3 Things I Wish I Started in My 20s (I Learned the Hard Way)

How to Stop Letting Other People’s Opinions Control You

In this episode of The Fuck It Shift, Adam Ross breaks down why so many people feel controlled by the opinions of others—and how to finally take that power back. Whether it’s negative comments online, expectations from friends and family, or the pressure to constantly please others, Adam explains how easy it is to lose yourself trying to live up to what everyone else wants. He challenges the idea that every opinion deserves your attention, pointing out that most criticism has very little to do with you—and everything to do with the person giving it. At the same time, he also highlights the importance of being honest with yourself when feedback is actually valid, and using it as a tool for growth instead of something to take personally. The conversation dives into the trap of people-pleasing, why you can never truly satisfy everyone, and how constantly putting others first will eventually leave you drained and disconnected from what actually matters. Adam also shares the importance of shrinking your circle—focusing on the people who truly matter, whose opinions align with your values, and who actually play a role in your life. This episode is a reminder that you don’t need approval to move forward—and that learning to choose yourself is one of the most powerful shifts you can make. Socials: IG: @adamross_online [https://www.instagram.com/adamross_online] TikTok: @adamross_online [https://www.tiktok.com/@adamross_online] LinkedIn: Adam Ross [https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-ross-67505076/]

The Truth About Luck That Nobody Wants to Hear

In this episode of The Fuck It Shift, Adam Ross breaks down the idea of luck—and why most people completely misunderstand it. We often credit success to being “lucky” and failure to being “unlucky,” but Adam challenges that belief, explaining that what we call luck is usually the result of preparation, habits, and intentional actions repeated over time. He shares how small daily rituals—whether it’s how you think, how you act, or how you prepare—quietly position you to recognize and act on opportunities when they show up. What looks like luck from the outside is often just consistency and readiness behind the scenes. The conversation also explores how labeling yourself as “unlucky” can become a way to avoid accountability. Adam explains why it’s easier to blame circumstances than to take ownership of the decisions and patterns that led you there—and how that mindset keeps people stuck. He also reflects on one of the hardest lessons he’s learned: nobody is coming to save you. Real change only begins when you stop waiting and take responsibility for your life, your choices, and the direction you want to go. Socials: IG: @adamross_online [https://www.instagram.com/adamross_online] TikTok: @adamross_online [https://www.tiktok.com/@adamross_online] LinkedIn: Adam Ross [https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-ross-67505076/]

3 Things I Wish I Started in My 20s (I Learned the Hard Way)

In this episode of The Fuck It Shift, Adam Ross shares three things he wishes he started in his 20s—and why learning them later in life came at a cost. From investing and health to what you feed your mind, Adam breaks down how small, consistent decisions made early can completely change the trajectory of your life. He challenges the belief that you need a high income to build wealth, explaining instead why understanding how to invest—even with less—is what actually creates long-term freedom. The conversation also dives into the importance of treating your body like an asset, not an afterthought. Adam explains why the habits you build around food, energy, and discipline in your 20s show up later in ways you can’t undo—no matter how much money you make. He also highlights something most people overlook: what you’re feeding your brain every single day. From social media to conversations, Adam explains how being intentional with your mental input can shape your beliefs, your standards, and ultimately your results. This episode is a reminder that success isn’t built through short bursts of effort or “grinding”—it’s built through long-term, intentional decisions repeated over time. Socials: IG: @adamross_online [https://www.instagram.com/adamross_online] TikTok: @adamross_online [https://www.tiktok.com/@adamross_online] LinkedIn: Adam Ross [https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-ross-67505076/]

Why Affirmations Don’t Work… For You

In this episode of The Fuck It Shift, Adam Ross breaks down why so many people believe affirmations don’t work—and why that belief might be the exact thing holding them back. Most people dismiss positive self-talk because they don’t see immediate results. But Adam challenges that thinking, explaining that the real issue isn’t affirmations themselves—it’s the years of negative self-talk that have been running in the background, shaping your beliefs, identity, and decisions. He shares how your inner voice is often built over decades, starting in childhood, influenced by parents, environments, and experiences that slowly condition you to play it safe, think small, and doubt yourself. The conversation explores how negative thinking becomes comfortable, why your brain is wired to protect you (even if it holds you back), and how most people unknowingly reinforce the very mindset they say they want to change. Adam also explains that affirmations aren’t a quick fix—they’re a long-term process of reprogramming the way you speak to yourself. And before you can even begin to think positively, you have to get honest about the negative patterns that are already there. He shares a simple but powerful exercise to expose your inner dialogue, and why identifying those thoughts is the first real step toward changing them. Socials: IG: @adamross_online [https://www.instagram.com/adamross_online] TikTok: @adamross_online [https://www.tiktok.com/@adamross_online] LinkedIn: Adam Ross [https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-ross-67505076/]

Why 3 Out of 10 Makes You Elite (In Life Too)

In this episode of The Fuck It Shift, Adam Ross breaks down a simple idea that goes against everything we’ve been taught: you don’t need to win all the time to be successful—you just need to win enough. Using the concept of “3 out of 10,” Adam explains how some of the best performers in the world are considered elite while only succeeding a fraction of the time. From sports to business to everyday life, he challenges the belief that success is about perfection—and shows why it’s actually built on repeated failure. After losing everything at one point in his life, Adam shares how his relationship with failure completely changed. What once felt like the end became something he now sees as feedback—data that helps refine the next move instead of something that defines the outcome. The conversation also explores why so many people stay stuck chasing comfort, avoiding risk, and tying their self-worth to outcomes like grades, results, or external validation. Adam unpacks the idea that people aren’t truly afraid of failing—they’re often afraid of what happens if they succeed and have to live up to it. He also offers a clear definition of what it means to lose, and why in his view, the only real failure is breaking the commitments you make to yourself. Socials: IG: @adamross_online [https://www.instagram.com/adamross_online] TikTok: @adamross_online [https://www.tiktok.com/@adamross_online] LinkedIn: Adam Ross [https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-ross-67505076/]