Compatibility vs Chemistry in Relationships: What Matters More? | Ep 179

How To Make Anyone Feel Good Talking To You | Ep 180

What if dating wasn’t about luck—but a skill you can actually learn? In this episode, I sit down with internationally recognized dating expert Hunt Ethridge to break down the real mechanics behind attraction, charisma, and connection. From helping a 40-year-old virgin transform his dating life to teaching everyday people how to spark instant chemistry, Hunt shares practical, surprisingly simple tools that anyone can use. We dive into how to ask emotionally engaging questions, build rapport through storytelling, and why removing “dating intent” is often the secret to becoming more magnetic. Whether it’s flirting, banter, or knowing how to approach someone naturally, this conversation reveals how small shifts can completely change your results. If you’ve ever felt awkward, overlooked, or unsure what to say—this episode will show you how to become someone people are naturally drawn to.0:00 Introduction to Hunt Ethridge, Dating and Relationship Coach2:35 Help a 40-year-old virgin4:23 How to ask emotional questions to make them feel good about you?10:30 Weed out the negative people13:09 Charisma15:19 Everyone needs to have one of these ready to go: triumphant, happy, and embarrassing story22:50 How should women capture men’s attention?26:50 All these skills are practice-able28:02 Remove dating intent when you are being social; just start a conversation32:04 Do your “one-offs”34:35 Flirting: learn to compliment and remove intent36:30 Banter and rapport; emotional leadership39:06 Ways to observe someone and start a conversation42:42 What kind of clients do Hunt help?Hunt Ethridge is an award-winning international dating and relationship expert with 20 years experience helping people become the best, most dateable versions of themselves. He has been lucky enough to have been featured in way over 100 different media outlets, with his favorites being AlleyWatch, Dubai Eye, CNN, The New York Times, Playboy and GQ.Currently he is on a Quest to speak with one person in every country on the planet about what dating and relationships are like in their area. IG - https://www.instagram.com/questforadvice/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@huntster44LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/huntethridge/*AMAZON BEST SELLER* Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_FKWJGPCVXW3XG8D98EWB Call May for help: (310) 867-0851Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileEmail: may@twoasianmatchmakers.comWebsite: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York. May’s insights and work have been featured in major media outlets including Cosmopolitan, Los Angeles Magazine, Thrillist, and Huffington Post, establishing her as a go-to expert in love, dating, and human connection.

Compatibility vs Chemistry in Relationships: What Matters More? | Ep 179

In this episode, I sit down with private matchmaker Lorii Abela to unpack why even highly successful individuals can feel stuck in their love lives—and what it really takes to choose the right partner. We explore the deeper layers of compatibility beyond chemistry, including family dynamics, cultural expectations, career demands, and long-term alignment. Lorii shares candid insights on common pitfalls like choosing the wrong partner, navigating in-law relationships, and understanding the real cost of misalignment over time. We also dive into practical topics like prenups, negotiation within marriage, and how long it truly takes to see who someone is. This conversation is a thoughtful look at intentional partner selection for those who want a lasting, aligned relationship—not just attraction in the moment.0:00 Introduction to Lorii Abela4:03 Why successful person struggle with their love life7:03 Family background, Filipina singles, live with in laws9:00 In laws want to stay with you for months11:42 Picking the wrong person13:30 Pre-nups16;27 What’s helped you in your marriage?18:46 Negotiation in a marriage21:33 Regret not having kids?23:23 Compatibility and chemistry27:10 Be prepared with who you marry and their career consumes them29:00 How long does it take to know what this person is really like?31:10 Traditional wife34:59 Lorii’s one master dating tip for singlesLorii Abela is a private matchmaker serving accomplished leaders ready for long-termpartnership built on alignment and discernment. With a background in relationshipdynamics and behavioral frameworks, she brings a structured and intentional approachto modern partner selection.What is the long-term cost of choosing someone who isn’t aligned with you?What does compatibility look like once the chemistry settles?Why can someone be very successful in life but feel stuck in love?How do culture and family expectations influence compatibility in Asian relationships?When is someone truly ready for a lasting partnership?Website: https://loriiabela.com/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loriiabelaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MatchmakerLoriiInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/loriiabela/X: https://x.com/MatchmakerLoriiYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@matchmakerloriiTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@loriiabela*AMAZON BEST SELLER* Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_FKWJGPCVXW3XG8D98EWB Call May for help: (310) 867-0851Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileEmail: may@twoasianmatchmakers.comWebsite: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York. May’s insights and work have been featured in major media outlets including Cosmopolitan, Los Angeles Magazine, Thrillist, and Huffington Post.

