The Cost of Believing the Wrong Story About Yourself

Never Marry Someone Until You've Done These Three Things

Erika is joined by her husband Chris for an honest, funny, and surprisingly tender look at the things they actually fight about. It starts with the road trip argument she will never let him live down, a story involving missing coordinates and a bag of corn nuts, and survives a real-time fire alarm going off mid-recording, dogs and all. From there it moves into the parts of marriage most people keep behind closed doors. They talk about being in their second marriages, the words you can never take back, why Erika used to break pencils when she felt angry, and the small dismissive comment that quietly hurt her for far longer than Chris ever realized. At its center is the breakthrough conversation where Erika finally admitted she felt like the person she respects most did not think she was smart, and what naming that out loud changed. Part comedy, part marriage clinic, this is a real conversation about communication, blind spots, self-awareness, and what it looks like to keep choosing each other on purpose. Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/ [https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/] Check out her website: https://erikasinner.org/ [https://erikasinner.org/] Buy her book, Pets Are Family: https://erikasinner.org/book [https://erikasinner.org/book] Check out TinySuperheroes: https://tinysuperheroes.com/ [https://tinysuperheroes.com/] 00:00 Welcome to the show 00:44 The three things to do before you marry someone 02:38 The road trip, the coordinates, and the corn nuts 06:33 Growing up in a house where no one raised their voice 08:26 Why Erika used to break pencils 11:25 The words you can never take back 15:27 When "no" was the default answer 17:16 The comment that actually hurt my feelings 20:40 The mind blown moment: know how you fight 24:00 This week's challenge

Evidence: How to Stop Forgetting Who You Are

Erika was standing on Fifth Avenue in the dead of winter, staring at her book in the Barnes and Noble window in her red dress and sparkly Manolos, and all she could feel was imposter syndrome. Not joy. Not pride. Fear. In this episode, the third and final part of her framework, she's sitting with that story again and unpacking why evidence is the antidote to that sneaky voice that says you don't belong here. After identity and systems, evidence is where it all starts to click. It's the proof you point to when imposter syndrome gets loud. Erika shares the two systems she's used for years to build her own proof: her "Your Awesome" folder, which she's kept since she was 21, and her "You Are Loved" album on her phone. None of this is about bragging. It's about rewiring your brain to stop ignoring the worthiness that's always been there. By the end, she has a challenge for you, one text message that could become evidence document number one in your own folder. Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/ [https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/] Check out her website: https://erikasinner.org/ [https://erikasinner.org/] Buy her book, Pets Are Family: https://erikasinner.org/book [https://erikasinner.org/book] Check out TinySuperheroes: https://tinysuperheroes.com/ [https://tinysuperheroes.com/] 0:46 - The Barnes and Noble window on Fifth Avenue  1:18 - Welcome to part three of the framework: evidence  2:09 - What evidence actually is, and why it matters  2:36 - The sparkly Manolos and the moment that should have felt different  3:30 - "Does my book belong here?" The imposter syndrome spiral 5:16 - Evidence isn't bragging, it's proof  6:38 - The "Your Awesome" folder I've kept since I was 21  8:08 - The "You Are Loved" pick me up album on my phone  8:45 - The DM from a psychiatrist that stayed with me  11:17 - Why evidence is the antidote to imposter syndrome  11:56 - Your challenge this week  12:19 - The one text that becomes your evidence document number one

What Holds You Together on the Days You Don't Want To

Belief wobbles. Energy runs out. Systems are what carry you through anyway. In this episode, Erika breaks down the second pillar of the Blow Your Mind framework: systems. Not the rigid, overwhelming kind, but the practices, habits, and sacred lines that quietly reinforce who you've decided to become. From 6am workouts after midnight flights to transcendental meditation and color-coded calendars, Erika shares the real rituals that hold her life together when belief wobbles and energy runs low. If you've been waiting for inspiration to change your life, this is your sign that you don't need it. You just need a structure built for the future version of you. Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/ [https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/] Check out her website: https://erikasinner.org/ [https://erikasinner.org/] Buy her book, Pets Are Family: https://erikasinner.org/book [https://erikasinner.org/book] Check out TinySuperheroes: https://tinysuperheroes.com/ [https://tinysuperheroes.com/] 00:00, Welcome back 00:44, Landing at midnight, 6am trainer still showing up 01:33, Why systems matter: mental health, TinySuperheroes, bone health 01:58, What systems actually are: practices, habits, standards 02:28, Why motivation isn't enough (and what replaces it) 03:39, How following through builds self-trust 04:31, Morning rituals that remind you who you are 05:39, "Future you needs a structure that past you never built" 07:46, Growing up on food stamps and learning you can decide who you become 09:38, The challenge: build your systems

The Cost of Believing the Wrong Story About Yourself

In this raw and deeply personal episode, Erika opens up about the stories we believe about ourselves that aren't actually true. Sharing her experience as a sexual abuse survivor within her own family, the pain of her father leaving, and the years of unworthiness that followed, she introduces the first part of the Blow Your Mind framework: identity. Because you cannot build the life you want from the identity of the life you survived. Erika unpacks how identity is shaped by the experiences we've lived through, why affirmations on sticky notes don't work, and what it actually takes to decide who you're becoming. From naming the false stories you've been carrying to making real identity shifts that build self-trust, this episode is an invitation to stop surviving as someone else's version of you and start choosing yourself on purpose. Follow Erika on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/] Check out her website: ⁠https://erikasinner.org/⁠ [https://erikasinner.org/] Buy her book, Pets Are Family: ⁠https://erikasinner.org/book⁠ [https://erikasinner.org/book] Check out TinySuperheroes: ⁠https://tinysuperheroes.com/ [https://tinysuperheroes.com/] 00:00 Welcome to Blow Your Mind  00:42 My story 02:19 Introducing the identity framework  03:30 The stories that shaped my unworthiness  04:27 When your own dad doesn't choose you  05:42 The stories you didn't consciously choose  06:34 Why survival identity has a ceiling 07:31 How to actually shift your identity  09:22 The morning ritual that changed everything  11:14 You can't build a new life from a survived identity  12:28 Mind blown moment, you get to decide

The ER Visit That Taught Me to Choose Myself

Erika thought she was having a brain bleed. She was actually having a panic attack, in an ER in Boston, with her client sitting next to her. She'd been running three full-time jobs out of one body, sleeping four hours a night, and gaslighting herself every time her body tried to warn her. In this episode, Chris joins Erika to talk about the moments most leaders never share. The ER visits. The denial. The cost of building something extraordinary while quietly falling apart. Chris shares what it was like to watch it happen up close, how it shifted his old-school views on mental health, and what changed once Erika finally started choosing herself. This one is honest, a little funny (Friday night rituals included), and a real look at what partnership, self-trust, and sustainable success actually require. Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/ [https://www.instagram.com/erika_sinner/] Check out her website: https://erikasinner.org/ [https://erikasinner.org/] Buy her book, Pets Are Family: https://erikasinner.org/book [https://erikasinner.org/book] Check out TinySuperheroes: https://tinysuperheroes.com/ [https://tinysuperheroes.com/] 00:00 Welcome to Blow Your Mind  01:00 The ER visit that changed everything  04:00 The second panic attack and the breaking point  06:40 Running three full-time jobs at once  08:55 Mind blown moment, choosing yourself doesn't have to be complicated  12:00 Reconnecting as partners  16:30 Friday night rituals  17:20 The challenge