The Harlequin Room - En Suite w/ Aske Kjær

The Harlequin Room - En Suite w/ Aske Kjær

In this episode of The Harlequin Room, Aske Kjaer and I talk about not knowing what you’re doing with your life and why that might be the most honest starting point for any creative. We explore the messy, non-linear reality of the creative journey through conversation, personal reflection, and unsolicited (possibly bad) advice. Aske is a close friend and a multi-disciplinary creative. The conversation looks at how creativity actually unfolds in real life; across comedy, career changes, identity, and moving countries, and how uncertainty, self-doubt, and lack of direction show up even when you’re “doing the thing.” It’s about what it means to build something without a blueprint, especially as a creative balancing ambition, confusion, and the quiet pressure to figure it out. This episode covers: What a real creative path looks like (spoiler: not linear, not planned) The reality of trying multiple creative identities and careers How environment (London vs Copenhagen) shapes creative growth The uncomfortable truth that nobody really knows what they’re doing and that they just commit anyway It’s a reflective, comedic, coffee-table conversation – not a hustle sermon and not therapy. This episode is for: Creatives who feel lost, late, or quietly ambitious Artists balancing passion with day jobs or multiple identities Anyone dealing with uncertainty, impostor syndrome, or lack of direction People who want honesty without pretending there’s a perfect system As always, there’s humour, philosophical detours, and unsolicited advice... This week’s recommendation from Aske is: On Becoming a Person by Carl Rogers And my recommendation on top of that is: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield It's a little less gentle and more confrontational but useful if you’re stuck waiting to feel ready. If you enjoyed this episode, follow or subscribe wherever you’re listening. And if you want to stay in the room between episodes, sign up to the newsletter for extra thoughts, updates on shows and projects, and things that don’t make it into the podcast.Linktr.ee/IraSylvester 🎧 New episodes every three weeks. Get full access to Ira Sylvester's Message to the Masses at irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe [https://irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Ep.4 - How To Make Work Easy

In this episode of The Harlequin Room, I talk about motivation — why it keeps failing you and what to do when you just can’t start. This week I explore motivation, procrastination, and ADHD through personal experience, reflection, and unsolicited (possibly bad) advice. The conversation looks at why starting tasks feels impossible, how dopamine and attention actually drive behaviour, and why traditional productivity advice breaks down for creative people. It reframes motivation not as discipline or willpower, but as a system of managing attention, emotion, and environment — especially for those dealing with anxiety, burnout, and inconsistent focus. This episode covers: • Why ADHD brains struggle with starting, prioritising, and emotional regulation • How dopamine loops, cravings, and attention hijacking actually work • Practical tools like RAIN mindfulness, the 2-minute rule, and the 5-second rule • How to use time blocking, chunking, and the 1-2-3 rule to reduce overwhelm • The Eisenhower Matrix for deciding what actually matters • Why removing friction and designing your environment matters more than willpower • The uncomfortable truth that you don’t need more motivation — you need fewer barriers It’s a reflective, comedic, coffee-table conversation — not a hustle sermon and not therapy. This episode is for: • Creatives who feel paralysed by procrastination or inconsistency • People with ADHD (diagnosed or not) who struggle to start and finish tasks • Artists balancing creative work with real life responsibilities • Anyone who feels capable of more but can’t seem to access it consistently As always, there’s humour, philosophical detours, and unsolicited advice — This week’s book/podcast suggestion is: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield You can find it here -> https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/ plus a reminder that you don’t need motivation to begin. You need a smaller first step. If you enjoyed this episode, follow or subscribe wherever you’re listening. If you want to stay in the room between episodes, sign up to the newsletter for extra thoughts, updates on shows and projects, and things that don’t make it into the podcast. Linktr.ee/IraSylvester 🎧 New episodes every three weeks. Get full access to Ira Sylvester's Message to the Masses at irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe [https://irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Ep. 3 – Goal Setting & Bad Metrics