How To Be More Natural On Dates | Ep 178

In this episode, I sit down with Wayfinder Life Coach Tricia Rose Stone to explore how women can shift their mindset around dating and relationships by changing the inner “lens” through which they see love. We talk about the pressure many women feel when dating, why connection is more of a creative and evolving process than a checklist, and how practicing simple, everyday interactions can build real confidence. Tricia shares practical tools—from easy conversation starters to reframing dating as something lighter and more empowering—while encouraging women to move out of a victim mindset and into one of self-trust and possibility. If dating has ever felt overwhelming or discouraging, this conversation will help you approach it with more clarity, ease, and intention.0:00 Introduction to Tricia Stone3:20 Do women want to do inner work10:00 Women are pressure with dating13:08 Can you really rattle off who you’re seeking?15:22 Dating is creative and learning process17:00 Inexperienced daters need to practice on dates19:15 Tricia’s own open and being present story24:24 “Do I know you?” easy ice breaker26:06 Have some “one” liners ready to go on your phone29:00 Treat every interaction as a friendly interaction, don’t think of it as dating energy32:35 Homework for listeners: practice the skill of being friendly35:00 Switch from thinking you’re a victim to being empoweredTricia Rose Stone is a Wayfinder Life Coach and former optometrist who helps women shift the inner “lens” through which they see love, so dating and relationships feel clearer, calmer, and more aligned. Through her work and her podcast Her New Lens, she guides women through heartbreak, dating fatigue, and major life transitions toward deeper self-trust and connection.https://triciarosestone.com/https://www.youtube.com/@TriciaRoseStonehttps://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/her-new-lens/id1785182807?l=en-GB*AMAZON BEST SELLER* Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_FKWJGPCVXW3XG8D98EWB Call May for help: (310) 867-0851Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileEmail: may@twoasianmatchmakers.comWebsite: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York. May’s insights and work have been featured in major media outlets including Cosmopolitan, Los Angeles Magazine, Thrillist, and Huffington Post, establishing her as a go-to expert in love, dating, and human connection.

The Truth About Modern Dating (From a Matchmaker) | Ep 177

In this episode, I sit down with matchmaker Hayley Hurst, founder of Cohen Gray Connections, to talk about what’s really happening in modern dating and how both men and women can approach dating more effectively today. We dive into what truly matters when it comes to attraction, from job, lifestyle, and values to the often-overlooked importance of presence and communication. Hayley also shares insider strategies for online dating, including the best days to be active, what to avoid on your profile, and how authenticity can be your biggest advantage. Whether you’re navigating dating on your own or working with a matchmaker, this conversation is full of practical insights to help you date with more clarity, confidence, and intention.0:00 Introduction to Hayley Hurst3:50 What are women 50+ are looking for?4:30 Canadian clients come with less of a list6:50 Job title, height and religion still matter7:30 Online dating secrets11:30 Wednesday and Sunday are best online dating days14:10 Being present and have good communication skills is #1 importance21:20 Challenging clients are great if you connect with them and want to succeed22:20 Helping clients using online dating in our matchmaking memberships25:30 We can train them how to do online dating27:50 Don’t talk about what you don’t want on your dating profile28:24 Her husband loved Hayley’s oops and ended up being her authentic selfHayley Hurst is the founder of Cohen Gray Connections, a boutique matchmaking company she launched 1.5 years ago after several years working in the industry with another firm. With a background in high-end retail and client development, she brings a refined, personalized approach to modern matchmaking.A certified professional matchmaker and online dating expert, Hayley blends high-touch service with practical strategy to help singles navigate dating with clarity and confidence. Known for her sharp instincts and warm, honest guidance, she has helped clients build meaningful relationships, including a recent marriage. She believes that every successful match begins with a deep understanding of what someone truly needs.Learn more at www.cohengrayconnections.com, or follow her on Instagram @cohengrayconnections. She is also active on Facebook and LinkedIn under Hayley Hurst.*AMAZON BEST SELLER* Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_FKWJGPCVXW3XG8D98EWB Call May for help: (310) 867-0851Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileEmail: may@twoasianmatchmakers.comWebsite: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York.

How to Be More Attractive Without Trying Harder | Ep 176

In this episode, I sit down with emotional intelligence dating coach Chris Gillis to unpack why so many successful, high-performing men thrive in their careers—but struggle in their dating lives. Chris shares how he helps men bridge that gap by translating connection, attraction, and communication in a way that actually works with women. We talk about moving beyond “nice guy” answers, how to bring more edge and authenticity into conversations, and why emotional intelligence is the real game-changer in dating. From how to approach women and navigate first dates to understanding what women really respond to, this conversation is full of practical insights for men who are ready to feel more confident, connected, and successful in love.0:00 Introduction to Chris Gillis2:37 To be nerdy but able to express and connect with women3:30 He helps men makes sense of dating, translate to the men8:34 Instead of “nice guy” answers, how to paint an edgier picture14:24 How to answer a woman on a date with the WHY, not a boring reply18:20 Why successful men crush their jobs but not dating life?21:10 Women should give men more grace23:10 Emotional Intelligence and men threading info in conversation25:53 How long should a first date be?30:17 One of Chris’ dating modules: Men asking a real woman for live help, flirting, etc.32:07 How should a man approach a woman?36:55 Do you suggest men to do online dating?42:20 Men are scared and that’s a good thingChris Gillis is an emotional intelligence dating coach for high-performing, kind-hearted men who struggle to find and attract high-quality partners. He’s the founder of Consultant Chris Coaching and the Emotional Intelligence Dating Academy, where he’s helped hundreds of men shift from lonely and overlooked to confident and connected in love.Instagram: http://instagram.com/consultantchris (http://instagram.com/consultantchris)LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/consultantchris/ (https://www.linkedin.com/in/consultantchris/)YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ConsultantChris/ (https://www.youtube.com/@ConsultantChris/)Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556009036057TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ConsultantChris (https://www.tiktok.com/@ConsultantChris)Skool: http://www.skool.com/consultantchris (http://www.skool.com/consultantchris)Website: http://www.consultantchris.com (http://www.consultantchris.com)*AMAZON BEST SELLER* Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_FKWJGPCVXW3XG8D98EWB Call May for help: (310) 867-0851Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileEmail: may@twoasianmatchmakers.comWebsite: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York.