04: What I Was Missing When I Set My Goals (And How Everything Changed)

08: Coming Home to Yourself: Self-Trust, Sacred Rage & Redefining Success with Emily Reuschel

In this conversation, Chelsey sits down with Emily Reuschel—Soul Expansion Coach and host of the Wild & Waking podcast—for a deep, honest exploration of what it really looks like to unlearn hustle culture and come back to yourself. Emily shares her journey from postpartum burnout and “doing everything right” to questioning everything she thought she wanted. Together, they unpack the identity unraveling that happens when achievement no longer feels fulfilling—and what it takes to rebuild self-trust from the ground up. This episode goes beyond surface-level productivity and into the real work: healing your relationship with yourself, reclaiming your power, and learning how to hold both ambition and alignment at the same time. What We Talk About: * The moment everything starts to feel off—even when life looks “successful” * How high-achieving women disconnect from themselves (and why it’s so common) * The shift from hustle, achievement, and external validation to self-trust and internal authority * Why confidence isn’t something you “get”—and what actually builds it * Tools and unexpected entry points for self-discovery (including identity, expression, and curiosity) * Reconnecting with your body, cycles, and natural rhythms instead of forcing constant output * The messy, nonlinear process of redefining who you are and what you want * Sacred rage: where it comes from and how to channel it into power instead of burnout * The difference between destructive anger and purposeful, transformative fire * What it means to truly “come home” to yourself Key Takeaways: * You can outgrow the goals you once chased—and that doesn’t mean something is wrong * Self-trust is built through experience, not perfection * Your body and energy are not problems to fix—they’re information to work with * Anger can be a powerful signal for change when it’s channeled intentionally * There is no final “arrival”—this is an ongoing, evolving relationship with yourself About Emily: Emily Reuschel is a Soul Expansion Coach for Wild & Waking Women, helping leaders, dreamers, and changemakers reconnect with their truth and step into embodied leadership. Through her work, she guides women out of performative survival and into aligned, unapologetic expression. Connect with Emily: Wild & Waking Guidebook: https://emilyreuschel.myflodesk.com/wildwakingguidebook [https://emilyreuschel.myflodesk.com/wildwakingguidebook] Website: emilyreuschel.com [https://www.emilyreuschel.com/] Instagram: instagram.com/emilyreuschel [https://www.instagram.com/emilyreuschel/] Threads: https://www.threads.com/@emilyreuschel [https://www.threads.com/@emilyreuschel ] Wild & Waking Podcast: https://pod.link/1635683500 [https://pod.link/1635683500] Connect with Chelsey: Follow me on Instagram @chelseyncoaching [https://www.instagram.com/chelseyncoaching/] for behind-the-scenes experiments, cosmic insights, and honest conversations about building a life that works with your energy—not against it.

07: The 100% Mentality — How Perfectionism Follows High-Achieving Women

In this episode, I share the story of bringing home a 93 on a test — and being asked why it wasn’t a 100. That moment shaped how I approach achievement, productivity, and pressure to this day. While that mindset made me ambitious and self-directed, it also made it hard to recognize when life itself is already hard. WHAT I TALK ABOUT 1. How perfectionism shows up as all-or-nothing thinking 2. Why high-achieving women struggle to give themselves grace 3. The downside of constantly raising the bar mid-effort 4. How hard seasons get mislabeled as personal failures 5. Why “doing okay” during a hard season is actually success THE SHIFT: GOOD, BETTER, BEST Instead of perfect or fail, I now use a Good, Better, Best approach: 1. Good = something 2. Better = progress 3. Best = full capacity This keeps momentum without burnout and removes the pass/fail dynamic from my day. You don’t need to lower your ambition. You need systems that adapt to real life. If this resonates, the Cosmic Productivity Club is where we build those systems together. Cosmic Productivity Club is a monthly membership for people who are done forcing themselves into productivity systems that don’t fit their real lives. Inside, we use astrology, Human Design, and practical routines to help you build personalized systems that reduce to-do list noise and make your days feel more intentional, flexible, and sustainable. Each month includes live coaching, live trainings, and tools to help you align your goals with your actual energy, responsibilities, and season of life—so you can make meaningful progress without burning out or starting over every Monday. Join here: https://chelseynewmyer.com/cosmicproductivityclub CONNECT WITH ME Follow me on Instagram @chelseyncoaching [https://www.instagram.com/chelseyncoaching/] for behind-the-scenes experiments, cosmic insights, and honest conversations about building a life that works with your energy—not against it.

06: Quieting the To-Do List Noise: 3 Ways to Reclaim Your Energy

I’m talking about what I call “to-do list noise”—the constant mental scroll of everything that needs to be done, which can follow you even when you’re trying to rest or focus. I share where this comes from for me (good girl perfectionism, achievement culture, eldest daughter responsibility, and millennial pressure) and how modern life, technology, and social media can amplify the overwhelm. In this episode, I break down: What is “To‑Do List Noise” 1. Where the Noise Comes From: Good Girl Conditioning & Never-Ending Chores 2. What To‑Do List Noise Really Is (and Why You Don’t Need a Better Planner) 3. 3 Tips to Quiet the Noise Cosmic Productivity Club is a monthly membership for people who are done forcing themselves into productivity systems that don’t fit their real lives. Inside, we use astrology, Human Design, and practical routines to help you build personalized systems that reduce to-do list noise and make your days feel more intentional, flexible, and sustainable. Each month includes live coaching, live trainings, and tools to help you align your goals with your actual energy, responsibilities, and season of life—so you can make meaningful progress without burning out or starting over every Monday. Join here: https://chelseynewmyer.com/cosmicproductivityclub CONNECT WITH ME Follow me on Instagram @chelseyncoaching [https://www.instagram.com/chelseyncoaching/] for behind-the-scenes experiments, cosmic insights, and honest conversations about building a life that works with your energy—not against it.

