How to not give a fuck

You're Not Less “Qualified” Because of Your Accent

In this episode, I reflect on running a Cantonese peer supervision group for therapists and counsellors navigating multilingual work, cultural identity, and the fear of not sounding “good enough.” We talk about accents, broken language and why imperfection can sometimes create deeper human connection than fluency ever could. Because maybe being a good therapist, parent, or helper isn’t about speaking perfectly. Maybe it’s about being willing to learn, stay curious, make mistakes, and shorten the distance between yourself and another person. Your language skills are not your worth. And fluency is not the same thing as connection

How to not give a fuck

This episode starts from a flick through an old sketchbook from Japan then leads to the therapy room: how we see art-making in children therapy. Somehow all led to the same question: to explore the joy of saying 「唔關我事 m4 gwaan1 ngo5 si6」 Cantonese Classroom： 關我咩事 gwaan1 ngo5 me1 si6 關你咩事 gwaan1 nei5 me1 si6 唔關我事 m4 gwaan1 ngo5 si6

When People Ask, “Why Do You Have Two Names?

When people ask, “Why do you have two names?”, it sounds like a simple question—but it rarely feels simple to answer. This episode explore what it means to constantly explain who you are—and what starts to shift when you realise you don’t have to follow anyone else’s rules but your own. Cantonese Classroom ch 送氣音 (aspirated sounds) is not like the “ch” in church. In English, ch is one sound—like “ch-” in chair. But in Cantonese, this sound is completely different. 👉 “ch” is a 送氣音—an aspirated sound, meaning there’s a strong puff of air. It actually sounds closer to: * “ts” with air not * “ch” (as in church)

Why Being 乖Guaai1 is Stopping You to Shine

What does it really mean to be “乖gwaai1”—the good, quiet, well-behaved child so many of us were praised for? Drawing from my work as a teacher and children’s therapist, I explore how being “good” can sometimes silence curiosity, identity, and voice—and how we might begin to redefine respect, 孝順 haau3 seon6, and what it means to stay true to ourselves without losing connection to where we come from

How to Pick Your Therapist — And Do You Need One Who Looks Like You?

How do you choose the right therapist—and does it matter if they share your cultural background? Cantonese Classroom: therapist 治療師 zi6 liu4 si1，師si1 a suffix for licensed professionals. In this episode, I sit with the question of what really makes therapy “work,” and whether feeling understood is about identity… or something deeper. I also explore what it means for diasporic Cantonese therapists to re-learn Cantonese—not just as a language, but as a way of reconnecting with culture, emotion, and parts of themselves that were never fully spoken.