Many well-intentioned and aspirational goals are quietly killing your motivation, and that's science, not clickbait. In this episode, host Ira Sylvester explores goal-setting, motivation, and discipline through personal experience, reflection, and unsolicited (possibly bad) advice. The conversation looks at how poorly designed goals, vague metrics, and dopamine-driven behaviour show up in creative careers, day jobs, ambition, and self-doubt — especially for artists, performers, and people trying to build something without feeling ready. It also breaks down why ADHD brains struggle with starting, prioritising, and staying consistent — and why that’s not a character flaw but a systems problem. This episode covers: • Why outcome-based goals (followers, money, success) destroy motivation • Practical systems like SMART goals, OKRs, and the 12 Week Year • Briefly introduces why motivation isn’t something you have; it’s something you generate through progress This episode is for: • Creatives who feel stuck, inconsistent, or frustrated with their progress • Artists balancing passion with day jobs who can’t seem to stay disciplined • Anyone dealing with burnout, procrastination, self-doubt, or lack of direction • People who want practical systems for getting things done without pretending there’s a perfect system As always, there’s humour, philosophical detours, and unsolicited advice Recommendation: This week’s book/podcast suggestion is: Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us You can find it here → https://www.danpink.com/books/drive/ plus a reminder that YOU DON’T NEED CLARITY TO BEGIN, YOU NEED MOVEMENT. If you enjoyed this episode, follow or subscribe wherever you’re listening! And if you want to stay in the room between episodes; Sign up to the newsletter for extra thoughts, updates on shows and projects, and things that don’t make it into the podcast. 🎧 New episodes every three weeks. Follow me on everything else → Linktr.ee/IraSylvester Get full access to Ira Sylvester's Message to the Masses at irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe [https://irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Ep. 2 - Becoming and Being A Creative

In this episode of The Harlequin Room, I talk about what it actually means to be a creative — and the difference between having a creative mindset and having a creative career. In this episode, host Ira Sylvester explores the question “What is a creative?” through personal experience, philosophical reflection, and unsolicited (possibly bad) advice. The conversation looks at the tension between identity and profession, why creativity is often confused with job titles, and how capitalism, self-doubt, and external expectations shape the way we think about creative work — especially for artists, performers, and anyone trying to build something without feeling fully established. This episode covers: The difference between creative as a mindset vs creative as a career Why your creative interests are about pleasure points, not job titles How to find fulfilment even if creativity isn’t your profession The uncomfortable truth about time, discipline, and whether you actually want the life you say you want It’s a reflective, comedic, coffee-table conversation — not a hustle sermon and not therapy. This episode is for: Creatives who feel lost, late, or unsure if they’re “legit” Artists balancing passion with day jobs or uncertain career paths Anyone questioning whether they need to monetise their creativity People who want honesty about ambition, identity, and creative life without pretending there’s a perfect system As always, there’s humour, philosophical detours, and unsolicited advice. This week’s idea: The reward for creative work is the work itself — the license to create has to come from you. If you enjoyed this episode, follow or subscribe wherever you’re listening. And if you want to stay in the room between episodes, sign up to the newsletter for extra thoughts, updates on shows and projects, and things that don’t make it into the podcast. Linktr.ee/IraSylvester [http://linktr.ee/IraSylvester] If you’re interested in signing up for the Routes In x Soho House programme you can find out how through the above link. 🎧 New episodes every three weeks. Get full access to Ira Sylvester's Message to the Masses at irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe [https://irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

En Suite with Tim ford — Taking the Leap

In this episode of The Harlequin Room, I’m joined by comedian Tim Ford, founder of Nørrebro Comedy Cellar — a small, intimate comedy club in Copenhagen that’s quickly becoming a favourite for both audiences and performers. Tim and I talk about what it means to take creative risks. From teaching to stand-up, from idea to opening a venue, this conversation explores why people are drawn to comedy in the first place — and what keeps us going when things don’t go to plan. We get into: * Why novelty might be one of the quiet reasons we feel alive * What stand-up comedy actually gives us (beyond laughs) * The experience of bombing on stage — and why failure is necessary, not fatal * Advice for performers who want to improve without burning out * Why you shouldn’t quit just because it didn’t go well the first time Towards the end of the episode, we answer a listener question about love, relationships, and uncertainty — which feels especially appropriate with this episode dropping just before Valentine’s Day. This is a conversation about risk, persistence, creativity, and choosing to try — even when success isn’t guaranteed. 🎧 Recommendation from Tim Podcast: Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships A thoughtful, honest podcast exploring modern relationships, communication, and love. Listen here: 🎭 Guest & Venue A huge thank you to Tim Ford (@That.timguy) for being a guest on this newborn project. Be sure to check out Nørrebro Comedy Cellar on Instagram for upcoming shows — including their Valentine’s specials on the 13th & 14th of February. 🙌 Special Shout Outs Liam Duffy — @duffywhenwet Felix Bache — @felixbache Jefferson Bond — @jeffersonbondcomedy Ray Samson — @ray_samson17 Nuutti Pellikka — @nuutti.no Josh Hardie — @standupjoshua Natalie Duggan — @Natalieanneduggan If you enjoyed this episode, follow or subscribe wherever you’re listening. And if you want to stay in the room between episodes, sign up to the newsletter for extra thoughts, updates on shows, and things that don’t make it into the podcast. Links are in the description. 🎙 New episodes every three weeks. Get full access to Ira Sylvester's Message to the Masses at irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe [https://irasylvester.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]