05: How I Use My Birth Chart to Design my Productivity Strategy

If you’ve ever felt like certain routines, planners, or “perfect systems” should work for you but somehow never stick… this episode will feel like a big exhale. In the last year, I realized why so many of my earlier routines failed and why others clicked instantly—and it all ties back to my Leo Sun, Libra Rising, and Pisces Moon. In this episode, I break down: * Why personalized productivity matters- So many routines failed for me because they weren’t aligned with who I am. Your birth chart doesn’t tell you what task app to use—but it does tell you the energy you need in your systems. * How my Leo Sun shapes my routines - I thrive when I start my day creatively, feel “put together,” and build fun and joy into my mornings. Leo energy loves momentum and visibility—so I let that lead. * How my Libra Rising influences my workflow - I need beauty, harmony, and a clean workspace to focus. Planning sessions are an aesthetic moment, and collaboration fuels me. * How my Pisces Moon changed everything - This sign explained why rigid systems burn me out. I need softness, flexibility, emotional space, and rituals that help me regulate when I’m overwhelmed. * Using all three to shape my 9–5 and home life - I show up confidently as a working mom, build space into my schedule, and design routines that support—not drain—my energy. Your Sun, Moon, and Rising reveal how you work best. When you align your routines with who you are, productivity becomes less about discipline and more about ease. FREE WORKSHOP! I’m hosting The 'I Have Kids and a Job' Goal-Setting Workshop [https://chelseynewmyer.myflodesk.com/goals2025] on December 10 at 1 PM Eastern—all about setting goals that fit your actual life. Click the link to join! I can't wait to see you there! Other Resources 💫 Grab your free Time Freedom Experiment to start redesigning your days, one aligned experiment at a time → The Aligned Routine Experiment Log [https://chelseynewmyer.myflodesk.com/mutoj367wj]: If you’ve ever copied a routine from Instagram, a podcast, or that one influencer who swears by 5 AM wake-ups… and then wondered why give up after two days and feel like an undisciplined failure, you’re not alone. That’s exactly why I created the Aligned Routine Experiment Log—a “lab notebook” to help you stop guessing and start running your own personalized productivity experiment to create personalized routines that work for you. CONNECT WITH ME Follow me on Instagram @chelseyncoaching [https://www.instagram.com/chelseyncoaching/] for behind-the-scenes experiments, cosmic insights, and honest conversations about building a life that works with your energy—not against it.

04: What I Was Missing When I Set My Goals (And How Everything Changed)

Before I ever understood alignment, identity, or behavioral change science, I used to set 19 goals for 2019, 18 goals for 2018—vision boards, planners, personal retreats, the works. I chased the fantasy woman who would magically appear on January 1st: perfectly healthy, perfectly disciplined, perfectly productive. That woman never showed up. And now I know why: I never had a “why,” and I never made those goals part of my identity. In this episode, I break down: * Why “New Year, New You” is usually just New Year, Same Pressure * How setting 10+ goals with no deeper meaning kept me stuck in burnout * What finally clicked for me when I looked back at the goals I did achieve (engineering degree, MBA, half marathons, reading hundreds of books) * How identity—not willpower—is what makes habits stick * Why your values must guide your goals, or they’ll feel like punishment * The danger of choosing goals because they “sound good” online * How to root your goals in who you truly are (not who you think you should be) * Why I created my SPEAK framework for aligned goal setting * A real example from my life: stepping into the identity of business owner instead of hiding it KEY TAKEAWAYS * You don’t need January 1st to make a change—start when it feels aligned. * Your goals must connect to who you want to become, not what you think will look impressive. * Identity beats discipline every time. * Values + identity = sustainable, soul-aligned goals. * The best goals feel natural to talk about, learn about, and take action on. * Your goals should make you emotional—in the best way. CONNECT WITH ME Follow me on Instagram @chelseyncoaching [https://www.instagram.com/chelseyncoaching/] for behind-the-scenes experiments, cosmic insights, and honest conversations about building a life that works with your energy—not against it. 💫 Grab your free Time Freedom Experiment to start redesigning your days, one aligned experiment at a time → The Aligned Routine Experiment Log [https://chelseynewmyer.myflodesk.com/mutoj367wj]: If you’ve ever copied a routine from Instagram, a podcast, or that one influencer who swears by 5 AM wake-ups… and then wondered why give up after two days and feel like an undisciplined failure, you’re not alone. That’s exactly why I created the Aligned Routine Experiment Log—a “lab notebook” to help you stop guessing and start running your own personalized productivity experiment to create personalized routines that work for you.