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The Toxic Series Pt. 2: Why You’re Attracted to Toxic People (It’s Not Random).

19 min · 2 de abr de 2026
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In this episode, Betty G. breaks down the psychology behind why you’re drawn to inconsistent, avoidant, or unhealthy relationships. From attachment styles and trauma bonding to nervous system conditioning, you’ll learn why “chemistry” can feel so intense—and why it’s often a red flag. We explore how your past experiences shape your relationship patterns, why toxic relationships can feel addictive, and what keeps you stuck even when you know better. If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I keep choosing the same person in a different body?”—this episode will give you the clarity and insight to start breaking the cycle. * Why you’re attracted to toxic or emotionally unavailable people * How attachment styles influence dating patterns * What trauma bonds are and why they feel addictive * The difference between chemistry and emotional activation Follow on Instagram: The Group Chat Therapist Podcast [https://www.instagram.com/thegroupchattherapistpod] Books:  * The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk * Attachment Theory by Thais Gibson References: Dutton, D. G., & Painter, S. (1981). Traumatic bonding: The development of emotional attachments in battered women and other relationships of intermittent abuse. Victimology: An International Journal, 6(1), 139–155. McDonald, M. C. (2023, October). What is a trauma bond? Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-hope-circuit/202310/what-is-a-trauma-bond [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-hope-circuit/202310/what-is-a-trauma-bond]

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In this episode, Betty G. breaks down the psychology behind why you’re drawn to inconsistent, avoidant, or unhealthy relationships. From attachment styles and trauma bonding to nervous system conditioning, you’ll learn why “chemistry” can feel so intense—and why it’s often a red flag. We explore how your past experiences shape your relationship patterns, why toxic relationships can feel addictive, and what keeps you stuck even when you know better. If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I keep choosing the same person in a different body?”—this episode will give you the clarity and insight to start breaking the cycle. * Why you’re attracted to toxic or emotionally unavailable people * How attachment styles influence dating patterns * What trauma bonds are and why they feel addictive * The difference between chemistry and emotional activation Follow on Instagram: The Group Chat Therapist Podcast [https://www.instagram.com/thegroupchattherapistpod] Books:  * The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk * Attachment Theory by Thais Gibson References: Dutton, D. G., & Painter, S. (1981). Traumatic bonding: The development of emotional attachments in battered women and other relationships of intermittent abuse. Victimology: An International Journal, 6(1), 139–155. McDonald, M. C. (2023, October). What is a trauma bond? Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-hope-circuit/202310/what-is-a-trauma-bond [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-hope-circuit/202310/what-is-a-trauma-bond]

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