkuMYGwhkFgGJDJUxDtacx7_Q/viewform

#35 - Enjoying My Own Company

There’s a version of me that used to feel like I needed connection to feel complete…and this version of me?I actually enjoy my own company.In this episode, I talk about what it’s been like outgrowing people, redefining connection, and realizing that emotional fulfillment starts within. I’ve been learning that I don’t need everyone to meet me—I just need the right people to meet me where I am.I also share a moment that made me question myself—when I didn’t feel someone else’s emotions the way I used to—and what that taught me about empathy, boundaries, and not losing myself in other people.Lately, I’ve been noticing how many people struggle with setting boundaries… and how easy it is to overgive when you don’t realize you’re allowed to choose differently.This episode is about:- enjoying your own company- emotional depth and what it actually means- why some connections stop feeling fulfilling- learning to be seen without performing- choosing people who are emotionally available- and trusting that what you’re building will reach who it’s meant toI’m not speaking from a place of needing validation anymore… I’m speaking from a place of understanding. Follow Me On 👇: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tan.gaaa?_t=zt-8zsmpjzylgn&_r=1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanya.villalobos YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos [https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos] Email: talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com [talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com] 💖 Support the Channel:If you enjoyed this episode and would like to support my work, you can do so here: Venmo: @TV0719 CashApp: $TVill719 Kofi: ko-fi.com/talkingwithtanya APPLY HERE FOR INTERNSHIP: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScvOqwOofnDUaotWPGnl_Z66BkuMYGwhkFgGJDJUxDtacx7_Q/viewform

#34 - Attention vs Alignment: Learning to Live With Intention

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to start living with intention. Recently, I had a moment that made me realize how much I’ve changed—how I move differently, how I see people differently, and how I choose what aligns with me instead of just accepting attention. We get into: * the difference between attention and alignment * learning from past mistakes without staying stuck in shame * how self-worth changes your standards * why you can’t always save people from their own lessons * and what it feels like to grow into a new version of yourself that doesn’t always feel “natural” at first I also open up about times where I’ve led people on, avoided honesty, and had to take accountability for my actions—and how those experiences shaped the way I move today. This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re outgrowing old patterns, questioning their choices, or learning how to trust themselves more. You’re not behind. You’re becoming. Follow Me On 👇: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tan.gaaa?_t=zt-8zsmpjzylgn&_r=1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanya.villalobos YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos [https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos] Email: talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com [talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com] 💖 Support the Channel:If you enjoyed this episode and would like to support my work, you can do so here: Venmo: @TV0719 CashApp: $TVill719 Kofi: ko-fi.com/talkingwithtanya APPLY HERE FOR INTERNSHIP: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScvOqwOofnDUaotWPGnl_Z66BkuMYGwhkFgGJDJUxDtacx7_Q/viewform

#33 - Do People Like Me... or Just How I Make Them Feel?

In this episode of Talking with Tanya, I reflect on something that’s been on my mind lately: Do people actually like me for who I am, or just for how I make them feel?I talk about learning to match people’s energy, the exhaustion that can come from overgiving in relationships, and what happens when you start going through an identity shift. As I continue growing and becoming more aware of my patterns, I’m realizing how important balance and reciprocity are in all kinds of relationships.This episode is a real-time reflection on growth, boundaries, and what it means to truly be seen. Follow Me On 👇: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tan.gaaa?_t=zt-8zsmpjzylgn&_r=1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanya.villalobos YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos [https://www.youtube.com/@Tanya.Villalobos] Email: talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com [talkingwithtanya719@gmail.com] 💖 Support the Channel:If you enjoyed this episode and would like to support my work, you can do so here: Venmo: @TV0719 CashApp: $TVill719 Kofi: ko-fi.com/talkingwithtanya APPLY HERE FOR INTERNSHIP: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScvOqwOofnDUaotWPGnl_Z66BkuMYGwhkFgGJDJUxDtacx7_Q/viewform