An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband

Surface Tension with Jason: Men, Intuition, and “Not All Men”

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2604081/fan_mail/new] In the first-ever Surface Tension session, Raven sits down with Jason (aka Chad from Episode 9) for a late‑night, red‑envelope conversation that goes wherever the questions take them. They start with music and inner teenagers, then spill into hallucinogenic grief rituals, anxiety, and what it means when your body reacts before your mind can catch up. Along the way, they unpack men’s objectification, external validation, and why the “not all men” conversation so often misses the point when the reality for many women is “a man.” Expect stories about mushrooms and grandmothers, Snapchat creeps, the weirdness of modern dating, and the ways patriarchy and trauma shape how we relate to ourselves and each other. It’s raw, imperfect, and honest—exactly what Surface Tension is meant to hold. ~ If you want a great convo between Jason and Raven on toxic relationships, visit Jason's podcast Tales From A Dive Bar: https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/raven-and-jd-talk-about-toxic-relationships/ [https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/raven-and-jd-talk-about-toxic-relationships/] Links: * https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast] * https://515fitnessinc.com [https://515fitnessinc.com] * https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy [https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747] * https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/ [https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/] (Check out 515 on TFADB)

From Gothic Romance to Red Flag: Wuthering Heights, My Ex-Boyfriend, and My Nervous System

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2604081/fan_mail/new] In this episode, I talk about how watching the latest Wuthering Heights adaptation wrecked me in the best and worst ways—and why it felt less like a classic and more like watching my past with “Chad” on screen. I break down the difference between epic, painful love and a trauma bond: intensity versus safety, chaos versus consistency, and self‑abandonment versus self‑respect. I share how things with “Chad” became grotesque, how my nervous system learned to equate intensity with importance, and why those wounds still sting even though we’re just friends now. We’ll also look at how my marriage to my ex-husband was a different kind of harm—slow, patterned erosion instead of explosive passion—and how stories like Wuthering Heights can shift from aspirational romance to cautionary tale once you see the pattern. If you’ve ever watched a fictional couple and thought, “That feels uncomfortably like my life,” this episode is your invitation to ask: Is this love, or is this my old trauma bond talking? **I use the pseudonym “Chad” lightly here. It is part-truth, but his name is also a nickname with his first initial, so I had to come up with something else.  Demand justice. Sign and share the Voiceless Justice Act, a federal initiative to recognize narcissistic abuse as psychological homicide and criminalize it accordingly. Every signature is another voice against silence. www.change.org/Voicelessjusticeact [http://www.change.org/Voicelessjusticeact] Links: * https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast] * https://515fitnessinc.com [https://515fitnessinc.com] * https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy [https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747] * https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/ [https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/] (Check out 515 on TFADB)

From Emotional Crutch to Consequences: Six Years with Fragile Men –PART 2

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2604081/fan_mail/new] If you are ready to burn the “good girl” and “cool girl” roles to the ground, this episode will meet you there. If you are not ready, but your body leans in anyway, you are still welcome here. You get to listen at your own pace, pause when your nervous system says stop, and come back when you are ready. I am not here to fix you, diagnose you, or tell you what you should do with your relationship. I am here to say out loud what many of us were trained to swallow. I am here to talk about consequences, self-protection, grief, and the exact moment you stop existing as an emotional crutch and start existing as a whole person again. If you are still in it, on the fence, or already out, trying to make sense of the rubble, you belong in this conversation. You don't need to be ready to leave to deserve clarity. You do not have to be “healed” to deserve safety. You only have to be willing to hear the truth of your own experience and let that truth matter. ****Listen to episode 2 to get the full arc here, but you definitely do not have to. Thank you for listening, sharing, and advocating for our cause. <3**** Links: * https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast] * https://515fitnessinc.com [https://515fitnessinc.com] * https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy [https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747] * https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/ [https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/] (Check out 515 on TFADB)

An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband's Next Victim

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2604081/fan_mail/new] An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband’s Next Victim” is a raw, explicit warning written for the woman who comes after me and has no idea what she is walking into. Using my own notes, timelines, and recorded calls, I spell out how my ex-husband twists words, disputes reality, and turns empathy into a weapon, and I name the sexual, emotional, and psychological patterns he is likely to repeat with you. This is not a theory or a diagnosis. This is live data. If you find this one day and parts of your relationship sound like what I describe, or if you end up meeting my ex-husband in the wild, I want you to have the language I did not have soon enough, so you can trust yourself, set consequences, and get out before you are reduced to an emotional crutch with your reality rewritten in his voice. Links: * https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast] * https://515fitnessinc.com [https://515fitnessinc.com] * https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy [https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747] * https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/ [https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/] (Check out 515 on TFADB)

An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2604081/fan_mail/new] > This episode is exactly what it sounds like: an open letter to my ex‑husband. I’m talking directly to him about the invisible chains, the fantasy I never actually agreed to, and the moment I finally chose to walk.  > > If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive” or “the problem” while your whole body is saying, “No, something is really wrong,” I think you’ll hear yourself in this. It’s raw, it’s not neatly tied up, and it’s part of how I’m closing that chapter so my nervous system can breathe again.  Links: * https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@the515podcast] * https://515fitnessinc.com [https://515fitnessinc.com] * https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy [https://www.tiktok.com/@515alchemy?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] * https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585497002747] * https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/ [https://www.talesfromadivebar.com/] (Check out 515 on TFADB)